The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[Cesar R M]

If the PS5 played PS3 games, I'd consider it. Not sure that it does, though.

Probably will only via emulated and very few games.
PS5 will def play PS4. As they are technically a very similar architecture based on AMD cpus.

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

Probably will only via emulated and very few games.
PS5 will def play PS4. As they are technically a very similar architecture based on AMD cpus.

Any news with the part from your cousin?

 

[Cesar R M]

Any news with the part from your cousin?

The parts should be delivered to day to my aunt's house.

 

[donaldtoo]

 

[21stamps]

So I forgot to mention this the other day. Just when you thought the cheer drama was over......(play Jaws soundtrack in your head).

I get a text on Sunday from the coach who was the head of youngests old cheer program. She sent me a video. I clicked on it. The video was a Snapchat video. It had the name of one of the fired coaches on the top left, so I figured she took the video. Anyway the video showed a bunch of the moms I couldn't stand and another coach that was fired. There was a huge bonfire. You know what they were doing? They took the gyms uniforms (the gym where dd used to cheer and the program they destroyed) and threw them into the fire. They were cackling away. I was just stunned. Literally stunned. I sent the video to a couple of others and they were as flabbergasted as I was. Those people are just plain evil. The fact that this coach even posted that on Snapchat and participated in this is just mind-boggling. And there were kids there! What kind of teaching moment was this for those kids??? That there parents are the lowest of lows and morons? No, they see this now as something acceptable.

Some parent who saw the video put a fb post about it admonishing the behavior. Her child was going to go join that program, but has now pulled her kid. Good for her.

Unbelievable. Especially with kids there. Their current gym could terminate the relationship over something like this.
The adults have to know that it’s not ok.. and those little girls seeing their parents behave like that.
Really sad.

 

[donaldtoo]

 

[donaldtoo]

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

Unbelievable. Especially with kids there. Their current gym could terminate the relationship over something like this.
The adults have to know that it’s not ok.. and those little girls seeing their parents behave like that.
Really sad.

Well considering that I know for sure that 2 of the 5 coaches participated, and that they need 60 kids to break even, I don't think they will be removing anyone. You know, it just solidifies the fact that I had these people pegged right. They won't realize what they did was wrong. They obviously do not know the difference between right and wrong. I told the coach from the old gym to contact USASF because those coaches are members and it goes against their code of conduct, at least I think it should.

 

[Songbird76]

So I just woke up, first thought was how much work I have to get done by a certain time this morning. Then I remembered everything.

It's a good thing I'll be busy this morning.

Adding to the list of things I maybe shouldn't have done: About 2AM, unable to sleep, thinking about what I would say if any of them sent me a patronizing message this morning...I blocked mom, bro, & sis on facebook. I blocked bro's number on my phone. Fell asleep while deciding whether to block the other two. My sister has not been involved in this yet.

Over the last several years, my brother and my sister separately stopped talking to me for a few years at a time. It's a go-to skill learned in our house, perfected when your father leaves (they have a different father than I.) Once you learn to block out your father (and you're rewarded for it by your mother) then you can block out anyone. I learned to undo the influences of that house much sooner than my younger siblings started to. I put a lot of work, thought, and intention into not being a product of that house at a relatively young age. When they started blocking out other people along the way, I advised them that was not the way to handle things. It should be reserved for absolutely toxic people, like their father (not mine.) (When they were 12 and 14, a court ordered them to go to counseling with their estranged father. By the end of that extensive counseling, the kids were told by the professional they'd be better off forgetting they have a father, because he has a distorted sense of reality, and a productive relationship is unlikely to occur.)

Anyway, over very minor things, they each blocked me out, various Aunts, cousins, etc. It was just something they did. We were in a rotation.

I feel like it's my turn. And I feel hypocritical about that, having told them it was not appropriate. But in reality, I don't need their consistent drama and nonsense, who isn't talking with whom, mother sucking up to two of us when she's at odds with one of us. Keep that in New Jersey. More likely I will keep them blocked on facebook - they don't need to be that involved in my day to day, and I will take a phone call (except today) but I will keep my distance.

I have held back or toned down my worst thoughts. I wanted to say out loud what my mother has already known for years: Grandma is number one; you're number two. I didn't say it. I wanted to put on the card (with the flowers I sent to the funeral parlor) "Grandma, I love you more than [I love] everyone in this room put together." That's just hurtful for the sake of being hurtful. I'm good at that. It comes from being abused and only able to fight back with words. I ended up sending: "Grandma, you are the best person I have ever known. Always in my corner. Nothing but love. XOXO..."

If you're looking for it, the dig at my mother is still in there, just more subtle. (I think?) Too late now.

There are true things I can say to all three of them that would be much worse. Just gratuitously hurtful. I've made the decision to not do that.

But I can't rule out a good New Jersey f-bomb in response to any outreach this morning. So I thought it best to block the outreach. And yes, it's possible that outreach might have included a live Facetime of the service. I'd still reply with the same f-bomb. I'm damned mad.

And I really have to take a little CBD and get to work now. If I can get my order in by 9-ish, I should be able to pick it up by 10:30-ish on my way to work, and then I don't have to go back and forth to get it in the afternoon. Service is at 10, store opens at 11, second person comes in at 1. I can't cry this morning, my eyelids swell up (since about 15 years ago, I don't know why.)

Thanks for listening. Sorry if some of this was uncomfortable or TMI. I could not post this on FB but had to get it out.

