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Gabe1
Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
My dad a few years ago asked why I had a stash of Sudafed that I kept hidden.
Today, when I opened the medicine cabinet to take some and found that there was an empty box in there, it confirmed why.
Ugh. I really don't mind sharing. But if you take the last of something, anything freak'n let me know. It doesn't even have to be verbally communicated...leaving the empty box or bottle where I will see it works.
Note: The DD never failed that assignment.
Gabe1
Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
I'm in awe how many spend their 'together time' with their faces in their phones. There but not there. I can recall when my kids were younger and if you got a phone call in a restaurant people got up and went outside or to a lobby area. My Mom always says something about phones being out and used...then again she is in her 80's and speaks more frequently to her thoughts of etiquette. If I am to take a food shot in a restaurant with her present it is always covert and in a split second. She has a point though. How much can't wait until dinner is over.
StarWarsGirl
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He does this all the time with the Sudafed, and then doesn't tell anyone and doesn't replace it himself. I started buying my own and keeping it hidden so it wouldn't be a toss up whether there was any left
The amusing part is that my stash has rescued him a few times when he's run out and not told anyone.
The first time he found out about it, he complained it was supposed to be for everyone. By the third time he did that, he stopped complaining. But he still asks every now and then about why I have that. 
Cesar R M
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Well, news of the da...
After more than a week of deliberation.. mom decided to send my grandmah to a semi luxury asylum.
She is driving to her hometown with my grandmah in tow tomorrow to get her to a new care facility that is hosted by a friend of my mom.
Why?
We really cant really be sure if to believe my grandma or not.
The main problem is her mobility. Everything hurts her now or claims it does. The issue mainly is that We are not sure if she's faking for attention (she always had the victim complex to milk sympathy on her entire life) or not.
For example...Sometimes she can stand up just fine (with the cleaning lady and the food lady) .. The others she claims she can't (mostly when my mom and I are present). And refuses to get up. Hell, she even started to ask food to be delivered to her bed.
Which is an hassle for my mom.
Then She just outright refuses to stand and claims she cant. And when we try to help her.. she just throws all her weight on whoever is holding her and claims she is "falling".
Its a shore just to get her up changed to another chair or even to move her to shower/loo. We cant be 24/7 with her. Even less now that my mom has to deal with a lot of crap plus me preparing to move on with my life.
And I definitively cant carry her anymore.. she weights a ton (Probably 80 kg or more). and like I said before.. she randomly drops all the weight on whoever is supporting her. My back definitively is not on the task (specially since I have a twisted and turned spine thanks to my bone differences).
To make things worse, we do not know if she's having mental issues now or having vertigo.. because she could be just sitting there in her favourite futton. (just being set in the bed for example) and suddenly start screaming that she's falling... (she puts quite a drama when my mom is in the vicinity but doesn't say much when my aunt is around)... We just do not know why she claims she's falling when we're holding her or she's sitting or in bed.
So yeah, mom was crying earlier today because my grandmah started to try to convince her (my mom) to let her stay... :/
Worse is, my mom's family is no help.. only my aunt and my mom take care of her.. the other brothers most ignore or claim they do not have anything (f** them..) and the very few that help give very rarely and little.
So yeah, its a huge mental weight on my mom. Particulaly how my mom, aunt and my late dad were supporting my grandmah for so long.
But my aunt had enough of her antics (she still comes to help, give her food, take care of a few hours per day).
And the weight is all on my mother.. both economically, physically and mentally.
*edit* Jesus, I did a ton of writing errors in this.. fixed a few..
After more than a week of deliberation.. mom decided to send my grandmah to a semi luxury asylum.
She is driving to her hometown with my grandmah in tow tomorrow to get her to a new care facility that is hosted by a friend of my mom.
Why?
We really cant really be sure if to believe my grandma or not.
The main problem is her mobility. Everything hurts her now or claims it does. The issue mainly is that We are not sure if she's faking for attention (she always had the victim complex to milk sympathy on her entire life) or not.
For example...Sometimes she can stand up just fine (with the cleaning lady and the food lady) .. The others she claims she can't (mostly when my mom and I are present). And refuses to get up. Hell, she even started to ask food to be delivered to her bed.
Which is an hassle for my mom.
Then She just outright refuses to stand and claims she cant. And when we try to help her.. she just throws all her weight on whoever is holding her and claims she is "falling".
Its a shore just to get her up changed to another chair or even to move her to shower/loo. We cant be 24/7 with her. Even less now that my mom has to deal with a lot of crap plus me preparing to move on with my life.
And I definitively cant carry her anymore.. she weights a ton (Probably 80 kg or more). and like I said before.. she randomly drops all the weight on whoever is supporting her. My back definitively is not on the task (specially since I have a twisted and turned spine thanks to my bone differences).
