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Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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Songbird76 said:
Exactly...and it's sad, because you WANT your kids to have positive memories, but you have to kind of be careful. My dad would say mean things that he didn't realize were cruel, and he had expectations of kids to be basically little adults. Like...he was telling me his hunting friends came to visit and they went to dinner and he got so angry because they brought their 9 year old son who couldn't just sit still and be quiet and let the adults talk! He had the audacity to ask his parents if he could go look at the dessert case. My dad seriously thought that asking to get up from the table to go look at the desserts made him a spoiled brat. And I remember him getting mad at me when I was about 4 because his friends were over and they were at the table and my dad had a boiled egg and I asked if I could help him peel it, and he yelled at me because children were supposed to be seen and not heard. He just had very old-fashioned ideas about how children should behave and he had no patience when a child was "misbehaving" in his view. He didn't mean to be abusive, but he was, and he had no idea he was.
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And that is why parenting is never done. My wife and both my daughters always had a hard time connecting. My wife was one that did whatever she felt was right for her and never thought about how it affected others. That created a gap in her relationship with the girls that widened with every passing year. My youngest and I have a very close relationship, whereas my oldest is much more distant and seemingly unconcerned about whether the rest of the world is alive or dead. I know she doesn't really feel that way, but, she, like her mother, cannot express or see that need for family as anything more then a weakness. She needs no one, and systematically burns all her bridges behind her. It saddens me, but, there doesn't seem to be anything I can say or do to alter her path to the same self destruct that her mother took.

My youngest once told me that when someone, doesn't have to be a parent, but, does apply, does something that required additional effort and connection that is was like making a deposit into a bank and everyone can later draw on when they need it for themselves. I don't know if I explained that very well, but, it boils down to "do onto others as you would have done unto you!"
 
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DryerLintFan

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Goofyernmost said:
And that is why parenting is never done. My wife and both my daughters always had a hard time connecting. My wife was one that did whatever she felt was right for her and never thought about how it affected others. That created a gap in her relationship with the girls that widened with every passing year. My youngest and I have a very close relationship, whereas my oldest is much more distant and seemingly unconcerned about whether the rest of the world is alive or dead. I know she doesn't really feel that way, but, she, like her mother, cannot express or see that need for family as anything more then a weakness. She needs no one, and systematically burns all her bridges behind her. I saddens me, but, there doesn't seem to be anything I can say or do to alter her path to the same self destruct that her mother took.

My youngest once told me that when someone, doesn't have to be a parent, but, does apply, does something that required additional effort and connection that is was like making a deposit into a bank and everyone can later draw on when they need it for themselves. I don't know if I explained that very well, but, it boils down to "do onto others as you would have done unto you!"
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That's sweet. Sad about your older daughter, but your younger one seems sweet.
 
MySmallWorldof4

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Cesar R M said:
Darwin Award? I'm pretty sure its a different thing. Darwin awards is when they almost committed suicide by doing stupid thing (like going to hug a bear in the wild for a selfie).
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I think it is a strange affliction permeating from many people that seem to have a need for others to acknowledge their existence. Probably low self-esteem types.
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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The Darwin Award is given out to people that go out of their way to prove that people decended from Apes. It requires stupid, brain dead actions the magnify the fact that they missed some vital link in evolution.
I think that to be a massive insult to Ape's though so I try not to use that phrase. I tend to think of it as "Dumber Then A Bucket of Rocks Syndrome."
 
21stamps

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I keep having random jabs of pain when thinking about T. I’m so scared for him. I feel like I’m letting him down by not being there, I can’t warm up with him or give him a face to face pep talk.

If he does not absolutely kill it tonight, then I’m almost certain that he won’t make it, or at the very least, will be moved down a level. I don’t even want to think about his heartbreak if that happens. Baseball was enough tears, but soccer? and with his best friend on that team.. ugh I can’t... baseball was also a little easier because he was just-turned-7yr old, trying out for a 9U team.. none of his friends made it. This is different because he’s already been playing with this team.

I just wish I had some kind of magic word to get rid of his nerves. He has to figure out how to handle this high pressure himself, if he doesn’t, then all of his skills don’t really mean anything in the big picture, at least not at this level of play. :(
 
DryerLintFan

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21stamps said:
I keep having random jabs of pain when thinking about T. I’m so scared for him. I feel like I’m letting him down by not being there, I can’t warm up with him or give him a face to face pep talk.

If he does not absolutely kill it tonight, then I’m almost certain that he won’t make it, or at the very least, will be moved down a level. I don’t even want to think about his heartbreak if that happens. Baseball was enough tears, but soccer? and with his best friend on that team.. ugh I can’t... baseball was also a little easier because he was just-turned-7yr old, trying out for a 9U team.. none of his friends made it. This is different because he’s already been playing with this team.

I just wish I had some kind of magic word to get rid of his nerves. He has to figure out how to handle this high pressure himself, if he doesn’t, then all of his skills don’t really mean anything in the big picture, at least not at this level of play. :(
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It's completely out of your sphere of control. There's nothing you can do one way or another. You've prepared him, and it's time for him to just do his thing. Not everyone can make the team, and even if he doesn't, I'm sure he'll have a great time with you in whatever else you fill that time with. But everything you're worrying about and feeling pained about right now is outside of your control.
 
Cesar R M

Cesar R M

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
I think it is a strange affliction permeating from many people that seem to have a need for others to acknowledge their existence. Probably low self-esteem types.
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I actually have seen quite a few of these people.
Who want and act to be the most hated morons in existence, they are addicted to even the worst of all the attention. Because otherwise they have NOTHING.
 
DryerLintFan

DryerLintFan

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Cesar R M said:
I'm checking the site already. You have to pay double then right? First to the RV guys and then to Disney for using their Fort Widlerness playgrounds right?

Aka rent of the RV + daily pay for using Fort Wilderness's spots.

Do the daily rates include the hookup, power, water..etc..?
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Yes. There's the rental of the RV, the cost of the camp site from Disney, and then additional if you wish to rent a golf cart.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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dryerlintfan said:
It's completely out of your sphere of control. There's nothing you can do one way or another. You've prepared him, and it's time for him to just do his thing. Not everyone can make the team, and even if he doesn't, I'm sure he'll have a great time with you in whatever else you fill that time with. But everything you're worrying about and feeling pained about right now is outside of your control.
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I know, and I don’t do well with things that aren’t in my control. I just can’t stand to see a talented kid throw his talent away with nerves. If he wasn’t so technically and tactically skilled then I don’t think this would be so hard, but in the end, the mental game is just as important as the other two. He has to figure out a way to get thru that. He just needs to have fun!! That’s it, just have fun and play a sport he loves, without thinking about being judged.
Baseball tryouts are in 2 weeks, I fear that we may see a repeat of this anxiety in that sport as well.

Cesar R M said:
I'm checking the site already. You have to pay double then right? First to the RV guys and then to Disney for using their Fort Widlerness playgrounds right?

Aka rent of the RV + daily pay for using Fort Wilderness's spots.

Do the daily rates include the hookup, power, water..etc..?
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This is how all campgrounds are though, it’s nice that Disney actually offers thebgolf carts for rent, most campgrounds don’t, so if you don’t have your own then you’re sol.
 

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