The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

Cesar R M

Well-Known Member
I'm sorry! Why are you being replaced? Can they do that? Can you file a complaint for wrongful termination?
There is no physical contract, I'm like a per month agreement. Since they are a foreign company with no ties to Mexico. There is no way to complain. Anyway, this is technically not wrongful termination per se.

They are on the verge of bankruptcy and they have downsized their company considerably as time went by. I helped them save a few thousands in the years before as their business dwindled. So honestly no surprise.

The new guy probably earns less than me and has similar qualifications. So that helps them and keeps them afloat with opportunity to rebuild.

Now to see if I can find a small job for the weekends that pays close to that.
Funnily, there are so many job offers everywhere.. The problem is, they are in other countries and will have to deal with immigration.
 

21stamps

Well-Known Member
aaand bad news piling up. I'm being laid off on my longest job ever (15+ years) and replaced by a guy with a similar name (lol).
Time to see if I can get a part time job somewhere else. 500$ bucks a month isn't much for the states but for Mexico is it a decent amount to pay additional bills.

I’m so sorry to hear this. I wish you the best in finding something quickly.

I might actually tune in tonight. My guess at the least is mandatory masks state wide. I wouldn't be surprised if some sectors shut back down though.

Is there anywhere that isn’t requiring masks, even without the order? Almost every store I visit has a sign requiring masks.. I know Starbucks has done it nationwide as well. Even the lifeguards at our pool are now wearing masks.

We had reservations at KI today, but didn’t end up going because of Reilly. T has reservations with my sister and her kids on Friday. They’re really doing a great job at distancing, so I hope DeWine leaves them alone.
 

Goofyernmost

Well-Known Member
Can you maybe meet your daughters for lunch or dinner outside of their homes? I remember they had issues with not wanting to expose you to anything so don't know if that is viable. Maybe text them and say, "Hey, how's it going? Things are lonely here with all these other Baby Boomers. Would be nice to talk to a Generation X offspring of mine."
I hope cooler heads prevail and they will see that being angry with you over something petty is not in the best interest of anybody.
This happened a little less then two weeks ago on the 4th of July. And here I thought there wouldn't be any fireworks this year. Right now the one that basically went ballistic is the one that doesn't want to talk to me anymore and appears that he is waiting for an apology from me. Not sure what I am supposed to apologize for, being truthful or walking away. Anyway he owes an apology to my other SiL and me. To be honest that is all it would take for both of us would be a "sorry I just lost control" and all of us would admit that we probably overreacted all around. But, I don't think we will get one from him because he is an everyone else is at fault kind of guy. His wife might put enough pressure on him as far as I am concerned, but I don't think that he will ever extend that to my SiL. He has been on a steady path to self destruction all his life, none of us expect him to change anytime soon. So my family will move just a little further apart. I spent 40 years of my life busting my butt trying to keep my family together only to have it completely undermined by one of the dumbest temper tantrums that I have ever witnessed. Anyway, I'll end this vent now and let everyone know when, and if, things get alright again. Thank you, everyone, for your concern and suggestions.
 
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MinnieM123

Premium Member
There is no physical contract, I'm like a per month agreement. Since they are a foreign company with no ties to Mexico. There is no way to complain. Anyway, this is technically not wrongful termination per se.

They are on the verge of bankruptcy and they have downsized their company considerably as time went by. I helped them save a few thousands in the years before as their business dwindled. So honestly no surprise.

The new guy probably earns less than me and has similar qualifications. So that helps them and keeps them afloat with opportunity to rebuild.

Now to see if I can find a small job for the weekends that pays close to that.
Funnily, there are so many job offers everywhere.. The problem is, they are in other countries and will have to deal with immigration.

Cesar, so sorry to hear about losing your job, through no fault of your own. I hope you can get a new job in a relatively short time. I know you said they're outside your country, but perhaps something local may also open up. Again, very sad to hear about your job. :(
 

MinnieM123

Premium Member
Adding to the list of things I maybe shouldn't have done: About 2AM, unable to sleep, thinking about what I would say if any of them sent me a patronizing message this morning...I blocked mom, bro, & sis on facebook. I blocked bro's number on my phone. Fell asleep while deciding whether to block the other two. My sister has not been involved in this yet.

