The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

Cesar R M

Cesar R M

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21stamps said:
We were obviously not looking for relationships via the Internet..and there is absolutely no other word but “Creepy” to describe a man who would send a message such as- “hey baby wanna chat” or “what are you wearing” etc etc etc. Men like that have Zero defense for that kind of predatory and disrespectful behavior towards women.
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Or worse, like requesting "nudes" while sending the male member parts picture with no reason prior communication at all.
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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21stamps said:
There is no defense for these guys.

I was in my mid 20s when MySpace came out.. it was my first time on social media. We had a group of around 20 of us, no one had kids yet.. we all lived in either SoBe, downtown Ft Laud, downtown WPB, or downtown Boca.. we were the cliche ‘work hard play hard’ SoFloridian 20somethings.
We traveled and when not traveling were constantly at a restaurant, nightclub, bar, or beach during weekend days..sand volleyball leagues and scuba diving and such. This is what our photos and “wall” (or whatever the MySpace profile comments were called) were full of- Our group having fun.

We were obviously not looking for relationships via the Internet..and there is absolutely no other word but “Creepy” to describe a man who would send a message such as- “hey baby wanna chat” or “what are you wearing” etc etc etc. Men like that have Zero defense for that kind of predatory and disrespectful behavior towards women.

So, we quickly figured out how to get out of their twisted searches. :)
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My God, what the hell has happened to this country that one cannot use words that aren't intently twisted around someone agenda and made to sound evil. I realize that the country is in that state right now, but, I don't understand why I cannot make a simple statement that has no actual endorsement and all of a sudden be the evil, You support creepy people. I am sorry that I used the wrong words and sorry that people couldn't read the rest of what I said and have been able to determine what I meant. So... I'm off this topic. Put whatever information you want on the internet, and demand that the creepy people all just, by god, straighten up or else we will put more information on line.

If you think for one minute that I think it is OK for jacka$$es to do that kind of thing then apparently I have been sending some, unknown to me, hidden creepy agenda that I must support. I'm out of this. Think the worst of me if you wish, but, I can assure you that none of you have ever heard from me in anyway but respectfully. I only wish I could get some of that back.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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Goofyernmost said:
My God, what the hell has happened to this country that one cannot use words that aren't intently twisted around someone agenda and made to sound evil. I realize that the country is in that state right now, but, I don't understand why I cannot make a simple statement that has no actual endorsement and all of a sudden be the evil, You support creepy people. I am sorry that I used the wrong words and sorry that people couldn't read the rest of what I said and have been able to determine what I meant. So... I'm off this topic. Put whatever information you want on the internet, and demand that the creepy people all just, by god, straighten up or else we will put more information on line.

If you think for one minute that I think it is OK for jacka$$es to do that kind of thing then apparently I have been sending some, unknown to me, hidden creepy agenda that I must support. I'm out of this. Think the worst of me if you wish, but, I can assure you that none of you have ever heard from me in anyway but respectfully. I only wish I could get some of that back.
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I wasn’t directing any anger or ill thoughts towards you, sorry if it came across that way.
I didn’t think you were condoning that kind of behavior, I was just explaining why it’s so uncalled for, especially when directed towards women who were clearly not using a MySpace page (or any form of social media) as a dating/Internet chat site.
StarWarsGirl said:
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I do!! I’m so sad that we didn’t make it out to our park’s opening weekend. :(
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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In the Parks
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Goofyernmost said:
Just to defend those "creepy" internet guys... let's have a shout out for those "creepy" internet girls that will readily post personal information about themselves and then get upset if someone responds. It's a two way street. And an easily predictable response. :grumpy:;):)
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I've got guys blocked on Facebook, let me be clear, FACEBOOK, where my profile is locked down and most of my pictures that are visible are with my family, because of inappropriate messages sent. Maybe instead of blaming the women, we should start teaching men not to be pigs on social media.
 
donaldtoo

donaldtoo

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We just had new front tires put on my and DWifeys cars, and then I went and had an oil change on mine. Rear tires were fine.
Both cars are front wheel drive, so those tires wear even quicker. Plus, the old hill country backroad that I drive for part of my commute doesn't help with all the twists.
The old tires were on the car when I got it over 2 years ago, and the rear one's still have plenty of tread left...I'm not an aggressive driver.
And, no more drifting to the left...!
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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In the Parks
No
Goofyernmost said:
My God, what the hell has happened to this country that one cannot use words that aren't intently twisted around someone agenda and made to sound evil. I realize that the country is in that state right now, but, I don't understand why I cannot make a simple statement that has no actual endorsement and all of a sudden be the evil, You support creepy people. I am sorry that I used the wrong words and sorry that people couldn't read the rest of what I said and have been able to determine what I meant. So... I'm off this topic. Put whatever information you want on the internet, and demand that the creepy people all just, by god, straighten up or else we will put more information on line.

If you think for one minute that I think it is OK for jacka$$es to do that kind of thing then apparently I have been sending some, unknown to me, hidden creepy agenda that I must support. I'm out of this. Think the worst of me if you wish, but, I can assure you that none of you have ever heard from me in anyway but respectfully. I only wish I could get some of that back.
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The problem is that your statement didn't come across as a joke. Do you really have any idea what it's like to be a woman this day in age?

