Yep, again, every family dynamic is different. Sounds like y'all are up to speed and doing what needs to be done.
The way we looked at it was we brought these kids into the world, and love them very much, so we darn well want to, and better, put in the effort up front no matter how inconvenient it might be sometimes.
Granted, some parents do their very best and the poop still hits the fan later down the road. But, I'm pretty sure the vast majority of the time, when you put in the effort up front, you don't raise a sub par citizen, and it doesn't come back to bite you, and more importantly them, down the road.