I absolutely love Fantasmic but if you can only do one for a first timer I vote Wishes because there is nothing like seeing those fireworks over the castle for the first time.
Wishes, but not in the big mess of crowds in front of the castle. That might overwhlem her (as it does a lot of people) maybe try TL viewing..? :shrug:
Both are great shows. I like Wishes better. There is just so much sentimentality to the show and stirs so many memories for my family and me. There are many places to watch Wishes away from the front of the csatle that aren't packed. On our trip last week we watched and had dessert. Well worh the price!