My husband talked to my parents before he proposed to me and if he hadn't I think I would have been disappointed for some of the reasons you talked about. I think with him talking to both of my parents (which he did in person) it showed a lot of respect for my parents, family, and me. It was like he was more seeking their acceptance to join the family and reassure them of how much he cared for and respected me. To me it was a very manly move for him to be able to express his love for me to my family. My parents were very touched that he came to talk to them, they already liked him but they liked that they were included in such a momentous moment.
For our wedding we/I was pretty traditional. I love flowers so I wouldn't have dreamed of having a wedding without a bouquet. My dress, I had a nice one but it was simple and really not that important to me. I also wanted a really great cake, because I like cake. I wore a veil, not over my face, but because it helped me feel like a "princess" on my special day. My husband didn't care what his ring looked like and encouraged me to get him the cheapest one possible! I wanted it at Disney and he was adamant it be in a church, we compromised and had it at my home church and took our honeymoon in WDW. So as someone said (
@dryerlintfan) some things have to be compromised.
It is interesting to hear about how everyone sees the different elements of a wedding and nice that everyone has their own beliefs. And that is totally fine for people do start new traditions and disregard others, it is their wedding.
But what I totally disagree or can't with is how much money people spend on wedding and how crazy some brides and grooms get about it. My wedding was small and we kept it to a very tight budget and we had a fantastic time. Sometimes I think people get so caught up in the wedding part that they forget to spend time and money on what actually matters.....the marriage and the partnership of the two people dedicating themselves to loving and caring for one another.
My MIL very much appreciated that I asked her for her daughters hand in marriage. Even if my FIL had been in the picture I would have asked them both.
DWifey had a bouquet, as well, plus there were more flowers in the church.
DWifeys dress wasn't inexpensive, but, it wasn't expensive (to us, anyway) either.
We had two cakes, and DWifey did wear a veil (her choice) over her face.
The ceremony was co-officiated by the Lutheran pastor from her church and the priest from our church, at our church.
Shortly after we were married DWifey, through a long process, converted to Catholisism. Before that, we both took classes at each other's churches to learn more about the two faiths, as we wanted to settle on one so we weren't bouncing back and forth, especially after we had kiddos.
She decided to become Catholic because my family was more devout and she felt there would be better religious support for the kiddos there.
And, we also honeymooned at WDW...!
As far as the cost goes, it wasn't crazy either, and much of the expenses were spread out.
MIL payed for DWifeys dress, DWifeys favorite aunt made both cakes, my folks covered the catering, and DWifeys grandfather gifted us some money to put towards our wedding. We covered most of the rest. We also had a band at the reception from my mother's hometown (Shiner - Shiner Beer
), so they gave us a great price.
It could have indeed been crazy, as we had invited 250-ish guests (225-ish showed up), but we tried to keep things fairly reasonable so we weren't starting off in the poor house, but, had an awesome wedding and memories to look back on...and, that's the way it worked out...!!!!!
I was only half paying attention to the news last night. Can I get some sort of pass for being sick?
I thought you couldn't get a reaction to platinum. I read that it was some sort of fungus and that the only way to heal it was basically not wear them all the time, especially showering or swimming. It was painful. So now I only wear them when I go out of the house or am on vacation. But when I wash my hands they go into my pocket and then I dry the skin really well before I put them back on. The ring indentation marks actually went away, but probably because they were never really tight anyway. I have to be careful in the supermarket especially if I am cold. They can slip off really easily.
) either. Some of the costs were also spread out, but, DWifey and I payed for most all of it (thankfully, I had been back at the firm for more than a year by then).
