Or, they could go by the same set of standards they would see at home, in school, or even when they are being coached at cheer.
Common sense is just that....
I was not really worldly back then. Basically what an adult in charge told me I'd do. I had no idea how other people felt. I thought in black and white. I had no idea that people had that wide of a range of opinions even. To tell you my family didn't even have an internet capable computer. This idea that there is a flood of different viewpoints available to me is false. When your in a big group of people with common interests, that's the world to you. It didn't help that I wanted to impress a lot of football guys either. That age is a very confusing time for people. your reality changes so fast you can't keep up. One scan of internet trolls in mmos and comments sections and you will see these kids act bizarre. Boys wanna be as tough as possible girls wanna be as cute as possible. I may not have been rebellious but there is that element too. The element people feel when they lash out against anyone that makes them feel weak or unloved. A minor breakup would be a devastation, and people I grew up with had killed themselves over it. Middle school is one step above a ghetto mixed with a psyche ward to people like me who just tried to get by. Cheerleading was my outlet. It was a group I could identify with. It was something I could do and be proud of. It was fun, exciting, and took my mind off of things. Combine that with all the issues people face during puberty, and everything else just seems secondary unless it's brought to the forefront.
And then we grow up. We find that our issues in Middle School were silly and frivolous. We dismiss those years and let them fade from memory. They either embarrass us, lightly amuse us, or cease to apply to our lives when we realize things just get tougher. But as we grow up we also see the experiences of others. We learn how others feel and maybe those we dismissed before are a lot more like us than we ever could have imagined back then. We forget how it felt in those crucial years. If we went back in time and met out middle school selves, we'd probably hate them, or at least think they're annoying. I don't know about anyone else but I sometimes wish that I could take everything I know now and go back then. I may have been able to change everything for the better. These things seem so obvious to us now; Common sense, decency, courtesy, were not our focus at that age, and never at the front of our minds. I knew of no one back then who was the perfect little angel. Even those who teachers thought were, were secretly bullies, or mean, or stuck up.
So as adults we don't connect with people that age. We're no longer blinded by hormones or stupid school crushes, or drama that seemed just so important at the time. So we can't possibly understand why kids don't think about others around them. We forget what its like to have one moment where we could just let go.
In short, at that age, kids aren't rational, and you know what? Sometimes even trying to instill values in them is not enough. They need a guide.
As adults we need to be there for them. We need to tell any child in our charge what is and is not appropriate. I'm doing the best I can with my sister. I will make sure she knows to be respectful of others. But one girl can't be the boss of an entire squad. Peer pressure is a mighty thing too. You can push and push all you want but they push harder.
Unfortunately you would be correct to assume we live in a society of privilege. People aren't against you, they're for themselves.
I'm going to tell you what your parents obviously did not.
The rest of the world doesn't think you are cute, special and charming. It is very rude to subject them to your annoying, obnoxious, disruptive behavior. All those other people in the world are just as special as you are and they do deserve to vacation without having to endure that.
So stop it. Behave yourself. Apologize for your horrid behavior. Stop making excuses because there are none.
Grow up.
Can we please stop getting personal? I'm not responsible for every single bit of misbehavior ever in the history of Pop or disney parks in general. One little girl could not command every other person her age, and I was blinded by typical little girl mentality.
I apologized. I don't think my one cheer warrants the term
Horrid but inappropriate yes. I will apologize again and again and again and no one will accept it. I'm a human being too. I make mistakes. I'm not perfect. I never claim to be.
I'm not evil incarnate either. My crime of being too loud at a theme park obviously hurts you on a personal level, and for that I'm really sorry. Had I known that people were this deeply offended by it I would have stayed out of this thread entirely.
I hate offending people, and I hate knowing that someone is hurt by something I say or do.
soooo.....
I'M SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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