Oh yes....I just switched choirs a couple of years ago. The one I was singing with, there were a couple of catty women who made it miserable. One was fat shaming me, and she was on the clothing committee and she pulled me aside to "talk about something sensitive". There was an upcoming performance, and women were supposed to wear black pants and either a red top, or a black top and red accessories, men in all black with red accessories. She told me I was not allowed to wear a red top, I had to wear the black with red accessories, and I needed to get it approved by the committee, and I could either take a picture and send it to them, or she could go shopping with me to pick out something appropriate. She was so uncomfortable and she started to say it was because I was big (she said "Well you're....." and gestured a more curvy figure), then halfway through the conversation, she changed and said it was because the director wanted me to "stand out" for the 5 second part I spoke in Uptown Funk. (As the only native speaker, I was given the "Before you leave...let me tell ya all a little something" line.) But it was obviously an excuse she made up to cover up her trying to hide me, because if everyone else is wearing either full black, OR red tops....what stands out more? Not the black. And I asked the director and he knew nothing about it, and one of the other clothing committee members was confused as to why I sent a picture of my outfit for approval...she knew nothing about it either and said I've always looked nice for the performances, so she didn't know why I was asking for confirmation. So it was all this one woman who thought it was embarrassing that I'm fat, and wanted to hide me.
And then one of the other women, who was on the dance committee, was jealous because when we did the anniversary concert, we brought in a professional choreographer, who asked the dance committee to pick 2-3 people in each section to stand in front, based on stage presence and how well we knew the choreo, but making sure everyone had a turn at standing in the front on one song at least.. At the time, I was a 2nd Soprano, and this other woman was 1st Soprano. So the people who decided who would stand in front picked me for over half the songs. This woman wasn't involved in the choosing, and after the rehearsal where they told us who was in front for which songs, she asked me how many times I was in front. I said I had no idea....I hadn't counted. She says " -I- got chosen for 10!" in a way that made it clear she was staking her claim as queen bee. I just said "Good job!" Then, after the concert, the director moved me to 1st soprano...I had only been singing 2nd because the previous director said there was no need for 1sts, but she didn't want to say no to me, so she stuck me in 2nd. The new director said it was ridiculous when I could sing higher than any of the other firsts. So he moved me. And because I wasn't a 2nd, I couldn't stand in the front for the 2nd sop section, and the woman who had primarily done the staging had stepped out of the dance committee, so whenever we learned new choreo and had to choose people to stand in the front, this woman made sure I wasn't one of them. If I was standing in front, she'd tell me they had enough firsts for the front row and push Britt up front to my place. I didn't care about where I stood, but the fact that she said they had enough, and then she grabs someone from the back and shoves them forward and pulls me back...and after having made the declaration that SHE had TEN songs where she stood in front...she was feeling very threatened by my being singled out. She also made comments...I'm the only one who was classically trained and could sight read music, and the director was not a pianist...he could play the basic chords, but voice parts were tricky. One time, there was a part that he just couldn't play...I think it was for the altos or maybe tenors. But he said they'd have to listen to the MP3 or maybe someone could sing it. Everyone looked at me. I turned bright red and asked "Why is everyone looking at me??" And he said "Because you're the only one who can read music." And this woman was sitting next to me and muttered under her breath "-I- can read music....I played recorder in school." She was so angry that he had said I was the "only" one....but she hadn't played recorder since her school days and she was like 60, and playing notes on an instrument is not the same as being able to sing them without someone playing it for you. Anyway, if those two women hadn't been in positions of power within the choir, I could have stayed. But they made sure to let me know that I did not belong and they didn't want me there.
When the director said he was leaving our choir, I left, too. He had one other group that was much more professional and was more interested in what someone had to offer than what they look like, etc. So I joined that one. Much nicer.
Sorry for the novel.