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21stamps

21stamps

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Songbird76 said:
Yes, I've heard that about Turkey...and Egypt I think it was. Someone told me that men will follow women into public restrooms. Or grope them on public transportation. I'm glad the hotel manager was so helpful for you! I don't know that I would have dared to even tell him, being male. When you are harassed like that, it kind of makes you wary of anyone you don't know. Or at least that's what it did to me. And it's happened so often, I can't really even count all the times. There was a computer lab assistant who paid attention to which labs I showed up in and when and tried to get shifts in those labs and those times, and he'd come sit next to me and read over my shoulder. (I found out he was keeping track when he saw me once and said "Where have you been? You always used to be here on Wednesdays at 3:00.") There was a kid in my high school who would snap my bra (and I was that girl who wore baggy sweatshirts so no one could see I had any sort of feminine body underneath) and told me he wouldn't stop unless I let him do "upper body lifts" ( wink wink, nudge nudge) . When I visited my DH before we were married, we went out with a group of his friends....I needed to go to the bathroom and I had to go and get DH because the bathrooms were down this hall parallel to the bar and 2 random guys at the bar leaned their bar chairs back against the wall as I approached so I couldn't get to the bathrooms. There was a guy in my dorm who sent me dirty emails when he saw me in the computer room one night and I tried to be polite when he said hello. From then on, he'd stop me in the halls every time he saw me. I would see him and turn around and walk a different way. So many instances come to mind, and not ONE of them where I was wearing anything even remotely revealing, which shouldn't matter anyway, but somehow does to some people. And it doesn't matter if you say you are married, or in a relationship, etc....if your boyfriend isn't standing there next to you, you are fair game. And I know exactly what you mean, you don't want to throw men under the bus....it's not even a majority of guys....but you can't tell just by looking at a guy if he's going to be that one who won't take no for an answer, and you can't lock yourself in your house so that you don't encounter creeps. I had a male friend who was in choir with me who used to walk me back to my dorm after choir rehearsal because it was dark when we got done and the dorms were right next to the frat houses, which were notoriously dangerous places for women after dark. There were 3 of us girls who he escorted back home every Monday and Wednesday night. For 3 years, until I moved out of the dorms.
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That’s so horrible. I’m glad that nothing went any more scary than what you described, what you described is bad enough. :(
Cheers to hoping that over time, people will wisen up, and stop harassing other people. :)

ajrwdwgirl said:
Ok, I sorry but you are all going to jealous now.....currently in a blizzard warning! 🤣. I have to laugh about it otherwise I might go crazy.
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Wow. I would be full on crazy by now. Do you have wine?
Drink wine, take a bubble bath..don’t even look outside!
 
ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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21stamps said:
That’s so horrible. I’m glad that nothing went any more scary than what you described, what you described is bad enough. :(
Cheers to hoping that over time, people will wisen up, and stop harassing other people


Wow. I would be full on crazy by now. Do you have wine?
Drink wine, take a bubble bath..don’t even look outside!
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Not wine but plenty of beer for me and rum for hubs.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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21stamps said:
It never matters how you’re dressed. Like I said, my social media photos had plenty of nightclub photos..with plenty of alcohol involved.. but there’s nothing that could have screamed “I want to have an inappropriate convo with you”.. even if my clothes would have been different, it still shouldn’t matter.

During this convo I actually tried to log on to MySpace..lol.. emailed for a new password.. most of my profile and photos must have been deleted from the server.. but here’s some of what’s left. I don’t think the Random guys thought I was looking for their attention.. I just think they attempted to impose themselves on any female they found. Anyway- whew what a blast from the past! This was fun to see. By contrast, my FB is all photos of kiddo. From SoBe to Midwest Mom.. and loving every second of it.
If anyone else had an account.. apparently it’s still possible to access remnants of it. Try it! Too funny!

