Yes, Mom, that's correct: if the name isn't on the inside envelope, the person isn't invited. (And as for those people--I don't think we'll be extending an invitation--they continued to treat me rudely when I got home on Sunday. Even I have my limits).
Children need to be entertained. To expect a two year old to sit still for hours is just plain cruel, and I won't have it. (the people who have the small children took the two year old out to dinner for several hours with us with not a single toy and then made a scene when she wouldn't sit quietly--yelling at her, telling her she was bad, etc.--just poor parenting, and I won't have it at my wedding). We are planning a formal ceremony (not in a house of worship) and a formal reception (the buffet vs sit-down is still being discussed!). There will be no entertainment for children, and it's unfair to expect children under three to "behave" or be quiet--they're children! No flower girl, no ring bearer, no children. I was surprised because even my mom was supportive on this point since the children are so young and it's such a long affair for a child that small. If it was a casual reception at the firehouse, that's one thing. For what we are looking at spending a person for a formal dinner, uh, no children.
Ariel, I have requested it be a "wedding shower" since (warning: I'm a non-traditionalist here!) I think it's unfair that women are expected to attend a "bridal shower" and give homemaking gifts and all the men have to do is show up and have a good time at a bachelor party. Since the foundation of this relationship is that I am NOT a domestic, it will be a shower for the couple, and all will be invited (the idea of just having the women there also sort of made me uncomfortable). I saw a bridal shower invitation that asked for recipes so the groom would be well-fed--yikes! So the bride won't be eating? (for the record, Ariel, this means that since Noah will still be having a bachelor party, we still get a girls' night out--it just doesn't involve me looking excited about a toaster! LOL!).
Debbie: (The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood -- It's also now a movie but I only read the book!).
You know, Debbie, I suggested skipping the cocktail hour before dinner (I don't drink), and my family was just appalled.... No, no pulling charms from the cake up here, either, and no groom's cake traditionally. And I was looking for a nice satin with body instead of tulle.
My choice of reception hall will be based on a) the ability to accommodate the ceremony (we're looking at ones with oceanfront decks--all the beauty of a beach wedding in the pictures, none of the sand issues) and of course, the interior of the banquet hall for photographic purposes. I refuse to choose a color for the wedding until I know the color of the reception site for that reason!
Angelique, if you find anything, you let me know! LOL!
And yes, CowGirlJessie, despite his refusal to do a Disney wedding in any fashion, he treats me like a Princess! (ask Mom and Ariel, who know he called twice to check on me last weekend!).
). But you can incorporate something on the clothes, the decoration of the church, and I'm sure you can have a ball at the reception, since it has nothing to do with the religion per se. At least that's what I tell my mom, but I don't think she buys it... 
:lol: but definitely see it if you get the chance. We were ROLF for almost the entire film.
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