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21stamps

21stamps

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Songbird76 said:
Our kids get tested twice a year with a standardized test, and it's just to check their level, not for funding or anything. The thing to remember about these tests is that this is one moment. They take this test one day and there are no re-takes or anything. If your kid is sick, did not sleep well, is experiencing anxiety from home situations, etc....all of those things can affect that test. And some kids just don't test well. When DD was in kindergarten, the test showed her in the lowest category for vocabulary. Well, duh...she's bilingual and they only tested her vocab in one language, so of course, if you compare half of her vocabulary to every other kid's entire vocabulary, hers is going to look low. We got called in for a meeting and they enrolled her in a special class 4 hours a day, 4 days a week. Not even halfway through the year, when the next testing moment came around, her teacher didn't know what to do with her because she didn't need the class....she was doing the hardest work and getting it done way before her classmates were done with the EASIEST work. And then her test scores showed she was above average, they pulled her out of the special class and now she's in 6th grade and is in like the top 5% of 6th graders in the Netherlands. That one test was just not her best day and didn't really show her level accurately. Pay more attention to the pattern over time....is it consistent or up and down? What are his grades like? Teachers are with them every day...they know more about your kid's level than some test can show in a day or two.
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Thank you for sharing your experience!
The verbal portion of the cognitive is what has me concerned with T. He still fell in ‘average’ to ‘above average’ in all of his scores, but the discrepancy between the verbal compared to the non verbal and quantitative makes me wonder if there’s something we need to work on. I also expected him to be much higher in language arts, or at least closer to the range he fell in math...and the computation being so much higher than everything else.

He always gets A+ to A- on report cards, with the exception of a B in Music last semester, but that should come back up this one.
His grades are great, BUT he has received check marks for talking on each report card this year, and the final report card last year as well. Also last semester he received a check mark for ‘not always paying attention’.
So when I combine that with his average Verbal score, it makes me wonder if he’s fully engaged in class.. and if it will lead to problems as he progresses thru school.

I have a reward system for report cards. The rules are- He earns a set amount of money for each A, a B is no money, just neutral. A C or lower would be a deduction from the A money, and check marks are also a deduction. He has yet to get the full reward available, due to the check mark...and he wants it, so we’ll see in a few weeks... now I am concerned though, because if he wasn’t paying attention during the verbal part of the test, then what’s going on with him? Do I need to take it more seriously?

I am looking forward to the input from the school today.
 
MOXOMUMD

MOXOMUMD

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
So I made a Target run while one dd had a 2 hour gymnastics class today for trailer supplies. I watched the video that @figmentfan423 posted yesterday and it made me think. We are not getting housekeeping so there won’t be towel changes or bedsheet changes. Plus, I don’t know how they wash their stuff. Maybe a little OCD here but I took advantage of 15% off bedding and bought bedsheets for all the kids, new fuzzy blankets, and new towels. Also bought hand soap and cleaning wipes. I have a separate luggage filled with that stuff now. Not sure if dh was happy I watched that video.
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Cute flamingos! :)
 
MOXOMUMD

MOXOMUMD

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21stamps said:
Thank you for sharing your experience!
The verbal portion of the cognitive is what has me concerned with T. He still fell in ‘average’ to ‘above average’ in all of his scores, but the discrepancy between the verbal compared to the non verbal and quantitative makes me wonder if there’s something we need to work on. I also expected him to be much higher in language arts, or at least closer to the range he fell in math...and the computation being so much higher than everything else.

He always gets A+ to A- on report cards, with the exception of a B in Music last semester, but that should come back up this one.
His grades are great, BUT he has received check marks for talking on each report card this year, and the final report card last year as well. Also last semester he received a check mark for ‘not always paying attention’.
So when I combine that with his average Verbal score, it makes me wonder if he’s fully engaged in class.. and if it will lead to problems as he progresses thru school.

I have a reward system for report cards. The rules are- He earns a set amount of money for each A, a B is no money, just neutral. A C or lower would be a deduction from the A money, and check marks are also a deduction. He has yet to get the full reward available, due to the check mark...and he wants it, so we’ll see in a few weeks... now I am concerned though, because if he wasn’t paying attention during the verbal part of the test, then what’s going on with him? Do I need to take it more seriously?