(Btw- Wow I’ve had sooo many hair colors.)
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I've heard that hair color makes a difference in some countries too, because it's not common. Like in Turkey. Actually, all of my friends over here have darker skin...I'm very fair skinned, but I have brown hair. All my friends call me blonde though because they all have almost black hair. One from Malasia, one from Sri Lanka, 2 from Mexico, one from Iran. I'm the only one with light skin and not really really dark hair, so they consider me a blonde. I'm told that lighter skin is highly attractive in their countries. My friend from Sri Lanka...she is BEAUTIFUL....gorgeous curly hair and a beautiful smile....she said back home, boys would trade seats at school to not have to sit next to her because her skin was too dark and they considered her gross because of it. Being blonde, I imagine many men in Turkey would have noticed you...you'd stand out in a sea of women with dark hair and skin. And you're right.....clothing doesn't matter. If it did, no one would ever have harassed me. I was so frumpy. I refused to wear an off the shoulder shirt for a musical, because it felt too exposed, and I wouldn't wear anything sleeveless because it emphasized my chest. I was about as conservative as they come. So the whole "What were you wearing" defense is bunk. It really has nothing to do with it. It's the attitude of the creeper that he's entitled to whatever he likes. Fortunately, there are enough of the good guys out there that I have been relatively well protected any time someone harassed me. My brother did the computer lab attendent schedules....I told him about the guy and asked him to not schedule that guy in the Fine Arts building computer lab anymore, and he told me he'd had many complaints about him. Unfortunately, I couldn't report it as it would look like my brother asked me to. But between my brother, boyfriends, etc, I was at least never ASSAULTED. Harassed, many times, but no one ever got farther than that. But I have to wonder, because I'm not even a very attractive woman, if it happens so often to ME, what must it be like for someone like you, who is thin, and really pretty? I mean, the criteria for a lot of creeps seems to be "has a pulse", but for others, they wouldn't look twice at a woman like me, even when I was in my 20s. So it must be non-stop when you are physically attractive as well as....well, breathing.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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Songbird76 said:
I've heard that hair color makes a difference in some countries too, because it's not common. Like in Turkey. Actually, all of my friends over here have darker skin...I'm very fair skinned, but I have brown hair. All my friends call me blonde though because they all have almost black hair. One from Malasia, one from Sri Lanka, 2 from Mexico, one from Iran. I'm the only one with light skin and not really really dark hair, so they consider me a blonde. I'm told that lighter skin is highly attractive in their countries. My friend from Sri Lanka...she is BEAUTIFUL....gorgeous curly hair and a beautiful smile....she said back home, boys would trade seats at school to not have to sit next to her because her skin was too dark and they considered her gross because of it. Being blonde, I imagine many men in Turkey would have noticed you...you'd stand out in a sea of women with dark hair and skin. And you're right.....clothing doesn't matter. If it did, no one would ever have harassed me. I was so frumpy. I refused to wear an off the shoulder shirt for a musical, because it felt too exposed, and I wouldn't wear anything sleeveless because it emphasized my chest. I was about as conservative as they come. So the whole "What were you wearing" defense is bunk. It really has nothing to do with it. It's the attitude of the creeper that he's entitled to whatever he likes. Fortunately, there are enough of the good guys out there that I have been relatively well protected any time someone harassed me. My brother did the computer lab attendent schedules....I told him about the guy and asked him to not schedule that guy in the Fine Arts building computer lab anymore, and he told me he'd had many complaints about him. Unfortunately, I couldn't report it as it would look like my brother asked me to. But between my brother, boyfriends, etc, I was at least never ASSAULTED. Harassed, many times, but no one ever got farther than that. But I have to wonder, because I'm not even a very attractive woman, if it happens so often to ME, what must it be like for someone like you, who is thin, and really pretty? I mean, the criteria for a lot of creeps seems to be "has a pulse", but for others, they wouldn't look twice at a woman like me, even when I was in my 20s. So it must be non-stop when you are physically attractive as well as....well, breathing.
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I’m so glad to hear that you were never assaulted.
My close group of friends looks like the old United Colors of Benetton commercials when we’re all in a photo together.lol. Everyone is from different backgrounds and nationalities...and we all got hit on by the same random creepsters, so I definitely don’t think it matters about a ‘type’.

I agree with you about the hair color thing in other countries..which is strange though, because even the Middle East and Turkey have blonde women. I was so careful about what I wore there.. nothing above knee length, no low cut shirts etc., but I was shocked at how many Turkish women (in Istanbul) had low cut shirts with their stomachs showing, but you’d never see them wear a skirt. It was just something that struck me as odd. Here it was almost the opposite, a lot of women wear skirts/dresses, but not so many extremely low cut tops/stomach exposing shirts...not at that time anyway.
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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In the Parks
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21stamps said:
I’m sorry that happened to you. I had a very similar experience in Turkey several years ago. I decided to visit Turkey for 28 days, 2 weeks in Istanbul and the rest traveling around the country. Friends couldn’t take the time off work, husband didn’t want to spend a month in Turkey. So, I went alone.
I didn’t expect for the men to be as aggressive as they were. Even when I said I was married and made up a story of “my husband is waiting for me at our hotel” while purposely yet inconspicuously showing my wedding ring.. they didn’t care.
It resulted in me coming back to my room before 7pm every night.
I was extremely lucky that one of my room attendants noticed, he brought me tea one night and noticed I was crying. He apparently told the manager of the hotel.. the next morning when I was going out for my daily walk and read, the manager said “please come talk to me”. Asked me why I was sad and why I returned so early every night, I told him.. and he introduced me to locals later on that day. My whole time in Istanbul changed at that point. :). I was so grateful, but it should have never had to happen in the first place.



