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StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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brb1006 said:
Hey guys if your wondering why I haven't been active on the forums lately. Well that's because I had a stomach virus that been going on for two weeks. I'm currently typing this message on my android tablet while I'm in the hospital right now. I had a few blood tests taken today and more will be taken tommorow morning. I just came back fro my colonosocpy and I'm a little dazed from the medicine they gave me. So I might be back to being more active on this site when I recover. Don't worry @fox_198 I will be back home sometime this week.
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After three days, it's no longer a stomach virus. Hope you get this figured out.
 
Goofyernmost

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ajrwdwgirl said:
I can't really offer any advice but my sympathies to your situation. It is a tough spot for you to be in, as you said you don't want your X to suffer but since you are divorced you really don't have a say. What is really tough is the spot your daughters are in, a difference of opinions could strain their relationship. Did their mom ever mention any medical wishes to you while you were married? It might give your daughters insight to what their mom might want. Otherwise, I would suggest leaving out your personal beliefs on what they should do with their mom, except to encourage them to talk to each other about what their mom would want and talk to the doctors as well. Otherwise just be a sounding board for them. Again tough situation, good luck. Keep us updated, and no problem venting on here. We all need to sometimes.
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No, none at all. She was the queen of denial most of her life. However, she did have to act upon situations in her lifetime that pretty much told me what she would want to happen. I have tried to relay that to them, but, it's tough for them to deal with a problem this big involving their Mother.

I've already told them that I was not in the loop other then as a venting location, but, it seems to have reached a much higher level in the sense of them dealing with each other with common respect. Both, to a degree are right in their perceptions. One is hurt because her feelings are being marginalized as unimportant and the other is lacking in any respect, but, is of the mind that Sisters should be able to disagree without having serious relationship problems. She is also right, but, there sometimes is no keeping basic personal emotions out of it. One way or the other, their Mother doesn't seem to have a long future ahead, but, they have to be Sisters until one of them departs.
 
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Cesar R M

Cesar R M

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brb1006 said:
Hey guys if your wondering why I haven't been active on the forums lately. Well that's because I had a stomach virus that been going on for two weeks. I'm currently typing this message on my android tablet while I'm in the hospital right now. I had a few blood tests taken today and more will be taken tommorow morning. I just came back fro my colonosocpy and I'm a little dazed from the medicine they gave me. So I might be back to being more active on this site when I recover. Don't worry @fox_198 I will be back home sometime this week.
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wow, its been one hell of a march.
Everyone with health problems or other kind of issues x_x
 
MOXOMUMD

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betty rose said:
We , if we end up going we are snacking around the world. We take two days to do that. Do one side and then the other. I love doing this for lunch. It's usually quiet during the week, and we take our time. Of course we have to stop at Las Halles and share a dessert. We are going to see if they add the 15.00$ a night fee, and see how things are going with the cuts. We may end up going somewhere else. Kind of up in the air right now.
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Snacking around the world sounds good to me! :hungry:
 
BuddyThomas

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Gabe1 said:
Good Morning!

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I've woken up like that a few times.
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Gabe1

Gabe1

Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
Goofyernmost said:
Thank you all for your thoughts and suggestions. I have been involved, but, I have been walking on egg shells trying not to take sides with either one of them. Just listening and offering suggestions on how they could expand their true knowledge of what is happening and work together for the benefit of their mom.

I also have been thinking about it considerably and feel that we have reached the point where I have to make my feelings known to them in a way that doesn't say to one that she is wrong and the other that she is right. They both have a right to their own feelings on these matters. The problem is that there is a third person that is the recipient of what ever decision they make, which at this point is to do something that will be extreme in a perhaps vain attempt to make her life better or to do nothing and let it reach its own conclusion.

In this case I tend to agree with what Gabe said. It seems like it is an unnecessary procedure that will not ever have a happy ending and all because we (collectively) don't what to see someone we care about pass on. But, as we all know, that day will come to us at some point anyway and how we get there is as important as when we get there. She has already been diagnosed with less then six months left by her doctor otherwise Hospice would not be involved, which they are. They think that it is possible for her to be trained to swallow again by physical therapy and even some tiny electric charges attached to her neck stimulating muscles to act like they should for swallowing. But, part of the problem is that she doesn't have control of her tongue muscle either that prevents her from speaking in a communicable way.

