OK ladies, what would you do?

[LucyintheSky]

I would appreciate the offer and the kindness, definitely. I wouldn't be offended at all. But I wouldn't take the seat. I'm healthy and able to stand. I'm sure everyone on that bus would be just as tired as I would be, so everything else being equal, the gentleman was still in line before me, and deserves the seat more than I do.

 

[Texas84]

I've offended plenty of women simply by offering a seat. Now I only offer for special circumstances such as pregnancies, injuries, or age. But then I've offended a pregnant woman and a woman with a cast by offering a seat. Can't win. :shrug:

 

[Illumination]

As a woman, I would accept the seat only if I was dead tired, or my ankle was acting up. And whether or not I accept the seat, anyone (man or woman) who offered would recieve a big smile and a "Thank you!"

 

[Tomi-Rocket]

really depends....

Well, it's not as simple as yes or no for me as it would truly depend on how I was feeling. If I wasn't completely exhausted I would probably thank the gentleman but decline but if I was then I'd probably thank the gentleman and accept.

 

[plaz10]

Normally I decline and then when the guy insists as he usually does...I take the seat. I will look to see if a parent with a child or an older person is standing but usually I stand and then as the bus is about full, the men will make it clear that they won't be using the empty seat...the lights go out and I'll thank them and sit.

I don't understand who would be offended. Man, woman, child, old, young, whatnot...offering a seat to anyone is polite and should be appreciated by all.

 

[Flower'sChild]

I would not give up my bus seat to someone just because they are a woman.

 

[disneygirl1]

Ok so I voted that I take the seat and the only reason that I do is b/c if I'm standing there is a good chance my DS is standing too, so I usually will thank them and sit so my DS can sit on my lap, or just let him sit down.

 

[Monty]

I used to always give up my seat for women, elderly or children when I was capable of safely standing on a moving bus. Sadly, now the vast majority of them are better able to stand than I.

Instead I now get the occasional glare from someone who thinks I should be giving up my seat... :shrug:

 

[Computer Magic]

Instead I now get the occasional glare from someone who thinks I should be giving up my seat... :shrug:

Isn't that the issue. When men don't offer our seat to others, we are glared at by others. When we do offer our seat to women, we are glared at by others. I give my seat to my wife, little kids, people with kids or people that have trouble standing. Otherwise I'm sitting my ______ on the seat....GLARE ON!! :lol:

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I wouldn't be offended, but I'd likely decline- UNLESS- one of my kiddos (2 & 4 at time of upcoming trip) is in physical demonic :fork: catastrophic meltdown mode or one of us is experiencing some kind of physical distress. The reality- it doesn't matter which gender you are...there is nothing wrong with giving up your seat to a person in need!


To all of those people who won't give up their seat for anyone under any circumstance...there will come a day when you might really need a seat. It may not be a situation you can yet fathom, but the moment someone acts kindly in your moment of need will be the moment you realize how horribly wrong you are. Sure, there are some people out there that the act of giving up a seat boils down to a sense of entitlement, but wouldn't you hate for someone to assume that about you when you truly could use their compassion?!?!?!?!

 

[Mukta]

I am able bodied, youngish and single. I would appreciate the offer, but decline. I would not be offended at all and be secretly happy that chivalry is alive.

 

[blackthidot]

I am able bodied, youngish and single. I would appreciate the offer, but decline. I would not be offended at all and be secretly happy that chivalry is alive.

A/S/L??

Hahah just kidding.

 

[diddy_mouse]

I would politely decline the offer but wouldn't be offended.

The only person who outright gives me a seat is my husband and I'm cool with that. I'm not the type to really expect anything from anyone nowadays, but I do appreciate the thought.

 

[kashmir]

To all of those people who won't give up their seat for anyone under any circumstance...there will come a day when you might really need a seat. It may not be a situation you can yet fathom, but the moment someone acts kindly in your moment of need will be the moment you realize how horribly wrong you are. Sure, there are some people out there that the act of giving up a seat boils down to a sense of entitlement, but wouldn't you hate for someone to assume that about you when you truly could use their compassion?!?!?!?!

You are so right and I like the way you said this. I never would have thought as a woman there would come a day when women would express irritation or disgust at gentlemanly ways, but I think men should never pay attention to that rudeness. People need to be nice to people. When I was young, I never took a seat and always pointed to seating that was available to others. But when I hurt my leg badly recently, I NEEDED the help!!!
Did not matter if the seat was a man's or woman's...Thanks!! I appreciate
anyone who sees need and responds to it.

 

[Innoventions]

Dont you think its interesting that you guys think your entitled to a seat because your a women. Think about the OP, it states a scenario in which the seat is offered, many of the women on here make it sound like they are entitled to the seat. Even if you dont take it, you still think that you need it to be offered. If its not offered then the person is...rude. I think this whole topic and thread is wrong. A seat should be based on necessity not on gender or age.

 

[Tidbit]

While I have held the opinion that the only thing a woman can not do as well as a man is p.e.e. standing up for quite some time good manners never go out of style. There is no way I am sitting wile a lady is forced to stand. If I did I have no doubt that my grandmother would come back from the dead and smack me in the back of the head.

Thanks from all the Southern Women in my family! Yoda you are correct no we can't uummm p.e.e standing up.......but good manners are ALWAYS in style! I teach all of my kids what "some" call old fashion MANNERS everyday!! I may or may not take the seat, but love it when a true gentleman ask.

 

[JimboJones123]

I would probably be much less inclined to give up a seat for
a female, but would gladly for anybody that is older than I. The teeny bopper girls can stand just like the boys. But if anybody appears to be a second older than me-- Bang! It's theirs.

 

[fractal]

So then I guess you lose no matter what you do. You're an A hole if you ask some women because they are so high and mighty....but then you're an A hole if you do not because technically it's the right thing to do. Here is a solution...Remove all the seats from the buses. Everyone stands because a few people don't know how to act.

After reading the other thread about "bus etiquette" it seemed to me that a lot of women found it sexist to be offered a seat. As somebody that regularly does offer a seat I was worried that maybe most women in general feel this way.

From the looks of the poll results, however, the opposite seems true so I'll continue to offer my seat and continue to have my 13 year old son do the same.

 

[Master Yoda]

After reading the other thread about "bus etiquette" it seemed to me that a lot of women found it sexist to be offered a seat. As somebody that regularly does offer a seat I was worried that maybe most women in general feel this way.

From the looks of the poll results, however, the opposite seems true so I'll continue to offer my seat and continue to have my 13 year old son do the same.

I felt the same way for about a second and like you rapidly came to me senses. There is no way that I am going to sacrifice my principles and change who I am because someone is bitter and miserable enough to interpret politeness as sexist.

 

[Dukeblue1227]

I felt the same way for about a second and like you rapidly came to me senses. There is no way that I am going to sacrifice my principles and change who I am because someone is bitter and miserable enough to interpret politeness as sexist.

If a woman ever thought I was being "sexist" for offering my seat to her... then I'd politely treat her as a man (not as EQUAL, because I truly believe everyone is equal, simply because they in fact are, so treat her AS A MAN)... and knock her out.

Feminist are some of the worst type of people... and I imagine they're the only ones that would find offense in being offered a seat.

I'll offer my seat to a 35 year old dude if he's cute enough, so I don't need a bowlcut chick telling me I'm sexist if I offered it to a woman.