For some weird reason, I feel compelled to throw in my 2 cents here, for what it's worth.
Being a former CM at DAK, I agree with Tink's earlier post (and was actually thinking it through reading all of the posts right up to when I read hers) that the BEST way to handle any inappropriate guest (unless they are seriously violating some safety or conduct rules) is to 'kill them with kindness'. It was actually part of our DAKlimation orientation training. That exact phrase. And I use it in every part of my daily life.
I agree with all of Timekeeper's points, although I'm not sure with the method they have all been expressed. He's not saying that the CM's shouldn't get frustrated. Just that there is a time and place for handling those frustrations and anywhere on stage is NOT the time nor place. Timekeeper, correct me if I'm wrong with that.
I also agree with him that Disney CMs have a standard to live up to...and as he said, one that they signed up for when they agreed to accept the role with the company. My recruiter at Casting made it very clear that it was a high-stress position and asked me a few role-playing questions about rude guest interactions. Luckily, because I'm now approaching middle-age, I have a good grasp on how to handle people like that. Also, as a teacher, I deal with frustrated and rude parents quite often. It would never be appropriate for me to 'call them out', etc. The best thing you can do is acknowledge that they are frustrated and apologize that they are unhappy with the services they have received so far. That is not admitting that you have done anything wrong...it is just placating them to help diffuse the situation.
I am also one of those people who will go to Guest Services and compliment ANY and ALL great CMs that I come in contact with. It is a regular stop on my way out of any of the parks. As others have said, and as I learned from my time there: one little 'thank you' or one little 'magical moment' can really turn an entire bad day around. And THAT is why I wanted to work there in the first place. I can handle all of the irate guests that want to come my way. Bring it on. I like the challenge of trying to be the ONE who can turn their day around for them. At the end of the day, I always felt good about MYself and the job that I did, knowing that I did only positive things on my shift and set the best example of what I thought a Disney CM could be.
I'm not disregarding any other CMs frustrations, including the OP. I can relate to them. But I can't disregard the valid points that Timekeeper has been making either.
So, to repeat Tink's great advice earlier: Kill them with Kindness. If nothing else, it might confuse them enough to forget what they were irate about in the first place. :wave: