PotteryGal
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If I ever were to describe what I think of what she did and said, you'd have to wash my mouth out with soap.
I have a short fuse sometimes. 
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If I ever were to describe what I think of what she did and said, you'd have to wash my mouth out with soap.
I have a short fuse sometimes. 
nibblesandbits
Well-Known Member
Wow...if that's the case...even though I don't even know what it, that sounds like she really isn't a good friend.
Sweetie...I know it's not easy to release a friend...but this friend sounds toxic and is only making you feel worse and worse about yourself...and you don't need toxic friends in your life.
My friend right now wants nothing to do with any of us...we've all been friends since high school and she cares nothing for it, lately it seems. She doesn't ever call...when I call her, she's not very friendly anymore. We never hang out...and what complicates matters is she lives an hour and a half away now...it just seems she doesn't want us in her life. And you know what...it sucks...but unfortunately, I know that there's nothing that I'm doing wrong in my life to cause her to act this way. And I have other friends who are more important to me now and our friendships are growing because of this situation.
Same thing should go for you...there is nothing that you did wrong...it is completely her problem...and I'm sure you have other people who you can lean on in this situation who are friends of yours who you can grow into even closer...and in the end...it will be a positive because they aren't toxic.
Thanks Jenny...
Dukeblue1227
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PotteryGal
Active Member
Jenny's got quite a smart perspective on this...
:king:
You're doing really well, Joe - you should be proud of yourself. :kiss:
mpoppins76
Well-Known Member
This.
nibblesandbits
Well-Known Member
It is definitely ok to be hurt and upset!
I mean, for gosh sakes...she knows what you've been through and she knew how much the name meant to you and she STILL decided that she was going to use it...
Plus, all the other things that have happened (that I can only assume, but don't know) I couldn't imagine not being upset...and trust me...it is perfectly ok for you to be upset. What is NOT perfectly ok is allowing it all to fester with you and it's NOT ok to accept what she did and move on...
nibblesandbits
Well-Known Member
Exactly...
k.hunter30
New Member
:lol:If I ever were to describe what I think of what she did and said, you'd have to wash my mouth out with soap.
I love you Jenny.
*sigh*
Pretty much, in a nutshell... DH and I can't have children... at least not without spending thousands of dollars on procedures that MAY work, and with two house payments, that's not going to happen any time soon. My friend knew this back when we had the original baby conversation, so it's not like she would have forgot the baby name. She has said things to me recently about how she doesn't know if being pregnant is worth it b/c it's so hard. She told her mother-in-law, who is in the group I eat lunch with, that we're "infertile" and she took the liberty of sharing that information with my secretary.
What am I missing...? Steph? :lookaroun
EDIT: I told Steph b/c she's pregnant, and I really wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting, so I needed her opinion. Jenny, you've been so so SO AWESOME for so many months through all this. I didn't share before b/c... well... it's hard. And I wasn't ready. I'm not looking to hear "I know what you're going through" types of things... b/c no one does. Each situation is different. And I just wanted to keep it personal for a while... But... I'm ready to share now. So... there it is. :lookaroun
You're right...
PotteryGal
Active Member
Random Huggles.....I love our friends here!
k.hunter30
New Member
The festering part is right... That's why I called her last night. She didn't asnwer. I think she's scared. (She hates confrontation or being in situations that are "unhappy".) I left a VERY friendly message about us getting together since she had asked that we do so right before she dropped the baby name bomb. She still hasn't returned my call. I think I just want to tell her she's hurt me. Just get that out since she didn't seem to care at all Sunday night... I don't know...
PotteryGal
Active Member
:lol:
I love you Jenny.
*sigh*
Pretty much, in a nutshell... DH and I can't have children... at least not without spending thousands of dollars on procedures that MAY work, and with two house payments, that's not going to happen any time soon. My friend knew this back when we had the original baby conversation, so it's not like she would have forgot the baby name. She has said things to me recently about how she doesn't know if being pregnant is worth it b/c it's so hard. She told her mother-in-law, who is in the group I eat lunch with, that we're "infertile" and she took the liberty of sharing that information with my secretary.
What am I missing...? :lookaroun
You're right...
