Well, I have to say, if they've got 2 kids on the team who are being moved down, which is technically against the rules, they obviously didn't do a very good job with choosing their team. Given that T was originally wait-listed, and now the coach says no way he's going anywhere....That makes 3 kids, out of how many, who were not accurately assessed during the tryout. I should say "at least 3"....there may be more. It doesn't inspire a lot of confidence in their ability to assess skills and get the best out of the kids they coach, because if they were chosen for the team initially, they must have something in them...why isn't it showing now? Probably because these kids are.....kids!! Is it really necessary to take it so seriously? Man, the amount of pressure on these kids must be huge. I'm all for teaching kids to be dedicated and to work hard....discipline...but it doesn't sound like they are rewarding hard work and effort...the emphasis is on being better than everyone else. What do these two kids learn from being moved down?
The two kids being moved down are two of the kids who were being decided about against some of the Spring team kids.. and other parents left the club, over being waitlisted at that time. I think I posted about that beck then, I tried to get T to switch clubs with them, but he wouldn’t.
Those two kids performed better at tryouts, but when it came to meshing with the team, they weren’t a great fit. It’s so frustrating. These kids are 7 and 8 years old at June tryouts.. some can’t handle the pressure, i.e. my kid. This is the main reason they send trainers and other coaches to practices and games near the end of the season.. because those times are supposed to carry more weight than tryouts for current players. BUT, that’s not what happened in June. Our team dynamic suffered for it, a lot of kids got hurt in the process.. for what???? 2 of the new ones being moved down anyway??!!!!
I feel bad for them, but I just hate the entire scenario from A to Z. Now we get at least one more new kids after supplementals.. one of the kids on the team below us is moving to our team though for sure..I know his parents, I like them, and I’ve seen him play..he’s really good and definitely deserves to move up.
We finished 1st in a major tournament in Spring, and we finished first in our division in regular season.. and yet the club wasn’t satisfied apparently. We didn’t get a trophy this Fall, and we finished 2nd in regular season. The club definitely made a mistake in June.
(Edit for clarity on this portion- 4 kids left the team after Spring season. 1 got moved down, 3 left the club altogether over the tryout result drama. We had a total of 4 new players on the current Fall team, this current team was supposed to stay together thru June ‘19)
Like you said, these are kids. A lot of them on their first or second year on a “select” team. They’re used to being the best on their school team, and a lot suffer confidence issues when they’re now on a team where a lot of players are better than them..
especially the opponents.. most aren’t accustomed to that. This is all normal!! Develop them, work thru their confidence and inconsistency IF they have the skills and potential. Don’t bench them every time they make a mistake. That should NOT happen until 10U in my opinion... not at 7 thru 9 year olds. I’m just confused and shocked by it all.
Don't get me wrong. I picked them out, but over the years, they got I guess you could say clunky as a set and I wanted something more simple. So I decided to this past September to finally have the center stone rest into a bezel-halo solitaire. I have always had a soft spot for solitaires. And I am getting so anxious to get that baby back!
I was in hysterics and him and his parents were so wonderful and consoling me. I felt so bad because I just ruined a priceless heirloom piece and to top it off the day I was proposed to! DH told me we will get another ring of my choosing and get the broken one fixed. And indeed we did.
Have I mentioned I dodged a bullet by calling off that wedding?