I LOVED my 20s.. no doubt about it, but there are certain things that I don’t miss. Being at a nightclub and having a random guy grab you.. being propositioned by an old man trying to get you and your girlfriends to ‘come hang out on his yacht’ or ‘I have my Ferrari out front’. UGH.
We rarely ever went out without a VIP table.. mostly so we could be separated from the masses of sweaty people and sometimes groping men (but also so we didn’t have to wait in line for a drink ;)). Luckily I also had an amazing group of guy friends.. our whole group had a blast together, and most of the time we were just left alone..but when it did happen, it was so super annoying.
I lived a couple of blocks from the beach, my best friend and I would rollerblade almost daily.. I can’t even count how many cat calls and disrespectful shouts we got.. for no other reason than we were -women.

Sorry.. I’m not trying to pick on men.. I know there’s plenty of disrespectful women as well.
Just saw Guadalajara and remembered my MySpace profile.. and the reason for it.lol
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Ugh. I've never had it that badly. Of course, my friends say I give off a very distinctive "Don't mess with me" vibe, so maybe that's it. The gropers sense, "Better not, probably would end up with a black eye." Or a knee to the groin.
 
donaldtoo

donaldtoo

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MinnieM123 said:
Henry Fonda was amazing in that movie. It's one of my favorites directed by the legendary, John Ford.
Sometimes we may think we have it tough now; but after watching that movie, the message is that life could be a lot worse.
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Indeed!
It was on TCM about a month ago, and I watched it all the way through. A classic book AND movie IMO...!!!

This had nothing to do with the depression, but, both of my folks used to do their school homework by kerosene lamp.
The Rural Electrification Act was signed in 1936, but, it took a while to get to them.
Pop was born on Jan. 1 of '33, and mom on Apr. 15 of '39...mom turns '79 tomorrow...!!!!! :happy:
 
Cesar R M

Cesar R M

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ajrwdwgirl said:
If you are jealous of my snow maybe this will tempt you. We pulled hubs smoked brisket out of the freezer and warmed it up in the oven. Supper tonight!
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donaldtoo

donaldtoo

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
Well that mom sure found a safe spot to nest. Nice that you left it. I wonder what they think though when suddenly their nest moves at least 60 degrees one way and back. :hilarious:
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She did and we would never interrupt that...but it was on our front door :cyclops:, so we were very careful...!!!!! :happy:
All I know is the front door wasn't slammed even one time for a few weeks...!!!!!!! :joyfull::hilarious:
Smart momma bird indeed, no cat could get to that spot, either...bonus...!!! :p

But, it was sooo cool every morning and evening to see how it all progressed from tiny eggs to little birdies...!!! :inlove:
Although momma bird may take it all elsewhere next time (and I wouldn't blame her with all our mugs stuck in there so many times), it was really cool, though...!!! :happy:;)
 
donaldtoo

donaldtoo

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dryerlintfan said:
We're in New Orleans. We've only been out for dinner and night time festivities so far because we arrived just before dinner yesterday. The food is amazing, though!!

Camera test shot in our house...
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Lots of kids all over playing bucket drums. None had a hat out or anything for money so i think they were just having fun?
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Shrimp po'boy with fried broccoli and cheese bites that were so good it was a spiritual experience :hilarious::hilarious:View attachment 277503
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And of course, dacqueri tongues, lol
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@21stamps I've seen a lot of kids here T's age and they appear to be having fun, but because we've only gone out at night so far we've only seen a bunch of drunk people in a party city. Not exactly a family environment. But there are a lot of family activities you can sign up for like swamp boats. I'll keep an eye out today in the sunshine, but I probably wouldn't bring my kid to the French Quarter at night until she's drinking age :hilarious::hilarious:
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Oh my, AWESOME!!!!!!!
Sorry so late, but, I'm running behind as per usual...!!!!!
We took a long weekend in NoLa for youngest DDs 21st birthday, as that is where she wanted to celebrate, and it was an incredible one indeed!!!!!
Glad y'all are having a blast...!!!!!!!
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