You didn't tell me this.....what a little snot. :fork:
You know, in my adult life, I can think of three women I had 'friendships' with....and what I really got out of those relationships is how incredibly selective I must be with what I say and who I say it to. It is very hard for me to trust others, and I am extremely cautious as a result. I guess in my life, that was a lesson I had to learn. Oh, and that I have a problem speaking before I think it through.....but maybe y'all have already figured that out about me. :lookaroun
k.hunter30
New Member
be back in 15 minutes
**walks in the room.....listens to the conversation.....decides its too heavy....walks right out.**
joanna71985
Well-Known Member
Hello? 
PotteryGal
Active Member
**walks in the room.....listens to the conversation.....decides its too heavy....walks right out.**
Hi Jon! I hope you are having a good day.
Hello?
Hi Jo - still hurting today? ((HUGS)) :kiss:
Dukeblue1227
Well-Known Member
i'm gonna take off for the day guys...
i think i'm gonna go home... and literally just go right to sleep when I get home...
so exhausted...
have a good night everyone
i think i'm gonna go home... and literally just go right to sleep when I get home...
so exhausted...
have a good night everyone
DisneySam
Active Member
Random Huggles.....I love our friends here!
Me too! I say it all the time, I am so glad I have you guys!!!!
mpoppins76
Well-Known Member
You forgot to add that when her & her hubby moved to town and didn't know anyone, you & DH befriended them, introduced them to people & the church, and basically took them under your wing. And that since finding out they were pregnant they've started ignoring you and not returning your phone calls.:lol:
I love you Jenny.
*sigh*
Pretty much, in a nutshell... DH and I can't have children... at least not without spending thousands of dollars on procedures that MAY work, and with two house payments, that's not going to happen any time soon. My friend knew this back when we had the original baby conversation, so it's not like she would have forgot the baby name. She has said things to me recently about how she doesn't know if being pregnant is worth it b/c it's so hard. She told her mother-in-law, who is in the group I eat lunch with, that we're "infertile" and she took the liberty of sharing that information with my secretary.
What am I missing...? Steph? :lookaroun
EDIT: I told Steph b/c she's pregnant, and I really wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting, so I needed her opinion. Jenny, you've been so so SO AWESOME for so many months through all this. I didn't share before b/c... well... it's hard. And I wasn't ready. I'm not looking to hear "I know what you're going through" types of things... b/c no one does. Each situation is different. And I just wanted to keep it personal for a while... But... I'm ready to share now. So... there it is. :lookaroun
You're right...
mpoppins76
Well-Known Member
{{group huggles}} back
Hey Joanna, how are the teeth?Hello?
Have a great night, Joe. Hang in there {{hugs}}
nibblesandbits
Well-Known Member
Well, I suspected a lot of what you've mentioned...:lol:
I love you Jenny.
*sigh*
Pretty much, in a nutshell... DH and I can't have children... at least not without spending thousands of dollars on procedures that MAY work, and with two house payments, that's not going to happen any time soon. My friend knew this back when we had the original baby conversation, so it's not like she would have forgot the baby name. She has said things to me recently about how she doesn't know if being pregnant is worth it b/c it's so hard. She told her mother-in-law, who is in the group I eat lunch with, that we're "infertile" and she took the liberty of sharing that information with my secretary.
What am I missing...? Steph? :lookaroun
EDIT: I told Steph b/c she's pregnant, and I really wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting, so I needed her opinion. Jenny, you've been so so SO AWESOME for so many months through all this. I didn't share before b/c... well... it's hard. And I wasn't ready. I'm not looking to hear "I know what you're going through" types of things... b/c no one does. Each situation is different. And I just wanted to keep it personal for a while... But... I'm ready to share now. So... there it is. :lookaroun
You're right...
And I'm so sorry you all are having so much trouble. I wish I could come over there and give you a big ((Hug)) myself. (Hey...come up in June when I think Bun might be! We can have a girl's weekend! :lol: But truthfully, if you ever need a time to get away, just call me. I'm only a 5 hour drive away...and I have a spare bedroom.
) It's so terrible that she's sharing that information with others. I know she probably didn't think she was doing anything wrong by sharing it...not really thinking it through, but obviously, once again...a true friend wouldn't have blabbed. Although, with that issue, it does sound like the whole thing snowballed...was it her or her mom who told the secretary, b/c in what you typed out, it sounds like the mom told the secretary...and in that case...maybe this "friend" didn't mean for it to get out like that...although, maybe she did...who knows...especially the way she's been acting about the other thing.