That was the smartest thing you could have done.

The last thing you need now is drama from any of them.

You take care of you.

And I also admire how you handled the wording on the card with the flowers you sent to the funeral home. You have class.
 

Cesar R M

Well-Known Member
Cesar, so sorry to hear about losing your job, through no fault of your own. I hope you can get a new job in a relatively short time. I know you said they're outside your country, but perhaps something local may also open up. Again, very sad to hear about your job. :(
Unfortunately, that is no option. Everything local is overworked and with stupidly low pays I'm afraid. They would require me to be INSITE working 9 hours for less than 400 USD a month lol.
And I need something small so I can wrangle my main job.
 

MySmallWorldof4

Well-Known Member
aaand bad news piling up. I'm being laid off on my longest job ever (15+ years) and replaced by a guy with a similar name (lol).
Time to see if I can get a part time job somewhere else. 500$ bucks a month isn't much for the states but for Mexico is it a decent amount to pay additional bills.
I am so sorry Cesar. $500 is a lot of money, and I hope that you can find something soon.
 

MinnieM123

Premium Member
This happened a little less then two weeks ago on the 4th of July. And here I thought there wouldn't be any fireworks this year. Right now the one that basically went ballistic is the one that doesn't want to talk to me anymore and appears that he is waiting for an apology from me. Not sure what I am supposed to apologize for, being truthful or walking away. Anyway he owes an apology to my other SiL and me. To be honest that is all it would take for both of us would be a "sorry I just lost control" and all of us would admit that we probably overreacted all around. But, I don't think we will get one from him because he is an everyone else is at fault kind of guy. His wife might put enough pressure on him as far as I am concerned, but I don't think that he will ever extend that to my SiL. He has been on a steady path to self destruction all his life, none of us expect him to change anytime soon. So my family will move just a little further apart. I spent 40 years of my life busting my butt trying to keep my family together only to have is completely undermined by one of the dumbest temper tantrums that I have ever witnessed. Anyway, I'll end this vent now and let everyone know when, and if, things get alright again. Thank you, everyone, for your concern and suggestions.

Perhaps take this with a grain of salt, but somehow I have a hunch that this may blow over, in due course. (That won't help you in the present, of course, as you're reeling from all this now. :( ) But seriously, I think in time, the dust will settle. It may be that a lot of space is needed all around for a while, but that's not forever. No matter what, please don't lose heart. You know what a wonderful person you are. I think we can all attest to that fact, having known you here on the forum for years. No matter what, your daughters love you, and keep faith that a resolution to all this will eventually come, even if it takes some time.
 
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MinnieM123

Premium Member
So I forgot to mention this the other day. Just when you thought the cheer drama was over......(play Jaws soundtrack in your head).

I get a text on Sunday from the coach who was the head of youngests old cheer program. She sent me a video. I clicked on it. The video was a Snapchat video. It had the name of one of the fired coaches on the top left, so I figured she took the video. Anyway the video showed a bunch of the moms I couldn't stand and another coach that was fired. There was a huge bonfire. You know what they were doing? They took the gyms uniforms (the gym where dd used to cheer and the program they destroyed) and threw them into the fire. They were cackling away. I was just stunned. Literally stunned. I sent the video to a couple of others and they were as flabbergasted as I was. Those people are just plain evil. The fact that this coach even posted that on Snapchat and participated in this is just mind-boggling. And there were kids there! What kind of teaching moment was this for those kids??? That there parents are the lowest of lows and morons? No, they see this now as something acceptable.

Some parent who saw the video put a fb post about it admonishing the behavior. Her child was going to go join that program, but has now pulled her kid. Good for her.

Really, what the heck is wrong with that group? They're all lunatics. So glad you and your kid are going to a different location from all of them. Sometimes, things happen for a reason.
 

DryerLintFan

Premium Member
I’m so sorry to hear this. I wish you the best in finding something quickly.



Is there anywhere that isn’t requiring masks, even without the order? Almost every store I visit has a sign requiring masks.. I know Starbucks has done it nationwide as well. Even the lifeguards at our pool are now wearing masks.

We had reservations at KI today, but didn’t end up going because of Reilly. T has reservations with my sister and her kids on Friday. They’re really doing a great job at distancing, so I hope DeWine leaves them alone.

