Not much has changed except that it has calmed down a bit. It is anything but resolved. One thinks that they should do nothing because, in the end, she is still going to be sick and will have gone through a lot to try and just bring it up to "not good". The other has felt that they must pursue and research to see if there is anyway to keep her alive longer, with or without a good quality of life. She just feels that in order to be able to be at peace with herself she needs to go down every road to see if there is an answer. If she does find an avenue to follow, then the fireworks erupt again because unless it is a powerful argument, the other is still not going to agree.
Both, however, are very intelligent and have sometimes to much common sense. One goes with a gut feeling and the other over thinks everything. For the first time since they were born, we won't be together for Easter. To avoid problems, one has decided to spend the weekend in Ashville, NC at the Biltmore. This conflict is going to take a while to heal, but, it will eventually. I decided not to intervene at this point. Thanks for your concern.