I wish I could give you a hug. I know you are hurting so much right now, and it's so sad that it's your family doing that to you. Funerals often bring out the worst in people, and it sounds like your family is just being petty and cruel. The dig in your message is much more subtle. And in any case, you spoke only the truth. If it upsets them, it just highlights the sentiment and perhaps they should strive to be better people. I hope today brings you some peace!!

 

[Songbird76]

It looks delicious. Sorry the lemon curd didn't come out ok. I use a recipe that doesn't use eggs and is really easy to make. The recipe calls for soy milk, but I always used almond milk or any other plant based milk. Pretty sure that any regular milk will work. https://fatfreevegan.com/blog/2010/03/05/lemon-pie-filling/

Thanks! The curd actually turned out pretty good, it was just hard to make. The Bavarian cream didn't really set as well as it should have and took too long. That's the one we left out of the cake. Thank you! I told E that there were other Curd recipes and we'd have to find one, when she said she was never making lemon curd ever again.

 

[Songbird76]

So I forgot to mention this the other day. Just when you thought the cheer drama was over......(play Jaws soundtrack in your head).

I get a text on Sunday from the coach who was the head of youngests old cheer program. She sent me a video. I clicked on it. The video was a Snapchat video. It had the name of one of the fired coaches on the top left, so I figured she took the video. Anyway the video showed a bunch of the moms I couldn't stand and another coach that was fired. There was a huge bonfire. You know what they were doing? They took the gyms uniforms (the gym where dd used to cheer and the program they destroyed) and threw them into the fire. They were cackling away. I was just stunned. Literally stunned. I sent the video to a couple of others and they were as flabbergasted as I was. Those people are just plain evil. The fact that this coach even posted that on Snapchat and participated in this is just mind-boggling. And there were kids there! What kind of teaching moment was this for those kids??? That there parents are the lowest of lows and morons? No, they see this now as something acceptable.

Some parent who saw the video put a fb post about it admonishing the behavior. Her child was going to go join that program, but has now pulled her kid. Good for her.

When you mentioned cheer drama, my first thought was "Oh no! Not the new program, too!!" I'm so glad that's not the case, but that is really appalling behavior, and to involve the children in their immaturity! I just can't even imagine what those kids are going to be like as adults with that as their example.

 

[21stamps]

Well considering that I know for sure that 2 of the 5 coaches participated, and that they need 60 kids to break even, I don't think they will be removing anyone. You know, it just solidifies the fact that I had these people pegged right. They won't realize what they did was wrong. They obviously do not know the difference between right and wrong. I told the coach from the old gym to contact USASF because those coaches are members and it goes against their code of conduct, at least I think it should.

I’m sure it does. If that Snapchat got out then I would think all would be forced to be removed, even if the gym itself would allow it.

 

[21stamps]

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This was my face for 3 months, still is many times.. as there’s still a lot of people working from home.

I know it’s tough for them too, don’t get me wrong.. but I had to stay off FB for a little while for my own mental health.

 

[Songbird76]

It's cool. Believe me, a lot of us here have messed up families and we get it.

^^^^Amen! I've had to vent a lot about my family. I think we've all been there a time or two that we just have had enough, whether it's a family member, a friend, or just a stupid person. Rant away.

 

[21stamps]

I am dreading DeWine’s press conference tonight.
I have no idea what it will be.. but yesterday was the first time he canceled his update, and moved today’s to the evening.. which really has me feeling nervous.

 

[Songbird76]

Very good words of advice here but I burst out laughing when I read the work doinks! Sorry I haven't hear that in a long time and it needs to be used more!

Yeah, that is the G-rated word in place of something I would rather have said, but it wouldn't have been appropriate or productive.

 

[Cesar R M]

aaand bad news piling up. I'm being laid off on my longest job ever (15+ years) and replaced by a guy with a similar name (lol).
Time to see if I can get a part time job somewhere else. 500$ bucks a month isn't much for the states but for Mexico is it a decent amount to pay additional bills.

 

[Songbird76]

Thank you and someplace deep inside I know that eventually it will, but, in the meantime, all I feel is empty. I know that they have to defend their husbands and that is what they are doing. They aren't saying anything bad about me, but the situation has brought about a room full of eggs that have to be walked on. My daughters aren't mad at me, but it doesn't matter because in order to support their spouses, I am left out of the story. The freeze has been softened from one side, but the other, the one that I am closest to, is still an unwelcoming space for me to be.

I'd say give it time....hopefully things will thaw in time. As you've said, everyone is on edge these days and things get blown up out of proportion. Obviously we don't know what happened, but often, I find that when people are able to step back and view their own behavior, they are embarrassed by it and have a harder time admitting it and apologizing for it because they are ashamed. They project the feelings of judgment on to others when really, they are mad at themselves.

Can you get together with the daughters separately, without the husbands? If it's uncomfortable to be around the husbands, and it's uncomfortable for the girls to be together, take what you can get. Declare yourself Switzerland...neutral territory, and insist that they don't put you in the middle of their feud.

 

[Songbird76]

aaand bad news piling up. I'm being laid off on my longest job ever (15+ years) and replaced by a guy with a similar name (lol).
Time to see if I can get a part time job somewhere else. 500$ bucks a month isn't much for the states but for Mexico is it a decent amount to pay additional bills.

I'm sorry! Why are you being replaced? Can they do that? Can you file a complaint for wrongful termination?

 

[DryerLintFan]

I am dreading DeWine’s press conference tonight.
I have no idea what it will be.. but yesterday was the first time he canceled his update, and moved today’s to the evening.. which really has me feeling nervous.

I might actually tune in tonight. My guess at the least is mandatory masks state wide. I wouldn't be surprised if some sectors shut back down though.