I am looking forward to the input from the school today.
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Man, you are really stressing about these tests. Maybe he wasn't paying attention because he was bored with what they were learning and maybe the talking was he is a kid...being a kid.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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MOXOMUMD said:
Man, you are really stressing about these tests. Maybe he wasn't paying attention because he was bored with what they were learning and maybe the talking was he is a kid...being a kid.
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I know. And I’m not blind to the fact that I stress too much and sometimes (a lot of times) over analyze everything. I just want to make sure that he is fine and on a path to a successful school experience. I’m not home to do homework with him every night, only 2 days, I just check it when I get home on the others. I can view the online homework immediately though while I’m at work. He doesn’t want to read aloud to me anymore, so I’m assuming that he’s actually reading and not having trouble with his books. We’re so busy, and he has so much on his plate right now, I just want to make sure that I’m not missing anything that may need attention.
 
DryerLintFan

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21stamps said:
I know. And I’m not blind to the fact that I stress too much and sometimes (a lot of times) over analyze everything. I just want to make sure that he is fine and on a path to a successful school experience. I’m not home to do homework with him every night, only 2 days, I just check it when I get home on the others. I can view the online homework immediately though while I’m at work. He doesn’t want to read aloud to me anymore, so I’m assuming that he’s actually reading and not having trouble with his books. We’re so busy, and he has so much on his plate right now, I just want to make sure that I’m not missing anything that may need attention.
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We used to have a saying in the Army that went: you can excel at your job or you can excel at your home life, but you'll very rarely excel at both. The saying means that you have a finite amount of time and energy, and what you throw it into is what you'll reap, but that you'll NEVER have enough time or energy to throw everything into everything.

I think you're expecting to excel at everything (and expecting him to as well), here, but you might not have enough time. Decide what's important to you, and what's important to T, and maybe cut back on some of the things that aren't on that list.

I could be wrong... because I don't have a seven year old.,... but the phrase "he's got so much on his plate right now" seemed like a really grown up thing to apply to a childhood.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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dryerlintfan said:
We used to have a saying in the Army that went: you can excel at your job or you can excel at your home life, but you'll very rarely excel at both. The saying means that you have a finite amount of time and energy, and what you throw it into is what you'll reap, but that you'll NEVER have enough time or energy to throw everything into everything.

I think you're expecting to excel at everything (and expecting him to as well), here, but you might not have enough time. Decide what's important to you, and what's important to T, and maybe cut back on some of the things that aren't on that list.

I could be wrong... because I don't have a seven year old.,... but the phrase "he's got so much on his plate right now" seemed like a really grown up thing to apply to a childhood.
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You just described the exact reason as to why I don’t date. 😂
No, but seriously, your saying is true. I’ve dated one guy in the past 7 years, he is a great guy, but one day I just realized that I didn’t have the energy to have a career, be a mother, and have to care about someone else as well...or at the very least add one more ball to the juggling act. So I told him the cliche “it’s me, not you.” and I wasn’t being disengenuous with that line, it was 100% true, and he knew it.

I’m far from the perfect parent, and I miss a lot of my son’s life, and I drop a lot of balls, but I can’t drop a ball with the ‘big stuff’ where he is concerned. If our schedule is having any impact on school at all, then something needs to change. I don’t think it is, but I don’t know. Or maybe even if it has nothing to do with his schedule, but needing attention in one area or another. His teachers see him more than I do during the week, so I want to know if they’ve noticed a difference throughout the year, or just to give me any feedback in general. I’ve never had a requested conference, so didn’t even meet with them after the last report card. I’ve assumed based on grades and emails that everything is fine.
 
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Goofyernmost

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21stamps said:
You just described the exact reason as to why I don’t date. 😂
No, but seriously, your saying is true. I’ve dated one guy in the past 7 years, he is a great guy, but one day I just realized that I didn’t have the energy to have a career, be a mother, and have to care about someone else as well...or at the very least add one more ball to the juggling act. So I told him the cliche “it’s me, not you.” and I wasn’t being disengenuous with that line, it was 100% true, and he knew it.
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Isn't that exactly what married couples do every single day? Sometimes things are less of an issue when the responsibility is shared. I'm divorced (actually widowed) now, but, I don't think I ever could have raised my children alone. Among a lot of things that I am not grateful for, I am thankful that she waited until they were grown up and married before she decided she no longer wanted to be a couple.
 
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