Doing the wave with Magic Friends

[nibblesandbits]

i'm gonna take off for the day guys...

i think i'm gonna go home... and literally just go right to sleep when I get home...

so exhausted...

have a good night everyone

Bye Joe...get some sleep!

You forgot to add that when her & her hubby moved to town and didn't know anyone, you & DH befriended them, introduced them to people & the church, and basically took them under your wing. And that since finding out they were pregnant they've started ignoring you and not returning your phone calls.

Again...

 

[joanna71985]

Hi Jo - still hurting today? ((HUGS)) :kiss:

Yeah. I'm going to be amazed if I don't OD on medication (I have to keep taking asperin for the pain). The pain keeps coming and going, and just now I had the worst pain ever (it felt like someone was stabbing a red-hot poker into my tooth).

 

[nibblesandbits]

Yeah. I'm going to be amazed if I don't OD on medication (I have to keep taking asperin for the pain). The pain keeps coming and going, and just now I had the worst pain ever (it felt like someone was stabbing a red-hot poker into my tooth).

Poor Jo...It will all be over soon.


I know you're scared about getting it done...but just think...you're already in pain....so, even though you might feel some after, your pain now isn't going away...and after you get it done, know the pain will be temporary and it will be gone in a few days. (I really need to tell myself some of this...:lol: )

 

[joanna71985]

Random Huggles.....I love our friends here!

Me too! I love all of you so much. :kiss:

{{group huggles}} back

Hey Joanna, how are the teeth?

Still bad.

You forgot to add that when her & her hubby moved to town and didn't know anyone, you & DH befriended them, introduced them to people & the church, and basically took them under your wing. And that since finding out they were pregnant they've started ignoring you and not returning your phone calls.

*HUGS* Kat. I wish I could physically give you a hug. :kiss:

Poor Jo...It will all be over soon.


I know you're scared about getting it done...but just think...you're already in pain....so, even though you might feel some after, your pain now isn't going away...and after you get it done, know the pain will be temporary and it will be gone in a few days. (I really need to tell myself some of this...:lol: )

I really don't think this would be so bad, if I wasn't such a baby about pain.

 

[nibblesandbits]

Me too! I love all of you so much. :kiss:



Still bad.



*HUGS* Kat. I wish I could physically give you a hug. :kiss:



I really don't think this would be so bad, if I wasn't such a baby about pain.

Oh...I'm a baby too...but if you just keep thinking that while the stuff will suck...once it's done, your pain will be almost gone...that's a good perspective to think.

 

[k.hunter30]

You forgot to add that when her & her hubby moved to town and didn't know anyone, you & DH befriended them, introduced them to people & the church, and basically took them under your wing. And that since finding out they were pregnant they've started ignoring you and not returning your phone calls.

Oh yeah... and that too...

Well, I suspected a lot of what you've mentioned...

And I'm so sorry you all are having so much trouble. I wish I could come over there and give you a big ((Hug)) myself. (Hey...come up in June when I think Bun might be! We can have a girl's weekend! :lol: But truthfully, if you ever need a time to get away, just call me. I'm only a 5 hour drive away...and I have a spare bedroom. )

It's so terrible that she's sharing that information with others. I know she probably didn't think she was doing anything wrong by sharing it...not really thinking it through, but obviously, once again...a true friend wouldn't have blabbed. Although, with that issue, it does sound like the whole thing snowballed...was it her or her mom who told the secretary, b/c in what you typed out, it sounds like the mom told the secretary...and in that case...maybe this "friend" didn't mean for it to get out like that...although, maybe she did...who knows...especially the way she's been acting about the other thing.

Thanks Sweetie. And thanks so much for "feeling for me." To be honest, I was afraid that when I shared this very personal, very VERY hard thing, that some might just glaze over it and I'd feel bad. But I really appreciate your post sweetie. :kiss:

And, I don't think she intentionally told her mother-in-law to gossip. And it was the mother-in-law who told my secretary, not my friend. I don't think she inteded to hurt me that time. This time though... as I said, I just can understand how someone could do something like that... given everything...

 

[joanna71985]

Oh...I'm a baby too...but if you just keep thinking that while the stuff will suck...once it's done, your pain will be almost gone...that's a good perspective to think.

That's true. I just wish it was all over with.

Well, one good thing will come out of doing them earlier. Now I won't have any problems during my birthday (I was originally supposed to get them pulled right before my birthday, before all the pain flared up).

 

[nibblesandbits]

Oh yeah... and that too...


Thanks Sweetie. And thanks so much for "feeling for me." To be honest, I was afraid that when I shared this very personal, very VERY hard thing, that some might just glaze over it and I'd feel bad. But I really appreciate your post sweetie. :kiss:

And, I don't think she intentionally told her mother-in-law to gossip. And it was the mother-in-law who told my secretary, not my friend. I don't think she inteded to hurt me that time. This time though... as I said, I just can understand how someone could do something like that... given everything...

