The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[StarWarsGirl]

He says he doesn't need to learn because he has "people to do those things" for him.

Oh, and a while back, he asked me why I didn't do yard work. I told him I have people to do that for me.

 

[Figgy1]

Floriduh man https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crim...-ride-home-cops-say/ar-BB1dkF4d?ocid=msedgntp Around here the cops either drive somebody in his condition home or make arrangements for a ride

 

[Gabe1]

Oops. Just for that day, instead of what would have been a snow day. This week, students start Wed. attendance. So, group A is Monday, Wednesday, Thursday. Group B is Tuesday Friday. Next week, Group A is Monday, Thursday. Group B is Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday. The following week, school district has decided all of the students who have been doing hybrid will be back in school, 5 days a week.

Bless ya all.

 

[Songbird76]

Cases don't show up from spreading events for a few weeks, and even crowded the park felt safe. Plus it's outside.

They've gotten really lazy about reporting though and often report numbers on the wrong day. In Ohio we've had artificial spikes because of this.

I read that the UK version made it to Florida, too, and that could be causing spikes. It spreads faster, apparently. A week or so ago, they said something like 5% of our cases are the British variant. Yesterday, they announced that 2/3 of the cases are British variant, so it is spreading like wildfire. They extended our lockdown until March 2nd. We were supposed to open back up next week. They haven't decided about the curfew yet, whether that will remain in place or be lifted. They think a 3rd wave is inevitable and they want to see if the curfew has a large effect before they decide whether to extend that as well.

My driving test is supposed to be March 11th, and I'm sooooo glad I had the foresight to plan all the lessons before it in the week and a half before instead of more spread out. I figured if they extended the lockdown again, I could keep my lessons that way, so 3 out of the 4 are still fine, unless they extend again after March 2nd. But there's no use worrying about that now.

 

[Songbird76]

It's what we would ask for as our phones stay in the safe all holiday.

Do you not use them for the app so you can make ADRs or change fastpasses? We take ours with us, but can't actually use them to call or anything...we can only use things that are internet based and only when we have wifi.

 

[Santa Raccoon 77]

Do you not use them for the app so you can make ADRs or change fastpasses? We take ours with us, but can't actually use them to call or anything...we can only use things that are internet based and only when we have wifi.

Nope . We use the kiosks for any further fastpasses. And never had to change an adr as we make so few.

 

[Songbird76]

I’m glad she won’t have to download that software,. I had a few kids with a wonky connection and their webcams would change colors, they didn’t have to keep their camera on long when we were virtual so their connection wouldn’t drop.

Yeah, E said her best friend's computer is so old that she can't download anything. So it was good that they didn't make them do that. We now got an email from the school that said for testing, students MUST have their webcam on and if they don't, their tests won't be counted and they will have to do a makeup test when schools open again. So at least they do have an option for kids who don't have a webcam....they just have to do a makeup test later.

 

[Songbird76]

Dh's job has cots, blankets, "food" in pouches, generators and toilet paper

It makes sense, I guess. In the case of the mines, they are pretty far out there in the country, away from towns and such, so if the roads are bad, they are stuck and there's no way to run to a grocery store to pick something up. But then, in Wyoming, we're so used to big storms it takes a lot for them to get to that point where they'd cancel operations. Was that storm system that hit there only in the East, or were there other parts of the country affected?

 

[Songbird76]

Well the can't control scenario is not always correct. From personal experience, my wife would go on a screaming tangent. spouting things that made no sense at all even if you had time to evaluate it. She would become very agitated and directed her anger at me. However, if both or either of our kids entered the scene, she completely shut it off, instantly. Now as she got worse over the years, she didn't have the control that she had early on, but no one is going to convince me that certain elements of metal illness are not within the control of the individual, they just don't want to. If this guy were seriously deep into uncontrollable mental illness he would have displayed to everyone including his bosses. If that were happening he would be gone by now.

But isn't this guy "the" boss? If he owns the company, he can't be fired. And yes, I'm sure there are instances where a person uses an illness to get away with some bad behavior, but that doesn't mean they have complete control over it all the time. And like I said, it doesn't excuse him from taking responsibility...if he has an illness, he needs to get treatment, and he needs to apologize and fix it when he does have an outburst. The problem is that we, as bystanders, can't tell what's controllable by the person and what's just them being a jerk. So sometimes we have to just stop and think...ok, if this IS part of their illness, what can I do right now to help? In this moment, what's the best thing for me to do to calm the situation? And of course you can choose to be angry because their behavior is inappropriate, and you can dig in your heels and insist you are right, which you probably are...but does that help fix your problem? Being right doesn't necessarily mean you are happy. The goal isn't to be "right". The goal is to fix the problem. Everyone in the situation has their own role and responsibility for resolving the conflict. How you engage with the other person makes a difference, even if mental illness isn't involved. But if mental illness IS involved, it changes the approach. And you just keep trying different things until you find what works. It took YEARS to finally figure out how to stop the meltdowns A was having. I'd be exhausted after he had had 16 meltdowns in a day because I went up the stairs before my husband, or because I gave him the green cup instead of the blue one, etc. Now I understand more from his perspective...if last time he had the blue cup, he knew the blue cup was safe. What if the green cup was different? And at 2 years old, he couldn't express to me that the green cup didn't feel safe to him...it was unknown and therefore scary. I didn't understand why he was screaming like he was being murdered, and it seemed ridiculous to me. But to him, it was a HUGE deal. Yes, to most of us, it wouldn't matter...blue cup, green cup, who cares? It's not the end of the world. But that doesn't mean it wasn't a very real issue to him. And it doesn't matter that I was "right" that there was nothing wrong with the green cup, that his fear was irrational, because being right didn't stop him from feeling unsafe and didn't keep him from screaming. I had to learn different ways to engage with him. "Would you like the blue cup or the green cup?" instead of "Here's your milk." It cost me nothing to change how I approached it, but it helped him. And yes, it's absolutely ridiculous to me that the color of the cup matters, and sometimes I wanted to shout "IT DOESN'T MATTER! Just DRINK THE MILK!" But that's not productive. Right or not, it doesn't work.

