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MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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Goofyernmost said:
Not yet, they fired the general contractor and have taken over that job themselves. I stopped in Monday and they both were stressed beyond belief. They have established a very close schedule for contractors and were waiting of Plumbers to show up and get things ready for HVAC and Electrical. Once that is in and inspected, then it is dry walling and finish work. They hope to have it completed by the end of November, but, they are preparing for other possible delays. However, it is good to see some progress happening.
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I wish them well. Hopefully everything can be done before it gets too cold.
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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21stamps said:
“Mommy Wars” Rant-

(It’s all first names so I’m not even going to bother scratching them out-)


Cub Scout fundraiser next weekend. Apparently people aren’t volunteering to work. So one of the moms tagged all of us other moms in a post stating that they still need help. I have signed up to make two batches of from scratch pumpkin apple butter Cupcakes.

Anyway here’s some of the posts-

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•••••Me.
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First of all, I understand that it’s frustrating. Really I do. I wish I could help, and I realize that I don’t help the scouts-with time-often.


I refuse to feel guilty!!!!! I’m not. Every week I’m asked to volunteer for something.. I get it, private school means extra volunteer hours.. but let’s be realistic!!! There are some moms who do not have the ability to be Volunteer Junkee. My mom was.. I thought I would be.. but it’s not possible!! I do what I can. That’s all I can do.

This SAHM Mommy War thing is just exhausting some times. I do understand that stay at home moms are very busy.. but the reality is- I will never have the same availability as them. I just won’t. Period.

I’m baking for the bake sale. I bought $104 worth of candy bars to sell last month. I paid all of the dues. I have donated many items in the past (and we haven’t even been able to make it to a meeting or the camp out!! We’ve only been to 1 event this year).. I can’t give my Saturday mornings to them. Or weekday mornings. They have to realize that we’re all doing what we can. This post may have a Scout subject, but it’s so much bigger than Scouts..it’s school in general.
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Don’t let them get to you. I think the fact that you work on Saturdays is a really good excuse for not bejng able to man a table. Maybe T should quit Cub Scouts? You have plenty on your table.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
Don’t let them get to you. I think the fact that you work on Saturdays is a really good excuse for not bejng able to man a table. Maybe T should quit Cub Scouts? You have plenty on your table.
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I wish he would! He loves it. Which is so strange because we barely go to any events. Last year he did attend most meetings.. but this year they’re at 4:15 on a Sunday as opposed to 6:45 as they’ve been prior years. We’ve had soccer conflicts every weekend so far this year.

I took off last Saturday for his tournament.. I can’t take off again for the fundraiser. I miss my kid’s sports every Saturday.. the only time I take off IS for a major tournament.

This coming on the heels of the school play just made me want to scream.
I had checked with T’s Soccer and basketball director about conflicts with practice.. they both said it would be fine, and we do not have any tournaments that weekend in March. HOWEVER, I was worried about the parental commitment.. so I emailed the committee. About 25 hours per parent with 15 of those being the last week/play weekend. I can’t do that. I asked if there was anything else I could do, or maybe just work 1 or 2 of the 3 high commitment days., “We really need kids who’s families have the time to volunteer. This is a group effort. Maybe you’ll have more time next year?”

🤯

So, T isn’t in the play. I know, he’ll get over it.. it’s just frustrating.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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I did just take off a day last month to volunteer at the school’s huge fundraiser “marathon” and races. I took baked goods and helped set up for grandparents day at school last week.. but I couldn’t stay to work the event- I was there for an hour setting everything out though.

I’m currently organizing our winter soccer team as the head coach.. our season starts in 3 weeks. I’ve ordered all of the jerseys, put out all fees up front, etc etc.

I do volunteer. I just can’t do it as much as most other people... but I try to do as much as I can.
 
Figgy1

Figgy1

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21stamps said:
Just to expand on that a bit.. I like all of these moms, they’re my friends. They do so many great things for the school.. time wise, Pinterest inspired wise..etc. I appreciate them. I just wish they could understand that some of us are doing all that we can logistically do.
Sometimes I realize how different our lives really are. I think Women understanding Women could go a long way...understanding that not all of us can sign up for everything.
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You're going to hate me but T is old and mature enough to understand the following words no, heck no and because I said so. You have to start setting limits on your time. You have to explain if he wants to do X he can't do Y or you're going to have a nervous or physical breakdown. Sorry to be so rough.
 
