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MySmallWorldof4

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It's romantic to think about. And likely romantic if it's just two adults. But IMO it's so selfish to raise kids this way. I loved the travel, but living in a bus made almost every other aspect of life as a child difficult and sometimes downright terrible.
That must have been hard as a kid. Stability in an area does make life a little easier for a kid. I cannot imagine having to constantly change schools and try and make new friends. You turned out great though, so that says something about you.
 

Songbird76

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Well, that was college for me. My classes were divided in high school, so I was in classes with students on my level. The only thing I found about that was that some of the students could get very competitive with one another. To the point of being nasty. Honestly, part of the reason I went where I did for college was because I knew kids wouldn't be like that.

Then again, there were benefits to being in a mixed bag. I had to take this engineering based class, and let's just say I sucked at it. Like, really sucked. The teacher partnered me with a Korean guy for our first project. He was excellent at it. He was really patient with me when I asked him to explain it, and I usually wrote up the papers and made sure everything was neat. Since his English wasn't as good, it worked out that he explained it to me and I wrote everything. I got the benefit of understanding it, and he didn't have to spend as much energy trying to figure out the writing. He must have liked working with me because we were later allowed to choose partners and chose to work together. So I do see some benefit when you're in a school with a mixed bag.

But I'm glad it's working out for your daughter. My high school was a long bus ride away, or 15 minutes by car. That makes me a bit envious that she's so close.
Yeah, I could see the competitiveness being a problem, but I don't think that will be as much of an issue here. High school in the US is set up that way...you compete for scholarships and for honors and awards, like valedictorian, etc...none of that exists over here. You're not competing to get a spot at an Ivy League college or to get a particular scholarship. There's nothing at stake, and nothing to gain by being the best...so what would you be competing for? The only one you have to compete with is yourself.
And as for the mixed bag, it sounds like the Korean student was a pretty bright kid anyway so you were both advanced...and of course everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. It's nice it worked out for both of you that you could help each other and each benefit from it. But imagine being partnered with someone who was even worse at the subject than you were. Yikes. I'm actually really jealous of DD that she seems to be good at EVERYTHING...except PE. But she's top of her class at math, Language, history, science, spelling....EVERYTHING. And she does Spanish on Duolingo instead of English with the rest of the class, because she's already fluent in English. There doesn't seem to be a single subject so far in which she isn't getting top grades. Which is why she hates group projects. She was SOOOO embarrassed when their class went to one of the high schools for a morning and did lessons there to see what a high school day might be like and she was in a group with 2 kids from her class who didn't follow directions. They were supposed to build a bridge and then test how much weight it would hold and she was trying to get them to look at the example bridge and read the tips, and these 2 kids basically just took all the materials and slapped them together without even thinking about how they could make it sturdy...their bridge collapsed with the first weights put on it and she KNEW it wasn't a good bridge, but couldn't get them to put any effort in it. Had it been an actual project for a real class, she'd have failed. She had no choice in who she wanted to work with and the other kids just didn't care. She was frustrated and embarrassed. That probably wouldn't have happened if all the kids were the same level. She can't wait for high school when she's not stuck in that environment anymore.
 

MySmallWorldof4

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Not looking nope not going to do it. I'm doing the one year no clothes buying challenge anything I want I have to make
I couldn't survive that :hilarious::hilarious: but I feel you. We're doing no more impulse shopping. Which is difficult because every website you go to us full of ads for places you normally shop, thanks to the Google.
I am with you there. Do you know how many emails tempt me during the day with sales that seem unbelievable? All I have been doing this month with emails is just push delete next to each icon. So hard not to click and look.:eek:
 

DryerLintFan

Premium Member
Nice and good luck. I'm going to make quite a few gifts this year

We're going to focus on experience gifts for our daughter and nieces and nephews, and the adults are just getting treats.

This is going to sound really bad.... but growing up dirt poor makes it really difficult to curb spending with my own kid. I walk through the store and see something she would like that I would have LOVED as a kid, and I grab it for her. ESPECIALLY if it is on sale. Then I don't want to spoil her, so I keep it until her birthday or Christmas or Easter. But the problem is that I've been doing this year round, so when those holidays come, she's spoiled anyway with a mountain of gifts. She's turning three in a month, so I have to stop doing this now when she doesn't realize what's going on. In another year, she'll start expecting it, and then I really will have spoiled her.

So I'm starting with the not mindlessly browsing sales at the Disney Store, and not aimlessly walking around Target for two hours when I just need a break from life. I've had a few slip ups, but overall I'm doing pretty good.

That must have been hard as a kid. Stability in an area does make life a little easier for a kid. I cannot imagine having to constantly change schools and try and make new friends. You turned out great though, so that says something about you.

It's funny because while most little girls grow up dreaming of their wedding day, I spent my whole life dreaming about the day I could buy a cookie cutter house in the suburbs and commute to my job in a cubicle at an office where I had to badge in. I think I'm the only one in my building who gets excited that I have to badge in :hilarious::hilarious::hilarious:[/QUOTE]
 

Songbird76

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I went outside to do a quick shovel at 3pm. I came back in at 4:10! At that point we had about 8 inches and it was (and still is) snowing. At one point it was coming down at about an inch per hour. The snow is really wet and heavy and the plow had come by once, which is why I went out to shovel, so the bottom of our driveway was at least double the depth of the rest of the driveway. I should probably go out and shovel one more time before bed but my body is aching and I'm using the excuse that my coat and gloves are still soaked. I guess I will just wake up early tomorrow and do some shoveling.

