Agreed 100% also ... and don't get me started on tipping at restaurants!!
I'm not trying to "get [you] started" but could you give me a basic understanding about what your tipping beliefs regarding servers are? I've never had a chance to hear where non-tippers are coming from.
I'm a server and understand that, especially in this economy, money is very tight; I'm a person, too, however, and I also need money to pay my rent, bills, gas, etc. If you come in when it's slow and don't require anything beyond basic service, I'm not going to be too put off if you don't leave me very much because I didn't have to go too far out of my way. If you come in when I'm obviously busy and demand something new every time you see me and leave nothing, I'm going to think very nasty things of you. I'm not asking for $10 a head, I just want you to understand that I
am going out of my way for you and deserve a little extra.
I fully understand (better than most, I would say) that I am already getting paid to do my job, but as much as most people would like to believe otherwise, I do have a great amount of power regarding what your dining experience will be and I feel you
should tip me based on that. Think about it: I can wait twenty minutes to put your order in, I can put it in wrong, I can let it sit in the window for half an hour and get cold, I can let your empty glasses sit on your table and not refill them, I can drop your food on you, and I can also do a variety of bad things
to your food*. We'll not even mention the thought that I could just blow you off completely. The fact that I'm willing to take your order in a timely fashion, refill your drinks, and get your (correct) orders out to you while they're still hot and fresh is my courtesy to you; the least you can do is leave me a little something.
Also, I'm getting paid less than $4 an hour.
Yes I understand that I willingly accepted that pay rate when I took my serving position, but I am working
for my tips. If you come in, order, and scram and only leave me a dollar, I'm not going to think you're the worst person in the world. If you come in with your party of ten and don't tip me? That just makes you a crappy person.
*(Disclaimer: I have NEVER done ANY of those things and don't work with anyone who would, but it does happen.)