The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[betty rose]

They all deserve each other and we get you, win win

Awww, thanks Figgy!

 

[betty rose]

Time for me to do a little cleaning. Got to shovel out the bathroom, once in a while.

 

[donaldtoo]

It's horrible now. I was bullied in middle school pretty badly by this one girl. She would stop me in the hallway, especially if I was alone, and call me names, taunt me, laugh at me, call me fat, etc. She would bring her friends and they would basically create a wall around me so that I could not escape. I would try to stand up to her, tell her to go away, etc., but it never worked, except for that one time my one friend, who could get really scary when she was mad, told her to turn around and walk away before the girl could even open her mouth. It got to the point that I was afraid to walk alone in the hallways, though. I reported it to the administration when it happened. Know what the administrator said? "Oh, typical girl trouble." I even got in trouble for telling her to shut up. Really? There are a lot worse things that I could have said to her.

My dad finally made a phone call to the administrator. Let's just say the problem stopped after that.

In retrospect, I am glad that my parents made the decision to not allow me to have social media until I was older. I was on sites where I was anonymous, like this one, in high school, but no Facebook (or MySpace, which was the popular website for a while) or anything with my name on it until age 18. I could have an instant messaging account and email, but nothing else. I think it probably saved me from a good deal of bullying, especially in middle school. Maybe in high school too, although my one friend said he never really observed it by then.

So sorry you had to go through that. It stinks. Good for dad.

At one point in HS, youngest DD was being bullied and harassed by a small group of boys and girls.
She didn't tell us about it for a while.
Finally, she came to me to show me a text she had just received from one of the boys.
Won't go into details about the text, but, I immediately, after notifying him that this was her father texting him back from her phone, told him I knew who they were, was saving the text for evidence, and if he didn't believe me he, or any of the others, would find out if they messed with her again.
It stopped immediately.
She was embarrassed to come to us at first, but, I'm so glad, and so was she, that she finally did.

 

[Songbird76]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. But I'm glad your parents did something about it - some parents have the same attitude of "kids will be kids" as well.

I think bullying among girls is what happens more often now and they can be worse than boys. When I was bullied it was by boys who would call me names, but I'd get mad and start kicking them (I've always been a tomboy). Although that didn't stop them from picking on me again.

I was bullied by a group of boys. They told me I was too fat and ugly to be a cheerleader, they couldn't believe the school let such a cow on the squad, etc. And then there was a boy who was sexually harassing me, and I reported it to a teacher who basically just told me to suck it up, boys will be boys and I needed to learn to deal with it. These days, that teacher would probably lose his job.

 

[Songbird76]

I hope you had a good first morning!

The kids both had great first days at school and came home so excited. Whew. Our computer stations at work were down half the day, so we had a rough day. I was so glad to be done and go pick the kids up from school!! But overall, success!

 

[MOXOMUMD]

@MOXOMUMD , I hope your daughter has a really nice first day of school. I've enjoyed your school countdown pictures--very cute! Note: 'm still amazed that your schools start so early, as the schools around here don't start until after Labor Day (most of them, anyway).

Sorry so late to answer but she had a good first week. She likes her teacher and one of best friends and TWO of her cousins (twins) are also in her class. Her teacher has an incentive game where students earn daily points for things like turning in homework, being quiet in class, etc. They can then spend their points in the "class store" once a week or save them up. Her teacher has a small cubicle in her room and by drawing names each student gets the chance to shop by themselves as the teacher's aide plays shopkeeper.

I give her teacher a lot of credit because she pays for the goods out of her own pocket. There are a lot of assorted small things like sticker packs, decorated pencils, and shaped erasers to medium things like hair accessories, bracelets, mini sport balls, Hot Wheels and LOTS of books. There are three "big" items a $5 Taco Bell or McD's gift card or "Be The Teacher Day" where you get to sit at the teacher's desk and she has to sit in yours--that's what my daughter is saving for.

 

[donaldtoo]

Did that include beer run time?