I only have to work tomorrow morning until 11:30 then I'm taking hubs to the dr. for an x-ray and hopefully an all clear to start walking without the boot. So I can do any clean up shoveling after that. Ugh, why do I live here again. Anyone want to come and help shovel? It is fun....:cautious:
Ask @MinnieM123 . She loves shoveling snow for the exercise. I don't mind it, and I would be willing to help, but I am a tad far away. By the time I got there, you probably wouldn't need help anymore.
 

Songbird76

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Whatever Carnival's reputation is, our cruise was awesome!!! Everything from the ship itself, to the staff, to the food, to the entertainment, etc.
We priced out a DCL cruise, and it was more than 3 times what we paid with Carnival.
We had aft cabins with verandas. We had 2 cabins for 6 of us for a week. We paid about $4,800 including gratuity. DCL wanted almost $16,000...not including gratuity...!!!!! :greedy:
I definitely don't see us doing a DCL cruise anytime soon.
Can I ask, how long do you get at each port of call? Is it just day excursions and you have to be back on the ship that night?
 

MySmallWorldof4

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We're going to focus on experience gifts for our daughter and nieces and nephews, and the adults are just getting treats.

This is going to sound really bad.... but growing up dirt poor makes it really difficult to curb spending with my own kid. I walk through the store and see something she would like that I would have LOVED as a kid, and I grab it for her. ESPECIALLY if it is on sale. Then I don't want to spoil her, so I keep it until her birthday or Christmas or Easter. But the problem is that I've been doing this year round, so when those holidays come, she's spoiled anyway with a mountain of gifts. She's turning three in a month, so I have to stop doing this now when she doesn't realize what's going on. In another year, she'll start expecting it, and then I really will have spoiled her.

So I'm starting with the not mindlessly browsing sales at the Disney Store, and not aimlessly walking around Target for two hours when I just need a break from life. I've had a few slip ups, but overall I'm doing pretty good.



It's funny because while most little girls grow up dreaming of their wedding day, I spent my whole life dreaming about the day I could buy a cookie cutter house in the suburbs and commute to my job in a cubicle at an office where I had to badge in. I think I'm the only one in my building who gets excited that I have to badge in :hilarious::hilarious::hilarious:
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Dh and I have a hard time saying no to the kids sometimes because they don't really have grandparents that live near or are alive to spoil them. Both dh's parents have passed away, my mom passed away, and my step dad lives in NY. I do know my spending limits though, and I do tell them not to ask me to buy them anything many times when we go to the store together. They get it. Maybe too much? DD10 says she doesn't want to go out to eat so that we don't spend money.:oops:
 

Songbird76

Well-Known Member
We're going to focus on experience gifts for our daughter and nieces and nephews, and the adults are just getting treats.

This is going to sound really bad.... but growing up dirt poor makes it really difficult to curb spending with my own kid. I walk through the store and see something she would like that I would have LOVED as a kid, and I grab it for her. ESPECIALLY if it is on sale. Then I don't want to spoil her, so I keep it until her birthday or Christmas or Easter. But the problem is that I've been doing this year round, so when those holidays come, she's spoiled anyway with a mountain of gifts. She's turning three in a month, so I have to stop doing this now when she doesn't realize what's going on. In another year, she'll start expecting it, and then I really will have spoiled her.

So I'm starting with the not mindlessly browsing sales at the Disney Store, and not aimlessly walking around Target for two hours when I just need a break from life. I've had a few slip ups, but overall I'm doing pretty good.



It's funny because while most little girls grow up dreaming of their wedding day, I spent my whole life dreaming about the day I could buy a cookie cutter house in the suburbs and commute to my job in a cubicle at an office where I had to badge in. I think I'm the only one in my building who gets excited that I have to badge in :hilarious::hilarious::hilarious:
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I had the same thing! Although most of the stuff I got for my kids was little things...a Princess toothbrush, or a cheap set of fairy wings. But we always did Christmas at my In-laws' and it was hard because my BIL always spent WAY more on his son than we did on our kids....he spent more than we spent on both our kids put together, but our kids had a bunch of little things and he always got his son one really big thing. Like, he got his son a PS4 when they first came out...that thing was like 400 Euros! And then he's upset at us because our kids are still opening presents and his kid has nothing else to open. So we were supposed to cut down on the number of things our kids got so he didn't look cheap! :rolleyes: But my kids do not expect big ticket items...anything like tablets and game consoles that they have, they have bought themselves. They've saved allowance and birthday/Christmas money for a few years and picked out what they wanted. DS when he was 5, asked for money instead of presents because he wanted to buy a PS4. He saved for 3 years and then settled on a SWITCH instead of PS. You might start a sort of chore thing with your DD already...like picking up her toys, and helping to make the bed, or helping to set the table....little things she can do, and then she gets a sticker for each chore. Maybe when she gets a full sticker chart, she gets to pick out a small toy at the dollar store...just to get her into the routine of earning the fun things. Then you aren't really spoiling her, she's earning it, and you still get to give her all the things you wish you had had when you were little.
 

MOXOMUMD

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Can I ask, how long do you get at each port of call? Is it just day excursions and you have to be back on the ship that night?
Depending on the port and the length of your cruise you get between 8 and 12 hours in port and in the evening you're back onboard sailing to your next stop. Sometimes you pull into port early morning and sometimes afternoon. If It's a day with no stop, they offer special activities, entertainment and dining only available on sea days. On Carnival sea days are the only times they have the outdoor bbq buffet. So good! :hungry:
 

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