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DryerLintFan

DryerLintFan

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StarWarsGirl said:
This. I have zero problem with what other women choose to do with their weddings. I do, however, know how it would make me feel, and some of those old traditions would make me feel not good, and wouldn't sit well with me, so out they go. But if other women choose to go the traditional route, I have no issue with that.

My mom did the whole engagement ring thing and wore a veil (not one that covered her face), but her father didn't give her away, nor did she look for anyone else in her dad's place. I personally think for my own wedding it would be nicer for both my parents to walk down ahead of me, together themselves. Partly because I don't like the idea of my dad giving me to anyone, and partially because my relationship with my mom is so special that I want her to be a part of it too. Oh, and a tiara. Tiara would be nice in place if a veil. To each their own.
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My mom walked me down the aisle :inlove::inlove: My dad is alive and well, but we have sort of a broken relationship. It meant so much more to me to share that special experience with my mother.

I love the idea of mom and dad walking down together (if they aren't divorced, because that would be awkward :hilarious::hilarious:) right before the bride. That would be very special!
 
Songbird76

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StarWarsGirl said:
And it's totally fine that you feel that way, and it's totally fine that others might stick with tradition, but if it doesn't sit right with someone, like many of the traditions don't sit well with me, if I choose to get married someday, shouldn't it really be my right to say, "I'm uncomfortable with this because of the history behind it, so I'm not including it in my wedding?"

It's not really staying up all night trying to be offended by something; it's deciding what you're comfortable with and going with it. For me, I know the history behind these wedding traditions, and it doesn't sit well with me. Women used to have dowrys, and their fathers used to approve of their husbands, and their husbands were given a dowry for them. Some of them weren't given the choice in who they would marry. Heck, in some parts of the world, they still don't. They literally were viewed as property, or fathers would arrange marriages for their own benefit. If I get married, I don't want any part of those old traditions that came from that era in my wedding. Picturing myself with a wedding like that sometimes literally makes my skin crawl. I want a wedding that represents a modern partnership that we're building. It's not being offended; it's choosing what's right for yourself.

That being said, if any of my girlfriends decided that they wanted a full blown big white traditional style wedding where they wore a full veil and they had their dad walk them down the aisle and they asked me to be a bridesmaid, you can bet I would be there supporting her, because it's also important to me that women have that choice.
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^^^^^This! When I was in college, my vocal jazz group was on tour and we're sitting in the van and talking about future plans and I said I wanted to be a stay at home mom when I had kids and everyone started ragging on me about why was I in college if I wasn't going to use my degree, and anyway, I HAD to go out and work because women before me fought so hard to have the right to work and I would be dishonoring them if I didn't use it. My comment was that women fought to have the OPTION to work....forcing me to get a job when I want to be home for my family is no less a lack of freedom than forcing a woman to stay home when she wants to work. It's all about what you want for yourself. I didn't have kids as showpieces for someone else to raise in a daycare. I wanted to be there for all the firsts, and for everything...having a job outside the home would not be conducive to that. If someone else wants to get a job, great....do it! But that doesn't mean that I HAVE to because someone ELSE wanted that. We put entirely too much pressure on people to do what everyone else is doing instead of making their own decisions....you HAVE to get married, you HAVE to have children, you HAVE to have a career...why? Why does it matter to anyone else how I choose to spend my time and live my life?
 
StarWarsGirl

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figmentfan423 said:
Is that any way to talk about your children:cautious: How are you feeling today? Staying inside and resting I hope
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I haven't been out except to get my chest x-rayed. Doctor's office will call with the resultss hopefully later tonight or by tomorrow. My doc already called up to check on me.

My awesome mother took my car to the grocery store, filled it up with gas (I handed her my card), got me Starbucks, and bought avocados even though she doesn't like them. She also made ham and bean soup earlier this week, which is pretty much what I'm living on.

Docotr called back. Chest x-ray showed no pnumonia, thank goodness. So we shall take it a day at a time.

