working out for Disney

[Figgy1]

We are trying to show him it's safe and effective. My husband offered him $500 cash to go get the shots. I tell him that I love him and I don't want anything bad to happen to him, especially when it's something that can be mitigated, if not avoided. He reads and watches so much nonsense on the internet. We're not ignoring him or treating him badly, but at the same time, we're not giving him the "nice to haves" right now. (Nobody really needs banana bread or a rum cake . ) We are still talking to him, joking around and what not. I really don't want anything bad to happen to him. No matter how hard we've tried to get him to go get the vaccine, if something bad happens to him, I'll feel like I didn't try hard enough.

He had an appointment with his doctor because he said he felt depressed. The doctor gave my son a referral to a therapist and a 'scrip for an antidepressant. He wants to do neither. I asked him to try at least try one intervention and I let it go. He is an adult. But that decision really only affects him. Not getting vaccinated has wider implications.

My husband and I are seriously thinking about leaving him behind on our second attempt to visit my grandmother. She lives in a nursing home and I'd feel awful if he brought delta into a nursing home. I don't want him getting sick and I don't want my grandmother getting ill. She had COVID back in October and I doubt she'd survive a second round.

I just feel like I am up against the clock here. It is spreading like wildfire and I feel like it's a matter of time before he gets it. Probably my husband or myself would be the ones to give it to him, too. We've returned to acting like we're not vaccinated so we don't get him ill. But I can only do so much, because everyone else has moved on and a lot of unvaccinated people are not wearing masks or socially distancing. There is a growing tide of resentment towards them right now.

You're a good mom and have done just about everything humanly possible. I hope he changes his mind soon

 

[Figgy1]

Hello-

I am in with a full body calisthenics work out. I went for a walk, too, since it was much cooler today.

I made a proper "Sunday dinner" with turkey, mashed potatoes and roasted veggies. I was in a cooking rut, so even though it's "out of season," it was nice to have the three of us eating together for a change. My son typically does his own thing at dinner. He eats at 8-8:30, That's a little too late for me.

Seeing my dh is introducing foods back into his diet I made him pot roast today minus a few ingredients. I almost never make it this time of year but he's been really good sticking to the bland diet so he deserved a little bit of a treat

 

[Songbird76]

Thanks. Unless things get worse in C. Florida, we're going. IF we stayed home, it would be because the situation is completely out of control there. I'm just so frustrated with my son right now. He is smarter than this. My husband and I were never anti-vaxers and we always made sure he was up to date with his immunizations. I had no idea he would fall prey to this idiocy.

I was talking to my cousin and his younger brother is also on the spectrum and is refusing to get vaccinated, too. The whole family got the vaccine and is trying to convince him to get it, but he won't. I'm thinking it's the way the information was presented. I know my son will get freaked out by things he sees, like he saw a video about AI and was convinced that robots were going to take over the world. Or they were talking about nutrition in school and he thought for sure he was dying because he had a stomach ache and he doesn't eat fruit and only eats a couple of vegetables mixed into certain dishes. So he thought he must be dying. We had to have a dietician explain to him how nutrition works and how long it would take to really see the effects of a poor diet, etc. If he had heard all the misinformation about the vaccine that has circulated in the US, I'm betting he would have been scared of it, too.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Just wanted to pop in to say hi We got back yesterday afternoon. I'm still debating about doing some kind of trip report in the chit chat section. I don't have as many pictures as I anticipated, since I did most of the driving...but there are still close to 3,000...not to mention the 30 or so videos I took. The trip did show that I really need to get back into some kind of workout routine. Sure, some of it was related to the altitude as well as all of that smoky air out west, but getting back into fitness would have been helpful.

There are two hikes that stand out that really did a number on us. The first one was the unexpected 8+ miles in Glacier. We were trying to get to a lake that was only 0.7 miles away. Things aren't as well marked in that park, so we missed our turnoff. The kids accused us of being old and that it was probably only a half a mile so far, but it turned out we'd gone about 4 miles. It was an out and back, so it meant turning around and walking 4 miles back...plus the distance to the lake we'd intended to see in the first place. The second one was Carlsbad Caverns. Yes, down is easier than up, but it's a really steep downhill and kind of slick. By the end, our calf muscles were screaming. We can still feel that one.

Now just trying to get back to normal and take care of everything that needs to be done for the start of school next week, softball, work, etc.

 

[Songbird76]

Just wanted to pop in to say hi We got back yesterday afternoon. I'm still debating about doing some kind of trip report in the chit chat section. I don't have as many pictures as I anticipated, since I did most of the driving...but there are still close to 3,000...not to mention the 30 or so videos I took. The trip did show that I really need to get back into some kind of workout routine. Sure, some of it was related to the altitude as well as all of that smoky air out west, but getting back into fitness would have been helpful.