To make things worse, we do not know if she's having mental issues now or having vertigo.. because she could be just sitting there in her favourite futton. (just being set in the bed for example) and suddenly start screaming that she's falling... (she puts quite a drama when my mom is in the vicinity but doesn't say much when my aunt is around)... We just do not know why she claims she's falling when we're holding her or she's sitting or in bed.
So yeah, mom was crying earlier today because my grandmah started to try to convince her (my mom) to let her stay... :/
Worse is, my mom's family is no help.. only my aunt and my mom take care of her.. the other brothers most ignore or claim they do not have anything (f** them..) and the very few that help give very rarely and little.
So yeah, its a huge mental weight on my mom. Particulaly how my mom, aunt and my late dad were supporting my grandmah for so long.
But my aunt had enough of her antics (she still comes to help, give her food, take care of a few hours per day).
And the weight is all on my mother.. both economically, physically and mentally.
*edit* Jesus, I did a ton of writing errors in this.. fixed a few..
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Gabe1
Ivory Tower Squabble EST 2011. WINDMILL SURVIVOR
I'm sorry. From what you describe she is mirroring my Dad in the end. Some of his issues were health, some were declining mental capacity and some was just freak'n being a pain in the butt. He did all the things you described and since I saw it daily like you I could tell much of it was the loss of mental faculties and some of it was deliberate. He didn't wish to go either but ultimately in the end and it was the end he was literally killing my Mom and that unfortunately put an end for him being at home. He wasn't any different where he was, if nothing it escalated. Thank goodness he didn't have the wherewithall to know he could have checked himself out.
Feel free to vent or reach out, been there done this, it is hard and breaks ones heart. Pixie Dust my friend and big hugs.
MinnieM123
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MinnieM123
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Figgy1
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Me too xoxoInteresting. I buy my fermented pickles and kraut in the refrigerated section of Wegman’s. Need to hit it up on Thursday as I am just about out. I know I can make it, but I have no extra energy or room. If @figmentfan423 lived closer, my life would be easier.
MinnieM123
Premium Member
This reminds me a little of when I was a kid. My father had a home office, and his desk had the usual office supplies, including postage stamps.
Sometimes, I'd like to write a letter to my cousins, and I'd go to my father's desk drawer and take a stamp. But I couldn't just take it (as that would be tantamount to stealing), so I'd leave the change in the spot where the stamp was . . .
Only problem was that it was his last stamp. He asked who took his last stamp, and I said I did, but left him the money. (So in "kid logic" I kep thinking he was over-reacting, and what was his problem -- couldn't he just go buy himself another stamp?!
) So Gabe, I was just as guilty as someone in your family, but at least I left the change!
P.S.: I was probably about 7 at the time. We had a post office about a 20 minute walk from the house, but I was too lazy to walk down there--when there were (usually) bountiful stamps already in the house?! 
Figgy1
Premium Member
^^^This. Except we're not quite discreet about food pics
Figgy1
Premium Member
Prayers and pixie dust xoxo
Figgy1
Premium Member
I'm sure you've just had poorly prepared okra before. I'll admit it can get slimy but with just a smidge of work it can be a tasty treat.
Figgy1
Premium Member
FTFYHe's the best dog ever and I should treat him better.
MinnieM123
Premium Member
My heart goes out to you and your family. This is a tough decision to make. Generally speaking, it's "time" for a move when both mental and physical capacities of the elderly relative slip further downhill, and the caretakers are no longer able (not just emotionally, but physically) to properly take care of the grandmother. (There are some fortunate elderly (well into their 90s) who can live quite well with assistance at home, but so many more cannot.)
Just realize that you and your mom did the best you could for your grandmother (for quite a long time), and in her case, you knew you made the right decision all around.
MinnieM123
Premium Member
MinnieM123
Premium Member
Hey, where's @Mr Ferret 88 here this morning? Maybe he's in church, as it is Sunday morning. (Then again, do they let ferrets into church?) 
MySmallWorldof4
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So here are pictures from our day in Hershey.
The Gardens are up on a hill that are right across from Hershey Park, so you get a nice view.
They built a new conservatory that openend in 2016 so I knew we hadn’t been since 2015, because we never saw it. It houses a now all year Butterfly exhibit. They used to just have a summertime exhibit like Minnie’s Butterfly Garden. It will be nice to see butterflies in the winter now.
The Gardens are up on a hill that are right across from Hershey Park, so you get a nice view.
They built a new conservatory that openend in 2016 so I knew we hadn’t been since 2015, because we never saw it. It houses a now all year Butterfly exhibit. They used to just have a summertime exhibit like Minnie’s Butterfly Garden. It will be nice to see butterflies in the winter now.