 

[Songbird76]

When I was younger, I was a barista at a coffee bar. We were taught but it didn't really get followed consistently to brew fresh coffee every hour , there were timers to alert us ( similar to Starbucks ) when the place was operating. We threw out a lot of coffee but there is nothing better tasting than fresh coffee. ( Hint ). Don't order coffee near closing time. The coffee is not always fresh.

What??? People don't always follow the protocol they were taught??

I think that's kind of a universal problem, not just in a coffee bar. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who even KNOWS the protocol at my work.

 

[Songbird76]

My kid is weird

Is this @donaldtoo on a beer run?

 

[Songbird76]

Oh I have tried. The problem is.. he always tries to deflect or ignores.
His favorite is redirecting the blame to me because "its my responsibility".

Of all the interactions I had with him.. he has only apologized once.
I actually had my mouth hanging when he was on his good side and apologized for one giant snafu (the one where he wanted me ASAP to reply at 3-4:00 am on a early monday)

Hence my only option is hang on the best I can and find a different job.

Well good luck with the job search...it does sound like that's the only thing left to do. I'm sorry nothing has worked....you can't be the first person to have this issue with him, though. How long have others lasted? Does he not see the pattern?

 

[Songbird76]

He says he doesn't need to learn because he has "people to do those things" for him.

Were any of those "people to do those things for him" on vacation with him? No? Yes he DOES need to learn to do it himself.

 

[Songbird76]

Nope . We use the kiosks for any further fastpasses. And never had to change an adr as we make so few.

I guess you guys probably don't ever have to split up, either. We do that a lot...my husband goes to play Ingress and I take the kids to go on rides, or my husband goes to do his thing, we leave A in the room because he doesn't want to come with us, and E and I do rides together, or I go to DS to pick up our gift card while the rest of the family goes to the pool at the resort...we all need to stay in contact so we can find each other again. But with just the two of you, you probably just stay together?

 

[FutureCEO]

Not bad. Seven Dwarfs was never over 60 minutes and was the most crowded ride. Shocking was that Peter Pan never got above 20 minutes

I never wait 60 minutes for a ride. Of course, there is no fastpass right now but still.

 

[Lilofan]

What??? People don't always follow the protocol they were taught??

I think that's kind of a universal problem, not just in a coffee bar. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who even KNOWS the protocol at my work.

All protocols are meant to be followed in a restaurant and kitchen environment as an example. It is followed more after the surprise visit from the county health inspector. If there are too many violations to include serious ones, the location is closed immediately by the health inspector.

 

[MinnieM123]

I thought that some of you might find this amusing. However, I'd like to go on record right now that I have never nor ever even known a man that would do this.

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This is hilarious! I almost spit out my coffee, laughing!

 

[Songbird76]

All protocols are meant to be followed in a restaurant and kitchen environment as an example. It is followed more after the surprise visit from the county health inspector. If there are too many violations to include serious ones, the location is closed immediately by the health inspector.

Oh, I'm sure....all protocols are MEANT to be followed, even outside of a kitchen environment. It's just that there are a lot of lazy people who won't follow the protocols if they don't feel like it. Like "It doesn't look too bad...I'll clean it tomorrow." instead of doing it every day. At my work, we have protocols about how many different items can go in one tray, and in which locations trays with multiple products can be stocked. Like, you can't put more than 3 different items in a tray, and they can't be the same color. Jeans all look alike, so if I go, pull out a tray, and there are 2 different kinds of jeans in there, it takes me longer to find the one I need for that order. You are supposed to just be able to reach in and grab the one you need, and your scanner tells you what color the item is, how many there are in inventory of that item, and what brand it is, along with the barcode number. If I know I need something red from Vingino, I can pull out the tray, and theoretically there should only be one red item in that tray, so I don't need to look at the code number, I can just scan it and go. But people don't follow the rules, so you pull out a tray and it has 8 items in it, 5 of which are red....now I have to go look at every single one of the codes to see which one matches. I think not following protocols is just something that happens everywhere...there are always people who don't really care if they do the job well, as long as they get the paycheck.

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

It is just two of us. Want something besides the normal stuff with all the cheese and sodium.

Hummus and pita chips? Cauliflower wings?

 

[DryerLintFan]

Nope . We use the kiosks for any further fastpasses. And never had to change an adr as we make so few.

You'd be pretty boxed out right now though... Because everything has to be mobile ordered. Even when you have an ADR they seem to really want you to mobile check in. And a few of the other restaurants off property are using virtual queues, too.

Eating at Disney is weird right now