Um, you're not the couple that was on tv a couple of years ago where the wife completely dictated his life and told him what to do or she'd put you in a time out are you?:lookaroun
Seriously, I can't even comprehend the idea of my wife telling me or me telling her what chores she has to do each day, we're adults and partners and I think both of us know what needs to be done around the house and realize they will get done eventually. As for her not riding ToT with you, take her ticket, get a fast pass, then go up to the hottest woman you can find in the standby line and ask if she'd like a FP for the ToT. Then go on the ride at the same time she does and make sure your wife watches. Might even want to get a pic of the two of you sitting next to each other in the elevator and show it to your wife with the comment that "she doesn't have chores for me"
Good luck.
If this was all tongue in cheek then please disregard my prior statements, and go do your chores so you can go have some fun.