The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

Figgy1

Figgy1

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Rista1313 said:
My parents don't call often, so when they call.. I'm in a bit of a panic... it's usually my mom, and she has figured out to say, "Hi, everything is alright, I was just calling to...." (Last time it's was something wrong with the computer)

At least I have her trained!
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I finally got my moms to stop texting to say they're going to call or calling to say they're going to text
 
SteveBrickNJ

SteveBrickNJ

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SteveBrickNJ said:
@ajrwdwgirl or any other friend, please educate me on this card that came in the same box with our Magic Bands. Thanks in advance for telling me what it is for :)View attachment 320423
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I'm about to leave for school, but tonight I can follow what it says on the back of the card: DisneyWorld.com/MagicalExtras
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It just seemed logical that one of my friends here already used this card in one way or another.
 
Rista1313

Rista1313

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figmentfan423 said:
I finally got my moms to stop texting to say they're going to call or calling to say they're going to text
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ha! My parents still have a flip phone and don't text... my mom keeps saying she's going to get a smart phone soon... ha! If that doesn't happen by next september when it's time to upgrade mine.. I'm going to give her my old iPhone when I get a new one. My dad.. never... he's old school and phones are for talking, not for anything else.
 
KBLovedDisney

KBLovedDisney

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Rista1313 said:
ha! My parents still have a flip phone and don't text... my mom keeps saying she's going to get a smart phone soon... ha! If that doesn't happen by next september when it's time to upgrade mine.. I'm going to give her my old iPhone when I get a new one. My dad.. never... he's old school and phones are for talking, not for anything else.
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I'm so tempted to go old school and go back to flip phones. I miss the simplicity and ruggedness, not to mention clam shell design and real buttons instead of glass.
 
Songbird76

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Goofyernmost said:
I can't speak for others, but, that is why, when I got to be an adult, I left home and went out on my own and never looked back. The day after I graduated I was in Texas in Basic Training for the Air Force. I got married before I got out and set up my own home. I know I would have gone ballistic if I had adult children living at home while holding a job and saving their money while I spent mine on them. In fact, I did tell both of my girls it was time to be a grownup not just pretend they were. They could have stayed at home, but, they would be paying room and board. (probably nowhere near what it would have cost on the outside), but, there are no free rides in life except perhaps the first 18 to 21 years when parents have a responsibility to get them to some degree of education and ready to take care of themselves.

When I left home, it was tough sledding for awhile. I couldn't have a new car, I couldn't take vacations, I couldn't buy anything other then generic foods and discount store clothing. But, I was free to do and be whatever I wanted to do or be. It's a much different world now, but, my girls have become very independent and self sufficient and the only time they ever asked for help was when they were first married and asked for a loan to get something that was a necessity. And they paid me back as quickly as they could. Fortunately, they both married men that didn't want to be indebted to their Father in Law. :) Worked for me! :joyfull:
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I wish paying my own way would have been enough. I was in college, which my mother did not pay one cent for, and I was working and going to school, paying for my own room and board, and I was fortunate to have tuition and fees paid for with scholarships and my mother still treated me like a child. I had to hide my bank book and checkbook when she came to visit, because she would snoop through my stuff and scold me for how I spent my money. What kind of shampoo are you using that costs that much??
And my husband and I lived with his parents for the first 3 years we lived here, but we paid rent and we had a chore list and we did the grocery shopping and cooking on weekends, etc. So it wasn't like we were living off of them. But it was their house, so we were required to sit downstairs with them every evening and watch whatever show THEY chose on TV...we weren't allowed to go upstairs to our room until we were ready to sleep. We were "not allowed" to speak English. (We did not follow this rule when they weren't around...especially since I couldn't speak Dutch at the beginning...ridiculous rule) Homework was to be done downstairs where they could see and hear me, because they wanted to be sure I was doing it correctly. I was 25, my mother had just died, and I had given up EVERYTHING to move to a country where I knew no one and could not speak the language. They could have been a bit more understanding about the difficult position I was in and the depression I was dealing with. I had NOTHING of my own and they treated me like a small child. It was miserable. To me, living with family as an adult is just a bad idea. I can totally understand why StarWarsGirl wouldn't want to vacation with hers...I think it's amazing that she's held out so long at home. I wouldn't have. I couldn't WAIT to live on my own. And my mom didn't even respect boundaries when I DID live on my own. And I lived 200 miles away! In the end, it depends on the people involved. I would have had no problem paying rent if it meant that I got to live how I wanted and they were just landlords. But some parents are just incapable of seeing their children as adults, even when they are paying their own way and taking care of their own responsibilities.
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
Did the daughter who was dealing with renovations get that done yet?
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Not yet, they fired the general contractor and have taken over that job themselves. I stopped in Monday and they both were stressed beyond belief. They have established a very close schedule for contractors and were waiting of Plumbers to show up and get things ready for HVAC and Electrical. Once that is in and inspected, then it is dry walling and finish work. They hope to have it completed by the end of November, but, they are preparing for other possible delays. However, it is good to see some progress happening.
 
