The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

Well-Known Member
MinnieM123 said:
@BuddyThomas , I have the local (Boston) news on in the background, and they just shares a current video of Times Square in the snowstorm. There were hardly any cars at all on the streets there! 😮 Looks like a lot of New Yorkers are working from home today.
Click to expand...
It’s actually looked like that for almost a year now. We put on the Times Square webcam pretty often.
 
DryerLintFan

DryerLintFan

Premium Member
ajrwdwgirl said:
I don’t really know what that means.
Click to expand...

It's like in redit.... On some of the posts looking for an answer, if an answer is better than the others you can upvote it. If it gets enough upvotes it should rise to the top, so when others open the thread they'll see the question and then the upvotes answer.

Redit also allows you to downvote, but this is a family site 😂😂


20210203_072402.jpg
 
ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

Premium Member
dryerlintfan said:
It's like in redit.... On some of the posts looking for an answer, if an answer is better than the others you can upvote it. If it gets enough upvotes it should rise to the top, so when others open the thread they'll see the question and then the upvotes answer.

Redit also allows you to downvote, but this is a family site 😂😂


View attachment 529142
Click to expand...

thanks. I saw the arrows thing but didn’t really know and I don’t go on Reddit. 🙂
 
Santa Raccoon 77

Santa Raccoon 77

Thank you sir. You were an inspiration.
dryerlintfan said:
You'd be pretty boxed out right now though... Because everything has to be mobile ordered. Even when you have an ADR they seem to really want you to mobile check in. And a few of the other restaurants off property are using virtual queues, too.

Eating at Disney is weird right now😂😂
Click to expand...
One of the reasons we aren't in a rush to get back there .
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

Well-Known Member
Songbird76 said:
But isn't this guy "the" boss? If he owns the company, he can't be fired. And yes, I'm sure there are instances where a person uses an illness to get away with some bad behavior, but that doesn't mean they have complete control over it all the time. And like I said, it doesn't excuse him from taking responsibility...if he has an illness, he needs to get treatment, and he needs to apologize and fix it when he does have an outburst. The problem is that we, as bystanders, can't tell what's controllable by the person and what's just them being a jerk. So sometimes we have to just stop and think...ok, if this IS part of their illness, what can I do right now to help? In this moment, what's the best thing for me to do to calm the situation? And of course you can choose to be angry because their behavior is inappropriate, and you can dig in your heels and insist you are right, which you probably are...but does that help fix your problem? Being right doesn't necessarily mean you are happy. The goal isn't to be "right". The goal is to fix the problem. Everyone in the situation has their own role and responsibility for resolving the conflict. How you engage with the other person makes a difference, even if mental illness isn't involved. But if mental illness IS involved, it changes the approach. And you just keep trying different things until you find what works. It took YEARS to finally figure out how to stop the meltdowns A was having. I'd be exhausted after he had had 16 meltdowns in a day because I went up the stairs before my husband, or because I gave him the green cup instead of the blue one, etc. Now I understand more from his perspective...if last time he had the blue cup, he knew the blue cup was safe. What if the green cup was different? And at 2 years old, he couldn't express to me that the green cup didn't feel safe to him...it was unknown and therefore scary. I didn't understand why he was screaming like he was being murdered, and it seemed ridiculous to me. But to him, it was a HUGE deal. Yes, to most of us, it wouldn't matter...blue cup, green cup, who cares? It's not the end of the world. But that doesn't mean it wasn't a very real issue to him. And it doesn't matter that I was "right" that there was nothing wrong with the green cup, that his fear was irrational, because being right didn't stop him from feeling unsafe and didn't keep him from screaming. I had to learn different ways to engage with him. "Would you like the blue cup or the green cup?" instead of "Here's your milk." It cost me nothing to change how I approached it, but it helped him. And yes, it's absolutely ridiculous to me that the color of the cup matters, and sometimes I wanted to shout "IT DOESN'T MATTER! Just DRINK THE MILK!" But that's not productive. Right or not, it doesn't work.
Click to expand...
I'm sorry for the confusion here. I might have misread the post, but I don't remember anyplace where he mentioned that the person causing the problem owns the business. Being the boss doesn't necessarily mean top of the company chain. Anyway, it seems to me when you say Drink the Milk that people don't have a choice. They do have a choice and I think he mentioned that he was looking for a new job. However, to think that for one minute that employees have any influence on the behavior over someone they work for without that chain of command, I don't believe is realistic. Putting up with it does not make for a pleasant work place, and not knowing why this guy just seems to pick on one person is also something that needs to be known in order to know the proper action one should take. Let me tell you that life is way to short to put up with abuse on any level. My example was just my experience. I do not claim to know how to fix it. I was her alleged partner in life and she wouldn't listen to me when I begged her to get the "proper care". She did seek help but only if the person she was talking to agreed with everything she said. She didn't want to be wrong and she spent the remainder of her life convinced that she was correct and the world was out to get her, so she had to show her anger. That, however, didn't mean that she didn't know that her actions were wrong and needed to not be shown to her kids. The fact that she could be come sugary sweet in nano seconds when the kids walked in made me know that not only could she control it, but she also knew what she was doing was not the correct behavior. Later when her mind took over completely then she was more likely to show herself even to her kids. Even than not as harshly as she did to everyone else. I can forgive her because I know she had an illness, but it wasn't going to be fixed until she realized that it needed real help. She last year of her life she was alone. She couldn't make friends and if she could she would drive them off quickly. She probably would have passed much sooner if our girls hadn't gotten together and moved her here to NC. I flew up with my son in law to Vermont to move her stuff down here and I couldn't get over the filthy mess she was living in. Dirt, dust, clutter, rotting food, unwashed dishes in the sink and on the stove. It was awful, but no matter how hard we all tried to help her, none of it took. The help she got from her family was an act of trying to do the right thing for a stranger that none of us knew anymore. I don't wish that on anyone especially someone that you once loved enough to marry and raise a family with. None of us could convince her that she needed much stronger help then she was willing to accept. And to put this all in perspective this was a highly intelligent woman that held a Masters Degree in Nursing, a Masters Degree in Gerontology and was within months of her Doctorate in Gerontology that she was unable to finish because of her illness. She had it written but was not well enough to defend it.
 

Register on WDWMAGIC. This sidebar will go away, and you'll see fewer ads.

Back
Top Bottom