There are two hikes that stand out that really did a number on us. The first one was the unexpected 8+ miles in Glacier. We were trying to get to a lake that was only 0.7 miles away. Things aren't as well marked in that park, so we missed our turnoff. The kids accused us of being old and that it was probably only a half a mile so far, but it turned out we'd gone about 4 miles. It was an out and back, so it meant turning around and walking 4 miles back...plus the distance to the lake we'd intended to see in the first place. The second one was Carlsbad Caverns. Yes, down is easier than up, but it's a really steep downhill and kind of slick. By the end, our calf muscles were screaming. We can still feel that one.

Now just trying to get back to normal and take care of everything that needs to be done for the start of school next week, softball, work, etc.

Welcome back! I hope you'll post some pictures here, even if you don't decide to do a full TR!

 

[Songbird76]

Well, I was hopeful about getting steps in this week. We were going to do a sort of outdoor escape room experience tomorrow, but E and I made chicken noodle soup yesterday and when she got the pasta maker out, she promptly dropped the attachment on her toe, which is now a lovely shade of blue, but does not appear to be broken. But she can't walk normally on it, so anything with a lot of walking is out. We're going to see some IMAX movies instead.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Welcome back! I hope you'll post some pictures here, even if you don't decide to do a full TR!

I'm going to do something. I find it cathartic to post some kind of something after a trip. It may be more pictures and just some highlights of the day...including some of the silly and ridiculous stuff.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Well, I was hopeful about getting steps in this week. We were going to do a sort of outdoor escape room experience tomorrow, but E and I made chicken noodle soup yesterday and when she got the pasta maker out, she promptly dropped the attachment on her toe, which is now a lovely shade of blue, but does not appear to be broken. But she can't walk normally on it, so anything with a lot of walking is out. We're going to see some IMAX movies instead.

Oh no...I hope it's ok and she's walking better soon.

 

[Songbird76]

Oh no...I hope it's ok and she's walking better soon.

She's mostly fine....it's just a pretty shade a blue and she can't put on a shoe, but sandals are fine. But she has to walk slightly more to the outside of her foot to keep the pressure off the big toe, which is fine, but she can't do that if we're walking for miles. Give her a few days and I'm sure she'll be better.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

No, I would never do that to him or anyone else. My mother used to give me silent treatments as a young child and I have never forgotten that awful feeling of feeling like you don't exist.

He went to the doctor because he was lying in bed all day, his affect was very flat and he was not showering like he used to. He told my husband he felt depressed and so he suggested contacting his doctor to see what could be done. I knew going in what his options were going to be, but I was hoping his doctor would have a referral that was appropriate for someone on the spectrum.

I get the anger here towards to the unvaccinated, I do. It's looking like mask mandates might return because they are not following the honor system of wearing a mask if you're not vaccinated. But this stuff like, "Let them die. They deserve it." is BS. I am trying my level best to get my son vaccinated while also trying not to alienate him. I don't think he deserves to get seriously ill or die. He has been taken in by this "We don't know the long term effects of the vaccines yet." He doesn't think it's going to change his DNA or anything ridiculous like that. But these "wait and see" people never can tell you how long data should be collected until they feel safe. I am seriously ****ed off with the people who knowingly spread these lies, just to stir discord and helped them proliferate.

We do have concrete plans to go see my gram, we're going in a few weeks. I really don't want him to go. I was uneasy a few weeks ago when we tried to fly out, but since then, delta has taken hold. I don't feel the same. I don't want him to be responsible for bringing delta into a nursing home and causing deaths. We were told he could visit, but he would have to wear a mask (so would my husband and me, since we live with him) and he needs to stay 6 ft away from everyone. Now, we haven't seen my grandmother since Nov. 2019 and I know she is going to want to hug my son regardless of rules. She is going to think one hug won't hurt.

I didn't realize he was on the spectrum...that makes a heck of a lot more sense.

My younger brother is on the spectrum. This is stupid, but I went into his laptop and blocked the site that cannot be named because he was going on there, getting misinformation about WDW, and then freaking out.

 

[Figgy1]

Well, I was hopeful about getting steps in this week. We were going to do a sort of outdoor escape room experience tomorrow, but E and I made chicken noodle soup yesterday and when she got the pasta maker out, she promptly dropped the attachment on her toe, which is now a lovely shade of blue, but does not appear to be broken. But she can't walk normally on it, so anything with a lot of walking is out. We're going to see some IMAX movies instead.

Poor kid. Please let her know we're all thinking of her and hope she gets better soon.

 

[Sans Souci]

You're a good mom and have done just about everything humanly possible. I hope he changes his mind soon

I hope he does, too. I am so worried for him.

 

[Sans Souci]

I was talking to my cousin and his younger brother is also on the spectrum and is refusing to get vaccinated, too. The whole family got the vaccine and is trying to convince him to get it, but he won't. I'm thinking it's the way the information was presented. I know my son will get freaked out by things he sees, like he saw a video about AI and was convinced that robots were going to take over the world. Or they were talking about nutrition in school and he thought for sure he was dying because he had a stomach ache and he doesn't eat fruit and only eats a couple of vegetables mixed into certain dishes. So he thought he must be dying. We had to have a dietician explain to him how nutrition works and how long it would take to really see the effects of a poor diet, etc. If he had heard all the misinformation about the vaccine that has circulated in the US, I'm betting he would have been scared of it, too.