I dislike going to the mall alone because I get catcalled as I walk through.
I once got catcalled walking out of my pharmacy. I was sick as could be, and it still happened.
I had to request to my boss when I was peer tutoring that a guy stop coming to me and instead go to the male tutor because he was making inappropriate comments.
A guy at work was recently fired, and I was happy because he was getting flirty and tended to follow me around, and I was afraid I'd eventually have to mention this to my boss.
On the flip side, because I'm a woman, I also deal with men at work (and before in school) who explain things to me like I'm a child or who don't listen to me until I get a male coworker involved. Thankfully, it doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
Every time I go swimming, I have guys who stare at my chest. One guy who did so while he had his arm around his girlfriend.
I had to start carrying pepper spray because I'm fearful I'll be attacked if I'm alone, especially at night.
And then the defense will be like, "Well, what were you wearing, were you asking for it?"

That's our experience every single day. Which is why that joke wasn't funny. A little sensitivity goes a long way.
 
MinnieM123

MinnieM123

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Goofyernmost said:
Just to defend those "creepy" internet guys... let's have a shout out for those "creepy" internet girls that will readily post personal information about themselves and then get upset if someone responds. It's a two way street. And an easily predictable response. :grumpy:;):)
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I think @21stamps was referring more to the "early days" of social media, when people might not have been as careful as today (well at least most people are a bit smarter these days, anyway).

Basically, (men and women) just need to be more aware of what they're posting, if it's personal information. Most people who respond to posts from others, have good intentions. But there's always an element (and that includes both men and women) that do not have good intentions. I think that's what she meant--my interpretation anyway.
 
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21stamps

21stamps

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MinnieM123 said:
I think @21stamps was referring more to the "early days" of social media, when people might not have been as careful as today (well at least most people are a bit smarter these days, anyway).

Basically, (men and women) just need to be more aware of what they're posting, if it's personal information. Most people who respond to posts from others, have good intentions. But there's always an element (and that includes both men and women) that do not have good intentions. I think that's what she meant--my interpretation anyway.
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I think that it was just so unexpected, new, shocking.
By now we know that some men do this.. but back then social media was a cool new platform to make plans with your friends.. share photos.. write silly comments to each other.. and also to reconnect with people from your childhood, high school, and college.

Back then you’d just never think that some random guy would be searching for women online..and even worse- with the sole intention of harassing them. Now we know this is way too common.. and never to read a message from someone whom you don’t recognize.

Personal info consists of Name, Location, Photos, Friends, High School, College. Maybe not in MySpace days.. HS and College names may not have been on a MySpace profile, can’t remember. But the main point is - These men were searching women based on hair color, height, body type, and location., and then profile photos... it was just a general questionnaire that in hindsight was stupid..but you had to choose something-so myself and my girlfriends chose ‘answers’ that would most likely not come up in that kind of search.
Now im current times we have a lot more personalized setting to restrict access..and I don’t think think FB and IG have any kind of silly ‘description’ questionnaire.
 
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donaldtoo

donaldtoo

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ajrwdwgirl said:
I think I will have you all beat weatherwise this weekend and you will all be jealous... :cautious:

Friday: rain, turning to sleet, turning to snow

Saturday: continuing to snow

Sunday: snow ending

Total: about 6 - 12 inches of snow, and some models predict maybe even 22 inches of snow.

Aren't you jealous?! :arghh:;)

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Oh my, sympathy like, and hope it didn't happen!

We had a cold front blow through last night...currently sunny and 68, but, 'posed to get up to 73... :cyclops:
 
Cesar R M

Cesar R M

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StarWarsGirl said:
I've got guys blocked on Facebook, let me be clear, FACEBOOK, where my profile is locked down and most of my pictures that are visible are with my family, because of inappropriate messages sent. Maybe instead of blaming the women, we should start teaching men not to be pigs on social media.
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Smart thing to do, I also have all locked except to friends and family.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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Goofyernmost said:
I'm not saying any such thing, but, social media being what it is should have people male or female cautious about what type of information they put out there. You put out your name which is necessary, however, we don't do it here without any problems, physical information, color of hair, marital status, has no reason to be there at all. I didn't say that women (or men) put that on there because they have any desire for attention, what I am saying is the more that anyone puts on there the higher the risk of attracting that attention. You are the one that put in "the I deserve it scenario" as I did not say that at all. I said, that no intention is needed if to much information is shared.

However, that said, there are women and men that are "creepy". If you aren't then it wasn't directed at you or even anyone on this board. Just a part of a discussion not an overall condemnation of any particular gender. I have two grown daughters that I zealously defend at every turn, I am not anti-female even though I have many times in my life been treated like crap from that gender. So we need to just understand that it was a general statement directed at a specific target, not the whole world.
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That's why I'm asking...because that's not how it came across. Just calm down...I didn't accuse you of anything. I ASKED if that's what you meant. And if you didn't, great. But as @dryerlintfan had a similar reaction to mine, I think I can safely say it sounded like you were saying putting information out there means you want the attention and then you get mad when you get that attention. I just wanted to make sure that we were clear. I'm very careful what I put out there on social media...I don't put my birthday up, my pictures are private except for my profile picture, which I post so my friends know they have the right person, and the album from our Angel Action protests. The rest can't be viewed by anyone not in my friends list, and I do not accept strangers. So I'm pretty careful, but there are still creepers out there. And I've had men proposition me as I walk down the street, or sit in a library, and even after I tell them I'm married and not interested, they keep insisting that they could "show me a good time" or "I might like a change". It has nothing to do with what I'm putting out there, and I just wanted to make sure that's not what you were implying. You're right...there are women who do it too, and it's just as bad when they do. It's one thing to see someone you have something in common with and want to strike up a conversation. It's completely another to decide that you are entitled to anything just because you gave them a compliment, and I think that's what was being talked about with changing the age on a profile, etc, so as not to be targeted by random people. So if that's not what you meant, thank you for clarifying.
 

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