Goofyernmost
Well-Known Member
Never said I didn't accept it, I just think that there must be a better way to leave life then the process of aging. It is what it is, but I certainly can wish for something different. Caring for aging parents is certainly a commendable thing but it shouldn't be necessary. I know there is nothing that can be done about it, but wouldn't it be nice if we could find that grateful situation in some other way?I disagree with some points. Aging is a fact of life so we need to face it. Taking care of my loved ones who brought me into this earth , disciplined me with tough love, provided me a good life while they worked hard to raise their boys I am forever thankful. Whatever condition my loved ones are in , my world is to take care of them regardless of situation. I seek out help so I am not alone in this. Being a caregiver is the toughest but most grateful job a son/daughter can do to take care of their aging parent , End of rant!
I discovered that thought years ago when I owned my nursing home. It happened one morning when I received a call at home that one of my residents had passed. I got there quickly and there she was. One of the nicest older people I had ever met. She had a life of hardships and challenges and through it all had maintained a positive and upbeat attitude. There she was laying on the floor dead, with her clothing half off as one would when using the bathroom and it made me angry. A human being that had done the best they could throughout a fairly long life and now in death, all dignity is gone. It happens, but for the life of me I do not understand why it has to end like this or illness or just slowing declining into total dependency on others. It may be rewarding for caregivers and I'm sure it is, but let's consider the care needer and how much pain and frustration they must be dealing with for that to happen. I just cannot understand why any of it is necessary. I'm not trying to say that there is any humanly way it can be different, I'm just bewildered about why there isn't a better way, but we have no control over that!