OK ladies, what would you do?

[fractal]

I would really like to know what the ladies really think about chivalry ( since I try to practice it ).


It's the end of a long day at the parks. You are tired - you enter a crowded bus to get back to your resort. People are pressed up against each other and it's pretty tight.

A gentleman offers you his seat - what do you do?

 

[Nemo14]

I would really like to know what the ladies really think about chivalry ( since I try to practice it ).


It's the end of a long day at the parks. You are tired - you enter a crowded bus to get back to your resort. People are pressed up against each other and it's pretty tight.

A gentleman offers you his seat - what do you do?

I would probably not accept it, but thank him for the offer. If I did accept it, and then I saw someone who needed it more than I did, I certainly would give it up then.

 

[djpoore94]

I'd decline, but would in no way be offended. If the bus is that crowded, surely there is someone who needs the seat more than me! I can manage to stand a little while longer and then collapse on the bed when I get back to the room.

 

[TxNewsies]

I usually turn it down but a couple of times the gentleman really insists and won't take no for an answer - so I sit.

 

[LiveyMouse22]

This is always a tough one. I certainly would not be offended by the gesture and would greatly appreciate the offer. However, I think I would have to be extremely exhausted and would otherwise end up in someone's lap for me to accept it probably just because I know how tired people are after a long day. So I think I would thank him for his generosity but gratefully decline. Sometimes it seems there's a small percentage of common courtesy left in the world and if someone has the decency to show that to me I'd like them to think I possess at least an ounce of that as well. :wave:

 

[happymom52003]

I would decline, unless I was holding a very young child.

I would also think he was a very nice gentlemen, just like my husband is. One of the many reasons I fell in love with my husband is that he is a perfect gentlemen...he will always offer his seat to anyone, hold doors open for everyone, and after 17 years together he even still opens my car door for me....which I love.

 

[Disneygal24]

I decline unless I've got a kid with me and then I accept the offer. Of course what usually ends up happening is that an older man or woman will get on the bus and then I feel the need to give up my seat for them.

~Amanda

 

[Tiggerish]

It would totally depend on the situation at the time. I am a childless woman in good shape. Standing on a bus doesn't bother me in the least, and there is usually someone with a greater need for a seat than I (usually my husband, who has a bad back!).

I would absolutely appreciate the offer on the basis of keeping good manners alive in the world, and if I was holding a child or had a bum knee, I would gratefully accept.

 

[NewfieFan]

I picked, "No- I appreciate it but politely decline the offer" but a couple of years ago when I had a small child I would have accepted the offer.

I think it's very kind when someone offers (and the offer is good enough for me... I never take the seat)!

Although one time this man wouldn't take no for an answer he practically forced me in the seat with my daughter. We were fine, we could have stood the whole way... but no he insisted!

 

[sublimesting]

I think it is way old fashioned to give up a seat for a woman. She can do any job we can do, is just as healthy and robust as men and can stand just the same. It seems kind of silly to me. I would give up a seat for a handicapped person or old person or a pregnant woman or someone holding a ton of stuff. Otherwise I'm sitting next to my wife.

 

[LoriMistress]

I would politely decline at first, but if the gentlemen insisted, I would accept the offer, and thank him for being so polite.

 

[Master Yoda]

I think it is way old fashioned to give up a seat for a woman. She can do any job we can do, is just as healthy and robust as men and can stand just the same. It seems kind of silly to me. I would give up a seat for a handicapped person or old person or a pregnant woman or someone holding a ton of stuff. Otherwise I'm sitting next to my wife.

While I have held the opinion that the only thing a woman can not do as well as a man is p.e.e. standing up for quite some time good manners never go out of style. There is no way I am sitting wile a lady is forced to stand. If I did I have no doubt that my grandmother would come back from the dead and smack me in the back of the head.

 

[happymom52003]

While I have held the opinion that the only thing a woman can not do as well as a man is p.e.e. standing up for quite some time good manners never go out of style. There is no way I am sitting wile a lady is forced to stand. If I did I have no doubt that my grandmother would come back from the dead and smack me in the back of the head.

:sohappy:

 

[si23]

i dont give up my seat for anyone i have waited patiently inline to get the bus so im sitting down

 

[tigsmom]

I would really like to know what the ladies really think about chivalry ( since I try to practice it ).


It's the end of a long day at the parks. You are tired - you enter a crowded bus to get back to your resort. People are pressed up against each other and it's pretty tight.

A gentleman offers you his seat - what do you do?

I say "thank you very much" and look around for an elderly person or somebody with a small child. If I see one I say "maybe they would rather have the seat?" If the answer is no (or there is nobody else around) I say "thank you" and sit down. You are not alone in this practice though, my DH, my girls (22 & 15) and myself all offer our seats to those older or with small kids (man or woman) and the DH will always offer his seat to a lady no matter her age.

 

[ryanduggers]

i dont give up my seat for anyone i have waited patiently inline to get the bus so im sitting down

:brick:



I don't even know where to start with this one......

I'm with Master Yoda & Tigsmom on this subject...

 

[tigsmom]

While I have held the opinion that the only thing a woman can not do as well as a man is p.e.e. standing up for quite some time good manners never go out of style. There is no way I am sitting wile a lady is forced to stand. If I did I have no doubt that my grandmother would come back from the dead and smack me in the back of the head.

:king: And I think mine would whack me on the head as well! :lol:

I think it's a sad commentary that we even need to ask this question, is no one taught proper manners anymore?

i dont give up my seat for anyone i have waited patiently inline to get the bus so im sitting down

As was stated above, good manners never go out of style.

 

[blackthidot]

Who in the hell would be offended?

 

[Master Yoda]

Who in the hell would be offended?

There is a segment of the population that considers acts of chivalry as demeaning to women and that they somehow suggest that women are inferior and need to be taken care of.

 

[loveofamouse]

I would just politely decline, unless I got hurt that day, and point to someone else who could use it and offer to them.