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Figgy1

Figgy1

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Goofyernmost said:
I see a lot of hotels in their future. Since we have been talking about parental influence, when they told me the original plan to stay in a tent out back, my first reaction (to myself) was "are you out of your freaking minds". Rent an apartment for the duration. They didn't listen because they will save a lot of money doing it this way. Now panic is setting in because a hotel room for five of them is much more expensive then an apartment would have been. There sometimes is a benefit to listening to the old man. Neither myself or her sister have enough room in our places for a family of five so, they would have to be split up, which they don't want and frankly it creates quite a burden for us as well. They have the money to spend 100K on a house do over, they can rent someplace to stay. The respective schools they attend now are 20 to 30 miles away from us as well. Fortunately, not to rub it in or anything, but, it doesn't get all that cold down here. It will get cooler through November, but, even a space heater would probably get them through. Believe me, five people in that tent requires very little extra heat. I don't know how they made it through the summer.
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Good luck to all of you. Maybe they can get a good short term rental
 
Figgy1

Figgy1

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StarWarsGirl said:
She does. I love my friends, but good grief, most of them have any sense of how much things cost and how money works.

We had a massive argument over all of this. I was at least owed a phone call. And now she's mad at me because I told her no, I can't go anywhere else with her this winter or this summer (summer I might try for Hawaii, but definitely WDW) and I told her if she wants to go to WDW, she is welcome to come at the same time as me in the future, but she's on her own as far as getting a room. She was not happy about that and is mad at me now.
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Sympathy like and yes you were owed a phone call at the very least.
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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StarWarsGirl said:
She does. I love my friends, but good grief, most of them have any sense of how much things cost and how money works.

We had a massive argument over all of this. I was at least owed a phone call. And now she's mad at me because I told her no, I can't go anywhere else with her this winter or this summer (summer I might try for Hawaii, but definitely WDW) and I told her if she wants to go to WDW, she is welcome to come at the same time as me in the future, but she's on her own as far as getting a room. She was not happy about that and is mad at me now.
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Sounds like she has yet to grow up.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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figmentfan423 said:
You're going to hate me but T is old and mature enough to understand the following words no, heck no and because I said so. You have to start setting limits on your time. You have to explain if he wants to do X he can't do Y or you're going to have a nervous or physical breakdown. Sorry to be so rough.
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I appreciate honesty!

I do have to say, although it may not sound like it here.. he does hear the word “No” a lot.

“Mom, can I play hockey.”
“No.”
“Please mom! I love hockey.”
“That’s a hard no, T.”
“But Mommmmm! Hockey is my passion.”
“T, you have never played ice hockey. You’re not going to play ice hockey while you’re living here. I don’t have the time. Practice is too far away. Stop asking. The next time you think you want to ask, just answer yourself with a No.”

“You’re so mean. I’m the only kid who doesn’t play hockey!”

“No, you only know 2 kids who play hockey. Stop exaggerating. Don’t ask again.”

“Ok fine.”

“Mom?”

“Yes T?”

“Can I play lacrosse?”

“That depends, do you want to quit baseball or soccer?”

“Neither.”

“Then, Nope.”

“Mom? What about guitar lessons? I would be a good guitar player.”

“T. Stop. I can teach you piano, and if you want to quit something else then you can take guitar lessons.”

“The piano isn’t as cool as the guitar.”

“T, you’re dangerously close to getting on my nerves. Stop asking to add to your schedule.”

“Fine, I’ll quit everything and just sit home and play video games.”

“Sorry bud. You don’t have the passwords.”

“Ugh! Fine Mom. You win. Y-O-U W-I-N.”

****some version of this convo goes down every single week. 😂
 
21stamps

21stamps

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Is this just a “my kid” thing? Or does anyone else’s kids say “I’m the only kid who doesn’t..”

This year so far- he’s the only kid who didn’t go to Disney. He’s the only kid who doesn’t have a cell phone. He’s the only kid who doesn’t play lacrosse. He’s the only kid who doesn’t play hockey. He’s the only kid that didn’t go on the Cub Scout campout.

None of which is true. 🙄
 
21stamps

21stamps

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Oh I forgot one more.. he’s also -

“The only kid who doesn’t have braces!”

🙄🙄🙄🙄

Granted there are 7 kids in the third grade who have braces.. but he does not need them yet, he will.. we’ve been to the orthodontist and there is no reason to start treatment right now. T says “Braces make people look smart. I think they’re cool.”

Hopefully he remembers that in a few years. 😂
 

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