Sweetie...we are all here for each other and there is no way in hell we would ever gloss over this issue...It's a big deal!!! (Well, both of them are...((Hugs)) ) And I mean it...you ever want to get away...come up here...and I'll be happy to take care of you!


And you're right, while the one thing was probably intentional...it's obvious that the other is not. She knew what she did would upset you, which is why she's avoiding you right now. That is no bueno.

 

[nibblesandbits]

That's true. I just wish it was all over with.

Well, one good thing will come out of doing them earlier. Now I won't have any problems during my birthday (I was originally supposed to get them pulled right before my birthday, before all the pain flared up).

Yay! See...the silver lining! You gotta look for it.

 

[PotteryGal]

EDIT: I told Steph b/c she's pregnant, and I really wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting, so I needed her opinion. Jenny, you've been so so SO AWESOME for so many months through all this. I didn't share before b/c... well... it's hard. And I wasn't ready. I'm not looking to hear "I know what you're going through" types of things... b/c no one does. Each situation is different. And I just wanted to keep it personal for a while... But... I'm ready to share now. So... there it is. :lookaroun

I just read this edit....we're your friends, Kat. We'll listen, we'll encourage, we'll shut up when you want us to .....it's not an easy thing to talk about. But you're a brave strong lady.

 

[nibblesandbits]

I just read this edit....we're your friends, Kat. We'll listen, we'll encourage, we'll shut up when you want us to .....it's not an easy thing to talk about. But you're a brave strong lady.

Exactly!

Gotta love Jenny...always knows the right things to say! :kiss:

 

[k.hunter30]

So I just checked my phone. She called me back and is up for getting together tonight... I'm nervous. I DON'T want to come across mean b/c she told a friend of mine she thought I was being "bitter" about all the pregnancies (we're the only couple in small group not pregnant except for one, adn we were the only one's trying for longer than two months) But the things is, the night she told me she was pregnant, she first said, "Kat, don't be mad. I think you're going to be mad at me, and I really don't want you to.... I'm pregnant."

So... i REALLY don't want to give her any reason to think I'm "bitter" or whatever. I just want her to know I'm hurting. And yeah... it's b/c of her.

 

[k.hunter30]

I just read this edit....we're your friends, Kat. We'll listen, we'll encourage, we'll shut up when you want us to .....it's not an easy thing to talk about. But you're a brave strong lady.

Thanks Jenny.

 

[mpoppins76]

So I just checked my phone. She called me back and is up for getting together tonight... I'm nervous. I DON'T want to come across mean b/c she told a friend of mine she thought I was being "bitter" about all the pregnancies (we're the only couple in small group not pregnant except for one, adn we were the only one's trying for longer than two months) But the things is, the night she told me she was pregnant, she first said, "Kat, don't be mad. I think you're going to be mad at me, and I really don't want you to.... I'm pregnant."

So... i REALLY don't want to give her any reason to think I'm "bitter" or whatever. I just want her to know I'm hurting. And yeah... it's b/c of her.

Just tell her that. Explain to her that you are in no way bitter and are very happy for her, but that they way she's treated you has really hurt.

 

[joanna71985]

Agh! The pain is coming in again!

 

[k.hunter30]

Just tell her that. Explain to her that you are in no way bitter and are very happy for her, but that they way she's treated you has really hurt.

*deep breath*
Okay. Ugggghhhh... I really hope it goes well...

Dinner is too... long, right? Maybe just ice cream? Goodness... I don't know... I just want to do what is right.

 

[PotteryGal]

Just tell her that. Explain to her that you are in no way bitter and are very happy for her, but that they way she's treated you has really hurt.

Ditto - honesty is best.

 

[nibblesandbits]

Just tell her that. Explain to her that you are in no way bitter and are very happy for her, but that they way she's treated you has really hurt.

Agreed...

But you know what...even if you were bitter about it...so what? You have every right to feel a tiny bit of resentment in this situation. Especially when it seems like all around you are pregnant women...that can feel like a HUGE slap in the face...and especially when you've been trying so hard. And she should realize that and understand that...not call you bitter...behind your back.

 

[nibblesandbits]

*deep breath*
Okay. Ugggghhhh... I really hope it goes well...

Dinner is too... long, right? Maybe just ice cream? Goodness... I don't know... I just want to do what is right.

Ice cream might be good...or just dessert in general! You could just go out for dessert. That way, if you want to talk more, you can afterwards...but if you don't, you just let it drop when you're done.

If you went to dinner, it could end up more awkward later...

 

[PotteryGal]

*deep breath*
Okay. Ugggghhhh... I really hope it goes well...

Dinner is too... long, right? Maybe just ice cream? Goodness... I don't know... I just want to do what is right.

Maybe get ice cream and then go to a local park to chat? :shrug: I hope somewhere in there her heart is telling her something's not right....just keep it simple. :kiss: