The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[DryerLintFan]

@21stamps I haven't read all the posts but I did follow your train back about T and the yelling. I think you did a very smart thing by asking him how he feels when people yell at him. I think it's human nature sometimes to forego empathy, but that brought it right back around to something personal for him. I just wanted to say, I'm sorry this was rough, but really good job!!

 

[MouseDreaming]

Well, dd’s team did not win. The other 2 teams they were up against in their division had no falls. Dd’s team had 2 small falls in small group stunts. But look how awesome my dd’s scale is in the pyramid.
View attachment 333727
But out of all the 23 teams in Level one from a Tiny team through to senior, they won the best stunt award, which means their stunt were the best and most imaginative. Not bad for these little small town girls with only 9 kids.

View attachment 333730

Super awesome!

 

[MouseDreaming]

I’m not sure if I’ve said this about our school’s winter soccer team, we’re playing up a year this season because we have two boys with an older birth year, you’re allowed to play up in age, but not down. These two kids are good friends with T and a few others, so I wanted to make sure to include them this winter. Some of the kids on my team have never played soccer before, a few others play for the school, and then my son and 2 more also play select.

Our first 3 games went great, we won each of them. .
The past 3, including today, have been rough.

Today, we were losing 6-0 in the first half. Some boys started yelling at each other when one made a mistake, and my son was the worst of all.. I saw him yell at two different teammates on the field, and then their goal keeper.

I pulled him out of the game for the last 8 minutes of the first half, and he remained on the bench for the entire second half. He cried the entire ride home.
T has scored 9 of our 11 goals this season, we were shut out today, our goal differential is probably insurmountable now, and keeping him out probably had a hand in that.
I don’t care.


Right now as I’m typing this, he is writing a paper on what sportsmanship is, why it’s important, and what he feels like when someone yells at him.

I’m so disappointed in him.

He’s grounded from electronics, including tv, and he understands why and luckily didn’t try to argue it.
I love sports, I love winning, but I can’t stand to see bad sportsmanship. I will pull my kid out of sports, all sports, if I see him act like that again.
Someone pass the parenting handbook, please!

Good for you! T knows this is something you take quite seriously. And, hopefully, he learns from it.

 

[MouseDreaming]

I may have all the guys home tomorrow View attachment 333770

Sympathy like

 

[MouseDreaming]

DS is home, and waiting to hear about DS. Possible teacher strike starting tomorrow. Finals are supposed to start Wednesday. She is, understandably, super stressed. And I am trying to calm down. Too much to do, not enough time before I head to warmer temps.

 

[Cesar R M]

I can't wait!

The game looks so pretty and cool. But seriously..
The game needs like 10 books, 20 diagrams, 15 videos, 30+ playlists and full history breakdowns to understand whats going on with all the games. Specially since the release date or numbers arent exactly in the order of the story.

 

[SteveBrickNJ]

A school colleague is asking me when Star Wars Land will open in Disney World. Anyone know?

 

[Rista1313]

A school colleague is asking me when Star Wars Land will open in Disney World. Anyone know?

All they are saying is late fall 2019

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

DS is home, and waiting to hear about DS. Possible teacher strike starting tomorrow. Finals are supposed to start Wednesday. She is, understandably, super stressed. And I am trying to calm down. Too much to do, not enough time before I head to warmer temps.

At least you are headed to warmer temps.

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

Super awesome!

Thanks. It is all she is talking about.

 

[93boomer]

Those look so pretty. Hope they tasted as good as they looked!

They were scrumptious!

 

[Figgy1]

DS is home, and waiting to hear about DS. Possible teacher strike starting tomorrow. Finals are supposed to start Wednesday. She is, understandably, super stressed. And I am trying to calm down. Too much to do, not enough time before I head to warmer temps.

Good luck, try and relax and yea for warmer temperatures. Are you going to Arizona?

 

[Figgy1]

The game looks so pretty and cool. But seriously..
The game needs like 10 books, 20 diagrams, 15 videos, 30+ playlists and full history breakdowns to understand whats going on with all the games. Specially since the release date or numbers arent exactly in the order of the story.

That's what I have kids for. The consul versions seem linear at least. Tangled, Frozen and Ratatouille all look like they're going to be fun

 

[Figgy1]

All they are saying is late fall 2019

@SteveBrickNJ what she said but there's rumors on the interweb of delays and that target may not be hit. How's your dw doing?

 

[Figgy1]

My power is still going in and out so the 2 times I tried to close my eyes for a bit were a bust I just wish everything wouldn't beep even for a flicker Bed very early tonight. Hopefully by then the wind will die down

 

[Gabe1]

HAPPY MONDAY !!!!!

Came in from Boardwalk


15 minutes for Figgy

Over to Living with the Land

Lemons the size of Honeydews. Wonder how they taste? And a flower for @figmentfan423 to go with the veggies.


One of the shortest queues for Frozen. How we started our day.


If CMs had mental telepathy....if the family does not speak English speaking Louder and Louder while getting closer to the seated guests WILL NOT make them understand any better to pull on yellow strap especially when one is about 5 years old.

Seated next to the Mom I tapped her on shoulder and demonstrated pull on yellow strap. Gee it worked.




And 1130am. LUNCH

 

[Gabe1]

A school colleague is asking me when Star Wars Land will open in Disney World. Anyone know?

I kept hearing Thanksgiving vacation. Now I’m hearing Christmas vacation. All Hearsay mind you.

 

[MinnieM123]

Enjoy your day off,

I am, thank you!

 

[SteveBrickNJ]

I kept hearing Thanksgiving vacation. Now I’m hearing Christmas vacation. All Hearsay mind you.

Well she is going in the summer of 2019....so it is before either rumor.
They have 2 boys and will likely do Universal and Hollywood Studios.

 

[21stamps]

We went and saw Spiderverse this weekend. It was fantastic. Really well done and funny for the adults. A really enjoyed it too, until the girl spiderman went back to her dimension and then she just lost interest, LOL

And while I'm recommending movies.... if you haven't seen Dumplin, YOU NEED TO!!

I haven't heard of either one.lol..but I’m so out of the loop. We look forward to the SW movies every December, a little sad that we won’t have it this year.
Below is the last time I have been super excited about a movie for myself., and I actually did end up going on Christmas night.

Also a huge factor in his behavior is connected by a large string to his degree of competitiveness. From everything that @21stamps has said, he is a very focused and competitive young man. My observations are that when dealing with a competitive situation, emotions are taken over by that single focus on winning and not making any mistakes. That part of the mind overrides the part that says to hold back and not express ones upset and it manifest itself in the form of anger directed toward others that are making mistakes. It becomes a real priority to correct whatever problem that a person feels is in the way of achieving the goal. I don't think that it is even close to being a conscience reaction, it is just one the spills out without warning.

That is not to say that what was done in this case, was not the proper way address that slip in decorum, because just like anything else in life the brain sometimes needs to be programmed to be aware that sometimes our actions are counterproductive and not in anyway helpful in achieving long range goals. I think that the actions that 21stamps has taken are a very, very positive way to get that reprogramming done successfully.

I have a SIL that is so wrapped up in every sport you care to mention that as a sideliner cannot help, but, yell and scream his disapproval of a call made or an action done during the game. I cannot tell you how many places he has been forced to leave because of it. He is a very smart man and in all other aspects he is level headed, good humored and very likable. However, when it comes to sports his Jekyll and Hyde personality springs forth. He has mellowed out a lot after his son was being taken out of games because of the actions of his father, but, if you sat in the room with him when a sporting event was on TV, you would practically go deaf because of his antics while just watching a game. A game where he has no connection with any of the players, has never met them and doesn't know anything about them except they play football, baseball or whatever, be it college or professional.

What’s funny is that I’m super competitive/ambitious, it’s my greatest asset, and largest fault. T’s father was the same, we were very similar in that aspect.. but T’s personality is different, he’s a lot more emotional than I was, a heck of a lot more shy, and sometimes stands aside when I wish he would show a little more competitiveness or maybe assertiveness.. I don’t know how to describe it accurately when trying to put into words.
My youngest nephew is a far better natural athlete than T is, and he also has that natural competitive drive.. sometimes to a fault (the kid got upset while we were at GWL because a girl’s mom was helping her during a match game, he didn’t think it was fair, made it be known, and verbally groaned every time she picked a match, I had to pull him away and talk to him... another time, at a World Cup Final viewing party, he crumbled to the ground with his head in his hands after Croatia lost, and he was only cheering for Croatia on that day, it’s not a favorite team of his ), learning how to harness it is the key.. but T, it’s different.. he doesn’t have that same super competiveness in him.

This probably doesn’t make any sense, as I’m even having a hard time comprehending what I was trying to get across. Lol. I think a strong competitive drive can be a great thing, as long as you stay in control of your emotions when dealing with others.

@21stamps I haven't read all the posts but I did follow your train back about T and the yelling. I think you did a very smart thing by asking him how he feels when people yell at him. I think it's human nature sometimes to forego empathy, but that brought it right back around to something personal for him. I just wanted to say, I'm sorry this was rough, but really good job!!

Thank you.