wdw71fan
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I think the only pretending being done is on your part.
Whatever you want to believe is up to you.
I think the only pretending being done is on your part.
Would you like to change your view on the information supplied above?Whatever you want to believe is up to you.
Thank you. Some people would rather play judge, jury and executioner than to admit that they have no idea what transpired.This was posted on a news forum yesterday and might shed a different light, if this is true then many people on internet forums and DCL blogs will need to 'eat their words', all I say is respect for the poor parents, a tragic incident occurs beyond their control and then everyone has an opinion on them based on a few posts on one DCL forum which might be totally incorrect. :-
faith.hope6
The child was not in the pool. He got separated from his parents in a crowd of people. Sadly that is where he wound up. Every parent turns around for second and has had that feeling of panic. Oh gosh where is he/she. But usually within seconds finds them. If he were on a leash you would judge that too. Have some empathy! Even if you disagree, pray for this child's life! Stop saying bad about the parents whom you don't know. This is a tragic accident! Your judgement won't change the outcome of his life. Your prayers will! If he lives, he will never look back and ask why they weren't watching him. He will remember them by his side this whole time. Don't think you are better than others. Be better by praying for this family!
Would you like to change your view on the information supplied above?
I think certain Internet forums and DCL blogs should change what they have published to reflect the possibility they were wrong, and also put up an apology to the parents. Leave 'reporting' to newspapers and proper journalists. To add further 'hurt' to the parents in tragic circumstances and post on the internet has not been the human thing to do.
Thank you. Some people would rather play judge, jury and executioner than to admit that they have no idea what transpired.
Apologize for what? Are you aware how many frivolous lawsuits they get? They need to treat every situation the same or else they'd be bankrupt for every idiot parent that cried foul...unfortunately, people are entitled to their opinions and if you expect the internet to be a sane place for discussion then I don't know what to tell you...This was posted on a news forum yesterday and might shed a different light, if this is true then many people on internet forums and DCL blogs will need to 'eat their words', all I say is respect for the poor parents, a tragic incident occurs beyond their control and then everyone has an opinion on them based on a few posts on one DCL forum which might be totally incorrect. :-
faith.hope6
The child was not in the pool. He got separated from his parents in a crowd of people. Sadly that is where he wound up. Every parent turns around for second and has had that feeling of panic. Oh gosh where is he/she. But usually within seconds finds them. If he were on a leash you would judge that too. Have some empathy! Even if you disagree, pray for this child's life! Stop saying bad about the parents whom you don't know. This is a tragic accident! Your judgement won't change the outcome of his life. Your prayers will! If he lives, he will never look back and ask why they weren't watching him. He will remember them by his side this whole time. Don't think you are better than others. Be better by praying for this family!
http://travel.aol.co.uk/2013/03/31/boy-nearly-drowns-disney-fantasy-cruise-orlando/
Would you like to change your view on the information supplied above?
I think certain Internet forums and DCL blogs should change what they have published to reflect the possibility they were wrong, and also put up an apology to the parents. Leave 'reporting' to newspapers and proper journalists. To add further 'hurt' to the parents in tragic circumstances and post on the internet has not been the human thing to do.
What information? You've cited another anonymous internet post with no claim about how they "know" what happened, and you linked a news article that gives no information at all about how the kid ended up in the pool.This was posted on a news forum yesterday and might shed a different light, if this is true then many people on internet forums and DCL blogs will need to 'eat their words',
faith.hope6
The child was not in the pool. He got separated from his parents in a crowd of people. Sadly that is where he wound up. Every parent turns around for second and has had that feeling of panic. Oh gosh where is he/she. But usually within seconds finds them. If he were on a leash you would judge that too. Have some empathy! Even if you disagree, pray for this child's life! Stop saying bad about the parents whom you don't know. This is a tragic accident! Your judgement won't change the outcome of his life. Your prayers will! If he lives, he will never look back and ask why they weren't watching him. He will remember them by his side this whole time. Don't think you are better than others. Be better by praying for this family!
http://travel.aol.co.uk/2013/03/31/boy-nearly-drowns-disney-fantasy-cruise-orlando/
Would you like to change your view on the information supplied above?
What information? You've cited another anonymous internet post with no claim about how they "know" what happened, and you linked a news article that gives no information at all about how the kid ended up in the pool.
The fact is that we just have NO idea at all of how that poor kid ended up in that terrible situation. I'm just happy that he is going to be ok. I don't need to know whose fault it was. That part will come to light in due time.
I actually did read your entire post, although I admit that I did not review the entire thread to re-acquaint myself with each of your previous posts. I can also tell that you read my post before responding, which I appreciate. However, it sounds as though you think I'm trying to say more than I was really trying to say. I was simply responding the specific question that you asked near the end of your post: "Would you like to change your view on the information supplied above?"Therefore I do not think you actually 'read' my post before replying to it,
I agree with this. Although my position would be that the "equal merit" for each of them is actually "no merit".This 'other' view point of equal merit has been ignored so far on other forums or Blogs.
I also agree with this completely.I have not stood behind anyone's post or view, rather made a continuing point, we do not know what occurred and I feel for the poor parents and family, and I think others have jumped to almighty conclusions rather quickly when there are alternative viewpoints out there.
While my online communication skills have been on the fritz lately, my post was in no way an attack. I made no personal comments toward you. I stated only facts, regarding your post. When I gave my feelings, I did not say that anybody else should feel that way.I would suggest you read my post fully before responding as actually I think we had the same view point but your response came across as a bit of an attack.
This was posted on a news forum yesterday and might shed a different light, if this is true then many people on internet forums and DCL blogs will need to 'eat their words', all I say is respect for the poor parents, a tragic incident occurs beyond their control and then everyone has an opinion on them based on a few posts on one DCL forum which might be totally incorrect. :-
faith.hope6
The child was not in the pool. He got separated from his parents in a crowd of people. Sadly that is where he wound up. Every parent turns around for second and has had that feeling of panic. Oh gosh where is he/she. But usually within seconds finds them. If he were on a leash you would judge that too. Have some empathy! Even if you disagree, pray for this child's life! Stop saying bad about the parents whom you don't know. This is a tragic accident! Your judgement won't change the outcome of his life. Your prayers will! If he lives, he will never look back and ask why they weren't watching him. He will remember them by his side this whole time. Don't think you are better than others. Be better by praying for this family!
http://travel.aol.co.uk/2013/03/31/boy-nearly-drowns-disney-fantasy-cruise-orlando/
Would you like to change your view on the information supplied above?
I think certain Internet forums and DCL blogs should change what they have published to reflect the possibility they were wrong, and also put up an apology to the parents. Leave 'reporting' to newspapers and proper journalists. To add further 'hurt' to the parents in tragic circumstances and post on the internet has not been the human thing to do.
(Boy, 2 marine surveyors. Betting our life's have tripped over each others at some point, there are not that many of us. Gave it up to be home with my kids, the travel was sucidoodles.)
Both of my kids are certified Ellis instructors to train and certify lifeguards annually. My DS continues to certify on the side while my DD manages a waterpark over the summer along with 3 indoor pools over breaks. The kiddie pool is guarded, the zero depth pool that goes from zero to 4 ft is guarded and the lap pool is guarded. In the WaterPark every slide, slide pool, fun house and lazy river is guarded. So many guards are posted on the the lazy river. They are fully certified in CPR, First Aid and AED''s.
At Florida for Disney employees and their families there is a water rec area near the College Program housing called Mickey's Retreat. http://www.wdwforgrownups.com/forum/cast-member-rescued-mickeys-retreat It's pool is guarded with several lifeguards and overlapping shifts to keep the employees safe. I am just surprised the DCL children's pool is treated so differently than the main pools in the US. Disney does pump a great deal of money into certifying their lifeguards and paying their wages. Head scratcher as to why they feel so differently on their ships. I wonder if Disney guards it's pools in Paris.
This is simply not true. Not even remotely. Forget for a moment about whether a person is responsible for "allowing" an adult child to commit a crime because he or she was not being supervised by the parent. Do you really think a 90-year-old woman is responsible for her 65-year-old son? There is a natural point in life when the parent relinquishes responsibility for the child. Your claim is frankly absurd.BUT, having no kids I have no issues saying that it is every parents responsibility to monitor and take care of their children – no matter where you are in this world. YOU brought them into this world. AND if things go as planned/normal they will be your responsibility for the REST of YOUR life.