He's in a tough spot. There are hundreds of pictures of packed bars in Columbus and Cleveland and Cincy and elsewhere. Cases continue to climb. I don't know what the answers are. But clearly we need to do something. With no vaccine in sight (and maybe not even likely) and questionable immunity for those infected, IDK. We're still sticking mainly to ourselves, working from home, and masking up wherever we do go. So really anything he does isn't going to impact me personally. But my facebook feed is filled with weddings and play dates and birthday parties and karaoke nights at the bar. So I don't know what to expect, but I was really hoping we could have a middle ground on all the and I just don't see it happening. I really hope it's not another full shut down though.
 

21stamps

Well-Known Member
He's in a tough spot. There are hundreds of pictures of packed bars in Columbus and Cleveland and Cincy and elsewhere. Cases continue to climb. I don't know what the answers are. But clearly we need to do something. With no vaccine in sight (and maybe not even likely) and questionable immunity for those infected, IDK. We're still sticking mainly to ourselves, working from home, and masking up wherever we do go. So really anything he does isn't going to impact me personally. But my facebook feed is filled with weddings and play dates and birthday parties and karaoke nights at the bar. So I don't know what to expect, but I was really hoping we could have a middle ground on all the and I just don't see it happening. I really hope it's not another full shut down though.

A group of soccer parents have been letting our kids hang out, have sleepovers, and obviously training together. I’ve definitely noticed a lot of people having their kids socializing again.

For the most part, at baseball games, the pool, in stores, I see people distancing.. but I’ve heard that bars are an issue.
 

Tony the Tigger

Well-Known Member
On my way to work (first location) I got a text from my cousin Maria asking if I wanted to FaceTime. So for just about a minute, I was able to see Grandma. I even took a screenshot. My mother and brother were in the background trying to get into the shot where I could see them, and I was just ignoring them and trying not to even look. My mother was saying something like, "I had to include you" or some lame garbage. Too little, too late, too often.

I texted a bit with Maria and found out my flowers were not there. Called the place, and apparently the chosen vendor canceled the order because they didn't have the specific arrangement I ordered.

F.U.R.I.O.U.S.

That poor woman on the phone heard more bad words than you can think of. I'm not there, my flowers aren't there, my card isn't there.

How the heck didn't they just call me and say, "pick a different arrangement?" You have one job! It's for a wake, my God!

They wanted to deliver it to someone's house afterwards. Umm...no. I got a refund, but that's the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to bring some freaking flowers to the service before it was over. By this time, it was 20 minutes to over. So, so mad.

Then my cousin Kathy messaged me. She was on her way to the cemetery. (So I had some concept of what was going on and when.) This is the cousin about whose kid my brother was so "concerned." The first thing she said was, "I wish you could have come."

The three of us were "the kids" back in the 70's. Kathy and I especially were always together. We are the same age for the month of July, and then I pull ahead in August. Here's a pic, I had to be about 4 or 5? I just graduated from either what they called "Library School" or Kindergarten. Can't remember right now. Some of my best memories are the two of us playing at Grandma's. Here are Grandma, Kathy, and myself.

Grandma me Kathy.jpg

I had no contact with my mother, brother, or sister. So Kathy and Maria made this a little less awful for me.
 

ajrwdwgirl

Premium Member
On my way to work (first location) I got a text from my cousin Maria asking if I wanted to FaceTime. So for just about a minute, I was able to see Grandma. I even took a screenshot. My mother and brother were in the background trying to get into the shot where I could see them, and I was just ignoring them and trying not to even look. My mother was saying something like, "I had to include you" or some lame garbage. Too little, too late, too often.

I texted a bit with Maria and found out my flowers were not there. Called the place, and apparently the chosen vendor canceled the order because they didn't have the specific arrangement I ordered.

F.U.R.I.O.U.S.

That poor woman on the phone heard more bad words than you can think of. I'm not there, my flowers aren't there, my card isn't there.

How the heck didn't they just call me and say, "pick a different arrangement?" You have one job! It's for a wake, my God!

They wanted to deliver it to someone's house afterwards. Umm...no. I got a refund, but that's the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to bring some freaking flowers to the service before it was over. By this time, it was 20 minutes to over. So, so mad.