Nope. They already had some beer at the hotel, and I wasn't driving on the way back, sooo...

 

[Songbird76]

It's an animal crossing in the Netherlands.

I think I've ridden under that!

 

[donaldtoo]

@donaldtoo , let's hope one of the vendors brings in some free lunch to your company this week. After the frustrating weekend you just had, I think you need a delicious free lunch.

Hahaaa...!!! Thanks!
Yep, we have a luncheon on Wednesday...!

 

[donaldtoo]

I hope he gets BBQ! That always seems to make him happy!

Too funny...!!!!!
We picked up BBQ when we got back from Houston last night...!!!!!

 

[donaldtoo]

Alrighty gang, time for me to get back to the grind...
Have a happy darn day, all...!
Laterrrrrrr...!!!

 

[MOXOMUMD]

The brisket hubby smoked for dinner.
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That looks delicious.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

I don't like Sally Field. I really don't like her.

We watched Sybil in jr. high and had to write a paper on it. Haven't liked her since.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

We finally got our copy of the Unofficial Guide to Disney and my dh couldn't believe all the changes to the FP system and he's not liking them. What should I tell him to calm him down?

I actually don't mind the new fast pass system. I used the paper fast passes again in Paris in in California this summer and I missed the FP+ of Florida. With the paper fast passes we were sometimes criss crossing the park and trying to time it correctly so our fast pass times would work out. The thing about FP+ is yes we were planning a lot in advance but then we knew the plan for the day and had our rides that we really wanted a fast pass for planned out and in a way made it more relaxing as we weren't rushing around to get the passes and then back tracking. Does that make any sense?

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

That looks delicious.

It was, it was his best brisket yet. He didn't rush it and I guess that is the key to a good brisket.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

@figmentfan423 snow snow snow snow
snow snow snow snow
snowitty snow snowitty snow

That...is...just...wrong.

 

[Wrangler-Rick]

 

[StarWarsGirl]

So sorry you had to go through that. It stinks. Good for dad.

At one point in HS, youngest DD was being bullied and harassed by a small group of boys and girls.
She didn't tell us about it for a while.
Finally, she came to me to show me a text she had just received from one of the boys.
Won't go into details about the text, but, I immediately, after notifying him that this was her father texting him back from her phone, told him I knew who they were, was saving the text for evidence, and if he didn't believe me he, or any of the others, would find out if they messed with her again.
It stopped immediately.
She was embarrassed to come to us at first, but, I'm so glad, and so was she, that she finally did.

Good for you. You're a good dad.

I think your example illustrates two issues: 1. kids are embarrassed to come to their parents or do not want their parents to intervene and 2. with technology, there is no escaping the problem. Back in the day, you left school and the bullying stopped. Now, kids can be bullied in their own bedrooms thanks to technology. One of the pitfalls of technology: people often say online what they would never dare say to your face.

 

[catmom46]

I actually don't mind the new fast pass system. I used the paper fast passes again in Paris in in California this summer and I missed the FP+ of Florida. With the paper fast passes we were sometimes criss crossing the park and trying to time it correctly so our fast pass times would work out. The thing about FP+ is yes we were planning a lot in advance but then we knew the plan for the day and had our rides that we really wanted a fast pass for planned out and in a way made it more relaxing as we weren't rushing around to get the passes and then back tracking. Does that make any sense?

Yes! I also like FP+, although I never really tried to utilize the paper system at DLR, but it doesn't sound as easy or convenient as FP+, nor does it guarantee rides.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Decided that I wanted to look into online banking. As with many decisions, I wanted my parents' thoughts. Had the following conversation with my mother:
Me: Why doesn't Dad use online banking.
Mom: Oh, he's old.
Me: Any reason why I shouldn't do it?
Mom: Nope, go ahead

Then Dad came home later:
Me: Why don't you use online banking?
Dad: Why do you think I don't use it?
Me: You're old?
Dad: That's right.

Well, I thought there was more of a reason behind it than that...but okay.