Jasmine keeps dragging up insulation from the utility room in the basement, so I think nuts is the correct word. :hilarious: You can't even tell she got spayed last week. She's pretty much back to normal. Although drugged kitten was pretty hilarious. At one point, she laid down next to her water fountain, stretched out, and got her foot in the water. 😂
 
93boomer

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StarWarsGirl said:
I haven't been out except to get my chest x-rayed. Doctor's office will call with the resultss hopefully later tonight or by tomorrow. My doc already called up to check on me.

My awesome mother took my car to the grocery store, filled it up with gas (I handed her my card), got me Starbucks, and bought avocados even though she doesn't like them. She also made ham and bean soup earlier this week, which is pretty much what I'm living on.

Docotr called back. Chest x-ray showed no pnumonia, thank goodness. So we shall take it a day at a time.

Jasmine keeps dragging up insulation from the utility room in the basement, so I think nuts is the correct word. :hilarious: You can't even tell she got spayed last week. She's pretty much back to normal. Although drugged kitten was pretty hilarious. At one point, she laid down next to her water fountain, stretched out, and got her foot in the water. 😂
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Oh good for no pneumonia! Yayy! But I really hope you bounce back this weekend and feel lots better!! Glad Jasmine is doing well.
 
StarWarsGirl

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Songbird76 said:
^^^^^This! When I was in college, my vocal jazz group was on tour and we're sitting in the van and talking about future plans and I said I wanted to be a stay at home mom when I had kids and everyone started ragging on me about why was I in college if I wasn't going to use my degree, and anyway, I HAD to go out and work because women before me fought so hard to have the right to work and I would be dishonoring them if I didn't use it. My comment was that women fought to have the OPTION to work....forcing me to get a job when I want to be home for my family is no less a lack of freedom than forcing a woman to stay home when she wants to work. It's all about what you want for yourself. I didn't have kids as showpieces for someone else to raise in a daycare. I wanted to be there for all the firsts, and for everything...having a job outside the home would not be conducive to that. If someone else wants to get a job, great....do it! But that doesn't mean that I HAVE to because someone ELSE wanted that. We put entirely too much pressure on people to do what everyone else is doing instead of making their own decisions....you HAVE to get married, you HAVE to have children, you HAVE to have a career...why? Why does it matter to anyone else how I choose to spend my time and live my life?
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Yes, I agree 100%. There is nothing wrong with going to college and then choosing to be a stay at home mom. After all, you do need to do something in between the turning 18 part of your life and birthing children, and once a stay at home mom doesn't always mean stay at home mom. A lot of women, and men, take time off to raise their kids, and a lot don't. It's no one's business but their own.

My mom never went to college, but she was a stay at home mom. It made sense. They would about break even putting me in daycare verses her staying home, and she wanted to be home with me. She intended to go back when I was in school, but then she had my brother and that didn't happen. It was great growing up with my mom at home, but I'm not sure I could do the same thing; I'm not sure I even want kids. But yet it seems you get the opposite end, where if you don't stay home, people tell you that you don't care about your children, when that simply isn't true either. Funny how people seem to think they know what's best for everyone else instead of letting people decide for themselves.
 
StarWarsGirl

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@figmentfan423 Further to the point that the cats are nuts...

I switched Belle over to another wet food. I started giving her and Jasmine the same wet food, tuna flavored. Well, Belle kept turning her nose up at it. So I thought, well, maybe she doesn't like the tuna flavor, and I ordered chicken flavor. I put the tuna in front of Jasmine and the chicken in front of Belle...they switched foods. Tonight, I gave Belle the tuna and Jasmine the chicken...Belle ate the tuna with no issue. So she just wants the option of which food, and Jasmine gets second pick. Princess cat. :rolleyes:
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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MOXOMUMD said:
I was looking something up and saw William Shatner is 86. o_O I thought he was about 20 years younger.
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He looks young. But considering how old he was in the 60s...but then he also doesn't look too different from when he made the Trek movies. In fact, Patrick Stewart looks no different than when he was on TNG. Methinks Starfleet Captains drink from the fountain of youth.
 

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