Then my cousin Kathy messaged me. She was on her way to the cemetery. (So I had some concept of what was going on and when.) This is the cousin about whose kid my brother was so "concerned." The first thing she said was, "I wish you could have come."

The three of us were "the kids" back in the 70's. Kathy and I especially were always together. We are the same age for the month of July, and then I pull ahead in August. Here's a pic, I had to be about 4 or 5? I just graduated from either what they called "Library School" or Kindergarten. Can't remember right now. Some of my best memories are the two of us playing at Grandma's. Here are Grandma, Kathy, and myself.

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I had no contact with my mother, brother, or sister. So Kathy and Maria made this a little less awful for me.

Oh wow! I have no words (that are allowed here) for that florist. So unbelievable that they would be do dense to not realize the importance of an arrangement for a wake/funeral that they wouldn't call to offer a substitute.

It was very nice of your cousins to contact you and that you could see your grandma again. I like the picture you shared of the three of you. The way your grandma has her arm around you in such a loving way, or maybe she was trying to keep you in place from scampering off and causing mischief! Probably both!
 

Rista1313

Well-Known Member
On my way to work (first location) I got a text from my cousin Maria asking if I wanted to FaceTime. So for just about a minute, I was able to see Grandma. I even took a screenshot. My mother and brother were in the background trying to get into the shot where I could see them, and I was just ignoring them and trying not to even look. My mother was saying something like, "I had to include you" or some lame garbage. Too little, too late, too often.

I texted a bit with Maria and found out my flowers were not there. Called the place, and apparently the chosen vendor canceled the order because they didn't have the specific arrangement I ordered.

F.U.R.I.O.U.S.

That poor woman on the phone heard more bad words than you can think of. I'm not there, my flowers aren't there, my card isn't there.

How the heck didn't they just call me and say, "pick a different arrangement?" You have one job! It's for a wake, my God!

They wanted to deliver it to someone's house afterwards. Umm...no. I got a refund, but that's the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to bring some freaking flowers to the service before it was over. By this time, it was 20 minutes to over. So, so mad.

Then my cousin Kathy messaged me. She was on her way to the cemetery. (So I had some concept of what was going on and when.) This is the cousin about whose kid my brother was so "concerned." The first thing she said was, "I wish you could have come."

The three of us were "the kids" back in the 70's. Kathy and I especially were always together. We are the same age for the month of July, and then I pull ahead in August. Here's a pic, I had to be about 4 or 5? I just graduated from either what they called "Library School" or Kindergarten. Can't remember right now. Some of my best memories are the two of us playing at Grandma's. Here are Grandma, Kathy, and myself.

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I had no contact with my mother, brother, or sister. So Kathy and Maria made this a little less awful for me.

My goodness you look like your Grandma! I'm glad someone made it a little less awful, even if it wasn't the ones who are suppose to have your back,.
 

Gabe1

Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
On my way to work (first location) I got a text from my cousin Maria asking if I wanted to FaceTime. So for just about a minute, I was able to see Grandma. I even took a screenshot. My mother and brother were in the background trying to get into the shot where I could see them, and I was just ignoring them and trying not to even look. My mother was saying something like, "I had to include you" or some lame garbage. Too little, too late, too often.

I texted a bit with Maria and found out my flowers were not there. Called the place, and apparently the chosen vendor canceled the order because they didn't have the specific arrangement I ordered.

F.U.R.I.O.U.S.

That poor woman on the phone heard more bad words than you can think of. I'm not there, my flowers aren't there, my card isn't there.

How the heck didn't they just call me and say, "pick a different arrangement?" You have one job! It's for a wake, my God!

They wanted to deliver it to someone's house afterwards. Umm...no. I got a refund, but that's the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to bring some freaking flowers to the service before it was over. By this time, it was 20 minutes to over. So, so mad.

Then my cousin Kathy messaged me. She was on her way to the cemetery. (So I had some concept of what was going on and when.) This is the cousin about whose kid my brother was so "concerned." The first thing she said was, "I wish you could have come."

