MinnieM123
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It has now been 30 years that we have being going out to dinner for Thanksgiving. I was married only a few years, my Sis in law school, my Mom was a teacher and worked the Wednesday before when she said Uncle. While I did enjoy Thanksgiving dinner at home it was so much work. Days before prepping. Up early to get bird in and all the sides that go with it. The pots and pans and all the dishes. Then the clean up. Just crazy.
And no matter where we had Thanksgiving the 'work' and clean up and shopping wasn't shared equally. While I love hearing of all the families that enjoy all the cooking and family meal time I just won't and glad my Mom decades ago said no more. We get to choose our meat and have upto 24 side dishes along with it. I can order any wine I wish. When we are done my Mom leaves a massive TIP (that they often come back to make sure she didn't make an error and she explains it is her Thank you for not having to do this) and we push our chairs in and leave all the mess behind, go back to her home and have dessert-from the local bakery. It is a lovely tradition.
For me, it's not so much the work, prep, cleanup, etc. involved, but when my parents passed away years ago, at least my siblings were still around. So we all would have dinner at my place or my sister's. But then my brothers both moved away, so it was just my sister, myself and hubby. It just wasn't the same at that point, and I kept frustrating myself to "recreate" the sort of idyllic, Norman Rockwell family tradition portrait.
Finally, I gave in to the fact that it would never be the same without my parents and brothers to join us, so I suggested to hubby and my sister that we just go out to eat, and create a "new" tradition. It was awkward the first time we did it, but now we love it. And, we often don't have turkey, either. We've had prime rib, lobster, and other delicious entrees the past few years!
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