KBLovedDisney

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Songbird76 said:
I wish paying my own way would have been enough. I was in college, which my mother did not pay one cent for, and I was working and going to school, paying for my own room and board, and I was fortunate to have tuition and fees paid for with scholarships and my mother still treated me like a child. I had to hide my bank book and checkbook when she came to visit, because she would snoop through my stuff and scold me for how I spent my money. What kind of shampoo are you using that costs that much??
And my husband and I lived with his parents for the first 3 years we lived here, but we paid rent and we had a chore list and we did the grocery shopping and cooking on weekends, etc. So it wasn't like we were living off of them. But it was their house, so we were required to sit downstairs with them every evening and watch whatever show THEY chose on TV...we weren't allowed to go upstairs to our room until we were ready to sleep. We were "not allowed" to speak English. (We did not follow this rule when they weren't around...especially since I couldn't speak Dutch at the beginning...ridiculous rule) Homework was to be done downstairs where they could see and hear me, because they wanted to be sure I was doing it correctly. I was 25, my mother had just died, and I had given up EVERYTHING to move to a country where I knew no one and could not speak the language. They could have been a bit more understanding about the difficult position I was in and the depression I was dealing with. I had NOTHING of my own and they treated me like a small child. It was miserable. To me, living with family as an adult is just a bad idea. I can totally understand why StarWarsGirl wouldn't want to vacation with hers...I think it's amazing that she's held out so long at home. I wouldn't have. I couldn't WAIT to live on my own. And my mom didn't even respect boundaries when I DID live on my own. And I lived 200 miles away! In the end, it depends on the people involved. I would have had no problem paying rent if it meant that I got to live how I wanted and they were just landlords. But some parents are just incapable of seeing their children as adults, even when they are paying their own way and taking care of their own responsibilities.
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Sounds like your mom was a narcissist. I can fully relate. I recently had to cut all contact with her and the rest of my family because how bad things have gotten. It was ruining my life and marriage. Totally sucks, but I am healing and things are getting better day by day.
 
Songbird76

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21stamps said:
This is why I choose a school 1000 miles away, as opposed to going to my father’s pick of schools for me. They cried.. I probably did too, but all I can remember is the excitement of leaving.lol.

My dad is and always has been a bit (a lot) controlling.. maybe “opinionated” is the better word. Why do dad’s always think they know what’s best for us.:mad:
However, my dad is also my rock.

Once when they were going on a cruise, stayed at my condo for 2 nights before.. I was in the middle of some light renovations. One of which was attempting to do wallpaper in the master bath, myself. It was horrible. Put the project on pause for their visit.. went into work for a few hours while on day 1.. come back- my dad was doing my wallpaper! Went to Home Depot got the supplies to remove the mess I had done.. took that off and hung the new paper correctly. On the first day of his vacation.

So, I can’t complain too much.. but even now he does say things or treat me as his little girl sometimes.

Oh, and before I was married I had brought 3 different guys home over the years.. the last my husband. We were engaged but my parents had us sleep in different bedrooms when we would visit. Their house, their rules- said them.lol
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That's so sweet that your dad did your wallpaper!! It sounds like he's at least always there for you, even if he didn't agree with your choices. How did he handle it when you got married? Was he supportive?
My mom didn't care whose house it was....her rules. I lived in an apartment my senior year of college....no smoking allowed, which wasn't an issue for me as I don't smoke and never have. My mom came down for my senior recital, gets out a cigarette. I tell her she can't smoke in the apartment, I could get evicted. She refused to go outside. :banghead: And when my husband and I first started dating, he came to visit. I was moving home because my student teaching was in the town next to my hometown. So my husband was helping me move my stuff and my mom had come down and even in MY apartment, she wouldn't allow us to even sleep in the same room. The bottom line is that my mother never saw me as an autonomous adult. She refused to let me be independent...and I guess part of it was my fault because I shouldn't have gone along with it. I should have just told her it was MY home and in MY home I decided the rules. But I had been fighting with her for so long about my ex that I just wanted to NOT be fighting with her for once, so I went along with it to keep the peace, and I shouldn't have. Good boundaries make good neighbors, right? I should have set some clear boundaries with my mom. I mean, I had set some, but obviously not enough.
 
Figgy1

Figgy1

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Goofyernmost said:
Not yet, they fired the general contractor and have taken over that job themselves. I stopped in Monday and they both were stressed beyond belief. They have established a very close schedule for contractors and were waiting of Plumbers to show up and get things ready for HVAC and Electrical. Once that is in and inspected, then it is dry walling and finish work. They hope to have it completed by the end of November, but, they are preparing for other possible delays. However, it is good to see some progress happening.
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Yikes! What will they do when it gets cold?
 

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