The three of us were "the kids" back in the 70's. Kathy and I especially were always together. We are the same age for the month of July, and then I pull ahead in August. Here's a pic, I had to be about 4 or 5? I just graduated from either what they called "Library School" or Kindergarten. Can't remember right now. Some of my best memories are the two of us playing at Grandma's. Here are Grandma, Kathy, and myself.

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I had no contact with my mother, brother, or sister. So Kathy and Maria made this a little less awful for me.
Oy. How awful. My condolences. And I get too many times and enough. Unfortunately some people just have it in their blood to be nasty and pop up or in your case just to be obnoxious. They live for it. A pattern. Take heart that you Grandma loved you. ❤️

Be well.
 

93boomer

Premium Member
On my way to work (first location) I got a text from my cousin Maria asking if I wanted to FaceTime. So for just about a minute, I was able to see Grandma. I even took a screenshot. My mother and brother were in the background trying to get into the shot where I could see them, and I was just ignoring them and trying not to even look. My mother was saying something like, "I had to include you" or some lame garbage. Too little, too late, too often.

I texted a bit with Maria and found out my flowers were not there. Called the place, and apparently the chosen vendor canceled the order because they didn't have the specific arrangement I ordered.

F.U.R.I.O.U.S.

That poor woman on the phone heard more bad words than you can think of. I'm not there, my flowers aren't there, my card isn't there.

How the heck didn't they just call me and say, "pick a different arrangement?" You have one job! It's for a wake, my God!

They wanted to deliver it to someone's house afterwards. Umm...no. I got a refund, but that's the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to bring some freaking flowers to the service before it was over. By this time, it was 20 minutes to over. So, so mad.

Then my cousin Kathy messaged me. She was on her way to the cemetery. (So I had some concept of what was going on and when.) This is the cousin about whose kid my brother was so "concerned." The first thing she said was, "I wish you could have come."

The three of us were "the kids" back in the 70's. Kathy and I especially were always together. We are the same age for the month of July, and then I pull ahead in August. Here's a pic, I had to be about 4 or 5? I just graduated from either what they called "Library School" or Kindergarten. Can't remember right now. Some of my best memories are the two of us playing at Grandma's. Here are Grandma, Kathy, and myself.

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I had no contact with my mother, brother, or sister. So Kathy and Maria made this a little less awful for me.
I cannot repeat what I thought on this site about the flowers. That is just bad business. Your grandmother knows how much you loved her, and she loved you a whole lot too. Think of the good times and memories when you get down.
I am so sorry about what you’re going through. We can’t choose our family members unfortunately.
Take care!
 

StarWarsGirl

Well-Known Member
In the Parks
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On my way to work (first location) I got a text from my cousin Maria asking if I wanted to FaceTime. So for just about a minute, I was able to see Grandma. I even took a screenshot. My mother and brother were in the background trying to get into the shot where I could see them, and I was just ignoring them and trying not to even look. My mother was saying something like, "I had to include you" or some lame garbage. Too little, too late, too often.

I texted a bit with Maria and found out my flowers were not there. Called the place, and apparently the chosen vendor canceled the order because they didn't have the specific arrangement I ordered.

F.U.R.I.O.U.S.

That poor woman on the phone heard more bad words than you can think of. I'm not there, my flowers aren't there, my card isn't there.

How the heck didn't they just call me and say, "pick a different arrangement?" You have one job! It's for a wake, my God!

They wanted to deliver it to someone's house afterwards. Umm...no. I got a refund, but that's the last thing I wanted. I wanted them to bring some freaking flowers to the service before it was over. By this time, it was 20 minutes to over. So, so mad.

Then my cousin Kathy messaged me. She was on her way to the cemetery. (So I had some concept of what was going on and when.) This is the cousin about whose kid my brother was so "concerned." The first thing she said was, "I wish you could have come."

The three of us were "the kids" back in the 70's. Kathy and I especially were always together. We are the same age for the month of July, and then I pull ahead in August. Here's a pic, I had to be about 4 or 5? I just graduated from either what they called "Library School" or Kindergarten. Can't remember right now. Some of my best memories are the two of us playing at Grandma's. Here are Grandma, Kathy, and myself.

View attachment 483951

I had no contact with my mother, brother, or sister. So Kathy and Maria made this a little less awful for me.
Your cousins sound like good people. Glad they were there for you.
 
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