How in the WORLD can you possibly know this???? You weren't there (since you previously said you didn't "think" it was an abduction), so how can you possibly come to this conclusion?Could this have been prevented...bottom line is YES it could have. This was not an accident. This was neglect by the parents.
This is simply not true. Not even remotely. Forget for a moment about whether a person is responsible for "allowing" an adult child to commit a crime because he or she was not being supervised by the parent. Do you really think a 90-year-old woman is responsible for her 65-year-old son? There is a natural point in life when the parent relinquishes responsibility for the child. Your claim is frankly absurd.
How in the WORLD can you possibly know this???? You weren't there (since you previously said you didn't "think" it was an abduction), so how can you possibly come to this conclusion?
Yet you claim categorically that it was not an accident. Color me puzzled.I don't know how the child ended up in the water.
Of course not. But nobody has even suggested that the kid was abducted. Why would anybody take that wager? You're just not making sense to me, honestly.BUT I'll bet you a year of 12 DCL vacations that IT WAS NOT THRU ABDUCTION and being thrown into the water. Care to take that wager?
That's an easy bet to win, because those statements that you made are patently false. Of course someone was going to call you on it.Either way, I just won an expensive cigar and fancy adult beverage as I bet myself as I clicked on the POST button that a parent would play the - as you did -"how do you know" card and the parent responsibility of the "adolescent/adult kid turned bad" card.
You're honestly asking what you know? To be quite frank, you know squat. I've watched kids on the beach, very close to their parents, being watched responsibly, who get knocked down hard by another kid who is not looking where he's running. I've seen heavily supervised kids get knocked nearly unconscious by a ball that comes flying from who-knows-where. Accidents happen, even in well-supervised situations. You have LITERALLY no idea whether this was an accident or result of being unsupervised unless you were there and observed it. And by your own admission, you were not there.What do I know? Enough to say that when small kids get hurt in this type of situation with masses of strangers as well as in an unfamiliar place it's not because of them being watched or tended to by their parents.
Of course I am. But that doesn't mean I'm responsible for my daughter for the rest of my life. That's laughable. In fact, at some point, as I get older, it's quite possible that she will become responsible for me. This happens all the time. It's not even debatable, really.What’s the point here? POINT is that you are a parent for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Own up to it.
Here's the flavor I got from your last post: There's absolutely no way that kid could have gotten hurt if he was being supervised". And that is simply false. "A parent is responsible for his child for the parent's entire life". And that is simply false.That was my meaning and flavor in my other post - though I think you got it but just wanted to play. RIGHT?
Oh, thank goodness. Finally some levity in this thread. Whew!! I really needed some humor inserted here, so thanks for that. I appreciate you trying to lighten things up with a little joke. Wait. What? You were serious?maybe you learnt something today about how long you signed up for “parent-hood?”
Yet you claim categorically that it was not an accident. Color me puzzled.
Of course not. But nobody has even suggested that the kid was abducted. Why would anybody take that wager? You're just not making sense to me, honestly.
That's an easy bet to win, because those statements that you made are patently false. Of course someone was going to call you on it.
You're honestly asking what you know? To be quite frank, you know squat. I've watched kids on the beach, very close to their parents, being watched responsibly, who get knocked down hard by another kid who is not looking where he's running. I've seen heavily supervised kids get knocked nearly unconscious by a ball that comes flying from who-knows-where. Accidents happen, even in well-supervised situations. You have LITERALLY no idea whether this was an accident or result of being unsupervised unless you were there and observed it. And by your own admission, you were not there.
Of course I am. But that doesn't mean I'm responsible for my daughter for the rest of my life. That's laughable. In fact, at some point, as I get older, it's quite possible that she will become responsible for me. This happens all the time. It's not even debatable, really.
Here's the flavor I got from your last post: There's absolutely no way that kid could have gotten hurt if he was being supervised". And that is simply false. "A parent is responsible for his child for the parent's entire life". And that is simply false.
Oh, thank goodness. Finally some levity in this thread. Whew!! I really needed some humor inserted here, so thanks for that. I appreciate you trying to lighten things up with a little joke. Wait. What? You were serious?