Add onto that the fact that her past mental health issues have made it easy for people to think that even if she communicates that she does or doesn't want something that she may not be able to mentally be able to understand what is being said. She has lost her short term memory but can and does know the girls instantly. I'm not buying that she is not aware of what is going on. The go and visit her and ask if she wants to play Uno. She nods yes and then proceeds to play properly. To me that means she is certainly capable of thinking in the present and knows and can follow directions. She has a Masters Degree in Nursing and although it is possible that she doesn't consciously remember a lot about it, inside she does understand. When asked if she wanted a feeding tube, she replied with no. When asked if she wanted to have therapy for speech she said yes. I am not buying the not mentally able to make a decision crap. I know her fairly well, I know that she herself made the decision to not have her own mother have anymore extreme prevention when her mother was dying of cancer. She made the decision to make sure that her mother was medicated for pain in spite of the fact that she knew that it might really speed up the process of her death. (It did, she passed away that night)

I guess the time has come to try and rescue my children from the burden of the decision and take it on myself. I will do that because I feel that she will be better served by giving a path for them to follow instead of just asking what path the want to follow. There is a definite fork in this particular road. I am going to give some thought to how I want to say it and then, hopefully give them a way out of decision making while still being part of it in a way that they can live with later.
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{{{Big Hugs}}} You have a real tip-toe through the tulips happening with your family dynamics. I do agree though, you likely know her better than anyone, for better or for worse. After that many years of marriage you have insight that your lovely daughters were not fully aware of or even grasped backed then. I'm sending a bucket of good Karma for that conversation with your daughters, it will be one that words will have to be chosen carefully but hopefully they see you are communicating her long standing views and wishes and hopefully they can make peace with that and concentrate on Mom and her last days. Sadly that didn't happen for my FIL. I am myself trying to stay focused on my own Dads condition. This is the 3rd time he has defied death in the last 10 years defeating the odds. Docs are still having problems figuring it all out with one specialist after the next and a host of mental evaluators. I've always been the one that can read him but it is difficult to keep my Mom and Sis focused without their emotions leaking into decisions. It really is sucidoodles. Pixie Dust and best of luck with the diplomacy with your daughters. More Hugs.
 
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donaldtoo

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Good grief. It was sunny and 92 here today. :cyclops: I never noticed 'cause I was never outside 'til I left for my clothing store closer. I thought it felt a bit warm-ish for 6-ish in the evenin', this time of year.
Predicted sunny and high of 92 again tomorrow. And, with the rains last week, the lake will reach 100% full, again. Should be an awesome summer 'round here...!!!!! :joyfull: :)
 
Gabe1

Gabe1

Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
donaldtoo said:
Good grief. It was sunny and 92 here today. :cyclops: I never noticed 'cause I was never outside 'til I left for my clothing store closer. I thought it felt a bit warm-ish for 6-ish in the evenin', this time of year.
Predicted sunny and high of 92 again tomorrow. And, with the rains last week, the lake will reach 100% full, again. Should be an awesome summer 'round here...!!!!! :joyfull: :)
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They are threatening bad and possible dangerous storms tomorrow afternoon and then overnight. Followed by the weekend-snow.
 
Gabe1

Gabe1

Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
figmentfan423 said:
That's great! Maybe I'll get lucky and I'll be able to see them this summer:)
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Universal has been keeping a watchful eye out for discarded talent of Disney's. It started back when they ditched so many imagineers and many of which were hired by Uni, you can see the Disney touch in the over the top theming of all things Potter. In 2013 when they also ditched Elliot Dyson a jazz musician from POFQ Scats Lounge Uni quickly had him performing over in their territory.

Nice to see Off Kilter land over there too. Haven't seen what replaced the Lumberjacks but I hope whatever it is that it is a more suitable replacement. Will be interesting to see if Disney Studio performers land there also or if Disney finds them other roles.
 

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