The excuses would make me more upset, too!! Especially if you KNOW he just forgot. My dad has never been very big on birthdays so it doesn't really bother me that he forgets because I don't EXPECT him to remember...that's just my dad. But my brother is a different story. When I first moved here, my mom had just died a few months prior and her wish was that neither of her kids be alone on Christmas that first year. Because I moved away, I felt responsible for that, so I bought my brother a plane ticket to come here for Christmas. He blew off my birthday that year and I was really hurt by it. When he got here, my MIL mentioned to him that he might want to wish me a belated birthday as I had been hurt that he hadn't remembered...he still never did, even after she mentioned it. ( I was in the bathroom when she mentioned it. I lived with my in-laws at the time, so when he visited, he stayed at their house. Which, he brought no gift or card for them to thank them for letting him stay in their home for 2 weeks and then told them the reason he had nothing was because we refused to take him to a flower shop on the way....he had never ASKED...in fact we passed several flower shops in the airport and he commented on how cheap flowers were here...he couldn't believe it! If only he had someone to buy flowers for. :/ ) Then he told everyone back home that he was honoring my mom's wish, because I moved away, so everyone thought he was just this great guy to come all the way to the Netherlands to make sure my mom's last wish was honored even though I had abandoned him. No one knew that we paid for the trip and he stayed with us so he had ZERO expenses and he didn't even say Thank you. I SHOULDN'T be so upset..I know how he is, but it still hurts. I'm sorry your husband's sister is unkind, too. It has so much more gravity when it's family, doesn't it?
To top things off James is in a major panic there won't be school tomorrow.