My son will get a headache or a stomach ache and he goes to the worst case scenario. It's never a headache because he hasn't been drinking enough water or a change in the weather, it's a tumor. It's never just a stomach ache because you ate something that disagreed with you, it's cancer.

Or he read an article online about some rare disease with a poor outcome and now he has it. It will be a disease that only exists in developing countries.

I think he is a very anxious person, but I can't do anything about that other than encouraging him to seek help.

 

[Sans Souci]

Just wanted to pop in to say hi We got back yesterday afternoon. I'm still debating about doing some kind of trip report in the chit chat section. I don't have as many pictures as I anticipated, since I did most of the driving...but there are still close to 3,000...not to mention the 30 or so videos I took. The trip did show that I really need to get back into some kind of workout routine. Sure, some of it was related to the altitude as well as all of that smoky air out west, but getting back into fitness would have been helpful.

There are two hikes that stand out that really did a number on us. The first one was the unexpected 8+ miles in Glacier. We were trying to get to a lake that was only 0.7 miles away. Things aren't as well marked in that park, so we missed our turnoff. The kids accused us of being old and that it was probably only a half a mile so far, but it turned out we'd gone about 4 miles. It was an out and back, so it meant turning around and walking 4 miles back...plus the distance to the lake we'd intended to see in the first place. The second one was Carlsbad Caverns. Yes, down is easier than up, but it's a really steep downhill and kind of slick. By the end, our calf muscles were screaming. We can still feel that one.

Now just trying to get back to normal and take care of everything that needs to be done for the start of school next week, softball, work, etc.

Welcome back. I'm looking forward to your TR.

I lol'd a little when your girls accused you of "being old." Were they implying you are senile?

I some times think downhill is worse than uphill, especially when it's steep. I think you brace your entire body to prevent yourself from falling forward. Depending on the type of trail, you might have to step down sideways, too. I think that would make you very sore.

 

[Sans Souci]

Well, I was hopeful about getting steps in this week. We were going to do a sort of outdoor escape room experience tomorrow, but E and I made chicken noodle soup yesterday and when she got the pasta maker out, she promptly dropped the attachment on her toe, which is now a lovely shade of blue, but does not appear to be broken. But she can't walk normally on it, so anything with a lot of walking is out. We're going to see some IMAX movies instead.

Oof. I hope she's mending quickly and you got to see some great IMAX films. It hurts like hell to stub your toes, so I can only imagine what dropping a heavy object feels like.

 

[Sans Souci]

I didn't realize he was on the spectrum...that makes a heck of a lot more sense.

My younger brother is on the spectrum. This is stupid, but I went into his laptop and blocked the site that cannot be named because he was going on there, getting misinformation about WDW, and then freaking out.

It's honestly shocking for me, because he's a very logical person and this "vaccine hesitancy" seems grounded in fear of the unknown v logical thinking.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

@HouCuseChickie I'm looking forward to seeing something about your trip. I like to see your journeys through the National Parks.

 

[Figgy1]

I hope he does, too. I am so worried for him.

I can honestly say we all are

 

[Sans Souci]

Good morning

I completed the second week of my 10 week strength training program. It was a HIIT w/o. I swear, they are the shortest workouts, but they feel like they go on forever.

I have been seeing more and more Lanterfly nymphs and adults. I stomp on the nymphs when I see them when I am out on my walks. My son kills the adults in our backyard. I was cooking dinner yesterday and I saw one fly up into one the trees in my yard. I sometimes think these invasive bugs get here 'accidentally on purpose'. These lanternflies can do a lot of economic devastation.

Spotted Lanternfly

NJ Department of Agriculture Home Page for the Spotted Lanternfly

www.nj.gov

 

[StarWarsGirl]

My son will get a headache or a stomach ache and he goes to the worst case scenario. It's never a headache because he hasn't been drinking enough water or a change in the weather, it's a tumor. It's never just a stomach ache because you ate something that disagreed with you, it's cancer.

Or he read an article online about some rare disease with a poor outcome and now he has it. It will be a disease that only exists in developing countries.

I think he is a very anxious person, but I can't do anything about that other than encouraging him to seek help.

I think that's also pretty typical of people on the spectrum.

B, my brother, is rarely sick, rarely gets hurt or anything, but a couple of years ago at Hawaii, he banged his leg on the corner of a table pretty hard. I came back into the room after getting food and he tells me he bumped his leg. I'm like, "Oh okay." "Will my leg fall off?" I told him no, his leg was not going to fall off, but then he asked our parents when they came back just to be sure. He was very concerned about it for several days.

He also had food poisoning that trip. When I took him back to the room after he got sick, he said to me, "I'm sick." "Yeah bud." "I'm gonna die." "No you're not going to die."