This thread is probably not the proper place for this particular conversation. So I will excuse myself from it before anyone else thinks I'm attacking him/her. But I just could not let these ludicrous statements pass without comment. Sorry if I hijacked the thread.
Um, okay so I can appreciate that, yes, especially with young children parents are ultimately responsible I also realize (from experience being a parent) that even with the best, most dilligent parents it takes but a split second of distraction for a child to bolt off in an unknown direction. I believe I read this family had more ... <SNIP>.... ((I need a huggy emoticon to send a big hug to you all!))
I wish there was a way of liking that more than once. <<snip>>
As a parent, and yes I am one, life is a balancing act. You want to give your children the freedom to grow, but you also want to keep them safe. We could all take our kids and keep them in a room, wrapped in bubble wrap, with a HEPA filter, and fire supression systems 24 hours a day, but that weold not be in their best interests. Neither would letting them run free and wild with no restructions.
Um, okay so I can appreciate that, yes, especially with young children parents are ultimately responsible I also realize (from experience being a parent) that even with the best, most dilligent parents it takes but a split second of distraction for a child to bolt off in an unknown direction. I believe I read this family had more than one child. Purely hypothetical but as an example, if one child had tripped & hit his/her head and for less than a minute both Mom & Dad turned their attention to examining the possibly injured child a younger sibling or other child could see something that catches their eye and bolt into a crowd and virtually "disappear". In the time it takes for Mom & Dad to organize a search the now parent-free child wanders over to a pool, gets knocked down and/or in by another rambunctious older kid, and voila! An unthinkable accident has happened all a matter of minutes. I'm not saying that's what happened, only that things like this can easily happen. It's not necessarily because Mom & Dad are bad parents. It's like a perfect storm of bad things that all converge into the unthinkable. KWIM? I think that's why so many have been of the mindset that maybe jumping to conclusions even when some signs point to negligence on the parent's part isn't appropriate without really having full knowledge of what happened. Plus, as parents, it's really tough to imagine this sort of thing happening to your little ones. You wonder, "OMG...what would I do? How would I feel?" and for me it's so unthinkable that my mind goes straight to, "I'd just die." No, that wouldn't help a thing but having something happen to one of my "babies" (they're sooo not babies anymore per se) is just beyond comprehension for me. So, from that state of mind I look at these parents and this little family with sympathy for what flavor of hell they must be experiencing. Even if Mom & Dad did use poor choices and this was the result, that probably makes it all the worse for them (as it prob'ly should be IF that was the case but, again, we don't know for sure so it's not right to assign that emotion yet).
All the nuances of parenting, what we think it entails and what it actually does, is different for many people. Ultimately, Mom & Dad should do their very best beginning to end to always uplift, teach, and bring about a positive human being that contributes and is a good person. We'll all make mistakes and sometimes those have consequences. But, as long as we always do our very best than what more is there? Which brings me to what I tell my boys all the time and what I've stated on this website many times: It's not one's mistakes that define them, it's what they do with them that does. Life is about forgiving (of others and oneself) and learning from experience both good and bad. Make a mistake? Learn. Don't repeat it. Use that consequence as the starting point to improve. Bring knowledge & understanding to yourself and others. Coversely, if we as humans busy ourselves talking people down & beating them up for their mistakes that they are living with then how are we creating a positive atmosphere for that person to make their mistake into a positive life experience? Right? So even if these parents did have a temporary lapse of judgement which resulted in their child's accident (not saying it is, I'm just saying IF) it's something that they have to live with and learn from. Support helps them grow. Beating them down creates self-doubt and hurt. Does that make sense?
Lets not get caught up here, gang. It has nothing positive to contribute at the end of the day. Everyone has their feelings, emotions, opinions, etc. and they're entitled to that. Nothing you say will change someone who thinks, feels, or sees things different from you. It's okay to be on different pages. Most people use the term "It takes all kinds" when you see someone strange or really outrageous but when you think about that term, consider the words, and embrace what it means it really is true. It does take all kinds which, thankfully, is what makes the world we live in so colorful and diverse.
Peace and love to all. Now to be this productive and positive with the rest of my afternoon. ((I need a huggy emoticon to send a big hug to you all!))
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