StarWarsGirl
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Don't be surprised if it reverses. I was the good student and fairly easy as a kid while my brother, who has autism, had trouble at school, got in trouble a good bit, and just generally was more challenging. He's in middle school now, and while he has days where he is completely irritating to live with, he generally gives my mom less carp than I did. Of course, I very rarely gave my dad any carp, and to some degree, he was perpetually amused, but my brother balances out nore who he pulls the carp with.Granted, we're not in the teen years yet, but so far, my daughter is WAY easier than my son. I don't have to get on her much at all, her teachers love her, she's got the best grades in her class, I don't have to remind her to do homework if she has any...she WANTS to do it. And she is a smiley, happy girl. My son gets great grades at school, but he has emotional issues that make him harder to deal with. He's behind developmentally, so things like empathy haven't really developed yet and he still thinks that "fair" is him getting whatever he wants and he has meltdowns when things don't go the way he thought they would, though he is SO much better about that now than he was even a year ago. He's getting there, and he can be really funny and smart...I just have to do a lot more parenting with him than I do with DD...she pretty much parents herself.
I will say this: don't let your son or daughter get away with talking disrespectfully to you. Demand respect. Don't let thay slide, because if you do, you'll have far more problens down the line than if you just nip the problem when it starts. Just pure observation: my friends whose parenfs were like mime talked respectfully to their parents by high school whereas my mom's one friend, who let a lot slide during middle school, has problems now with respect at home (I've heard her daughter speak go her...I never would have gotten that far with my mom), and her daughter is a high school senior. They've also had problems with her being disrespectful to other adults, including teachers. Be understanding of the raging hormones, and realize that to some degree, your kids really can't help it. But don't use it as an excuse for poor behavior either.