Am i crazy to breakup with someone over WDW? Advice PLease!!!

[Tiggerish]

That made me laugh. :lol: My boss is going to get suspicious - random laughter is not typical for an accountant!! :lookaroun

Not even during tax season? :ROFLOL:

 

[Tink313]

If she doesn't get Disney she doesnt get You .

I havent read the whole thread but for ppl like us its gonna be hard for you to live your life w/o disney or limited amounts of disney. Soon your gonna be like an addict trying to get a hit of disney behind her back. Because lets be for real soon she is not gonna like you on the computer looking up (or writing about) the happiest place on earth. She gonna say its just a waste of time

What is wrong with this girl how could she not like disney :shrug: she has issues and shes nuts

I hope you make the right choice..... Disney all the way:ROFLOL:

 

[Sloan]

2 things ....

1st, how did "the talk" go?

2nd, I find myself in almost exactly the same situation. I took my 'new' girlfriend on her 1st trip ever to the World back in November - and took her to some excellent Food & Wine Festival events, many of the most iconic attractions, etc., and got a very ho-hum response for what was such a special trip during such a great time of the year. She was o.k. with EPCOT / World Showcase, but did not like Magic Kingdom and was not too excited by Animal Kingdom either.

Now, when I excitedly talk about returning (which I do often), I get a knowing look of 'no way', and an explanation that now that we've been there, why go back? Since I'm the kind of Disney person (like so many here)who always has an AP and will often visit 4-6 times a year, I am very disturbed by that attitude. Now, she's not ruled out all future trips, but has made it clear that one time a year is really pushing it. She did hint that she'd be o.k. with me going alone, but as many here have already commented, that's not very satisfying for someone who loves Disney as I do. I love solo trips, but want to be able to share my fun with that someone special ...

I'm hoping that a return trip with a stay at Animal Kingdom Lodge or Contemporary, and a dinner at Victoria & Albert's might change her mind, but since Cali. Grill, Jikos, Party for the Senses etc. did not do it, I'm not too optimistic.

In my case, I think much of the problem may be cultural - she's from France, had NO Disney exposure growing up, and her idea of a great vacation is backpacking around Viet Nam and such - while I did so much world travelling when I was younger, that I now really appreciate the simplicity and relaxation of a Disney trip over a world voyage.

While this is not the only potential 'issue' in the relationship, it is one that concerns me greatly, and here's my revelation:

Its not just that she did not enjoy the Disney vacation that much, its more that she did not get it - when I would run and jump with excitement when I saw Goofy in the park, she thought I was crazy - Disney brings out the 'kid' in me, and hers was either too shy to come out and play, too repressed to show itself, or, worst of all, no longer around .... When I got emotional about Wishes! and Illuminations, she wondered why I would care about a fireworks show? so that's the real concern - and I'm not sure there's any way to 'compromise' about that :veryconfu

 

[rwdavis2]

Very simply, scrape her off and move on. It may be emotionally painful but you'll be glad you waited for someone that shares your interest in WDW.
BD

 

[worldfanatic]

2 options (depends on your situation)

1. If you're a dork, and pathetic when it comes to the ladies.........just hang in there with her and do solo trips when you can.

2. If you have any game at all, even the slightest bit......DUMP THAT B_____!

 

[NX2I85]

Here is the background:

I was raised on all things Disney, matter of fact I was brought home from the hospital in a Disneyland Blanket. Every year growing up it was either trips to Disneyland or WDW, and when we weren’t in the parks, we spent our time either planning the next trip, watching TV specials (RIP Inside Out), or even to get a little of the Disney fix, we would pile in the car and head down to the nearest Disney store. Matter of fact, we never went anywhere on vaca besides there, it was just assumed that’s where we would be going.

Now as an adult, and a DVC owner, I try and make it down to the world at least 2 to 3 times a year, with either my family or just solo. It’s were I feel at home. The place I love to be.

And now my choice...

I’ve been with NDL( Non Disney Lover) for two years now, and well, let’s just say she hates all things that have to do with Disney, and even mentioning going to the parks for a vacation is simply not allowed. Every time I leave to go on a trip alone, its hassle and more hassle about how dumb it is that I love this (as she likes to call it) "theme park" so much. And the sad part is I have to go alone, and I don’t get to share the smiles, and the laughs, the food, the dole whips, the corny jokes, parades, fireworks, the romance of this amazing place, and most importantly, I don’t get to share the place I love with someone that I love

We have had every discussion in the book about what my reasons are for this love, and desire to go to wdw are. And well there not her memories, so she doesn’t really understand.

Maybe I’m crazy but, this effects me extremely, and it really puts doubts in my mind about her. Please tell me if I’m being crazy for feeling this way? Is this a dumb reason? Any advice would help.

Wishing Everyone the Best

BawanaBrandon



Please help.

I haven't read the rest of the thread. Dude, it's the condescending attitude toward your affinity for Disney that is the dealbreaker.

My wife and I have our distinct likes and dislikes. But we never belittle the other for enjoying our hobbies/pastimes. Best of luck to you sorting out your relationship.

 

[loveofamouse]

I still say it is so easy for everyone here to say you should break up with her based SOLEY off your words here. I still say it's not fair to expect someone to listen to you talk about disney 24/7 and to NEVER vacation anywhere else. Have you done any of her vacations? If not, then you are just as bad as she is.

 

[Disneykidder]

I read through all of the posts the other day but didn't respond because everyone said what I was thinking. If she doesnt get you now, it's not going to get any better. If she belittles your joys, then she isn't for you. If she isn't willing to even try, there's a problem there.

Just remember, this is ultimately your choice and you need to think about your future. In 15 years, can you see yourself with her there? There with kids?

Sooooo, did you do it? I have been very curious!!

 

[powlessfamily4]

My Mother always told me - how someone is when you first meet and start dating is probably the best they will ever be. They are on their best behavior to impress and dazzle. But reality is, that is the best they will be by themselves. With the person they love, they will grow with you and your lives will intertwine and YOU will become the best YOU can be.

Mom is sooo smart.

Now Dad said:If you can't interwine... don't take them to dine. LOL

BTW they have been married 47 years.

 

[Hakunamatata]

My Mother always told me - how someone is when you first meet and start dating is probably the best they will ever be. They are on their best behavior to impress and dazzle. But reality is, that is the best they will be by themselves. With the person they love, they will grow with you and your lives will intertwine and YOU will become the best YOU can be.

Mom is sooo smart.

Now Dad said:If you can't interwine... don't take them to dine. LOL

BTW they have been married 47 years.

Very wise.

 

[mickeysbrother]

Ok well i just came out of a 7 year relationship because my gf didnt like to travel in general. I work for an airline company and it has always been a huge part of my life. You are never going to change someone. So there is no more of us based on the fact we are 2 different people and we want different things in life. Dont change who u are!!!! You only live once!!!

 

[WDI 1998]

Wilt Dasney speaks intelligently.

My wife likes scuba diving. I do not. So she goes scuba diving now and then without me. I don't laugh at her for liking scuba diving, and she doesn't call me a coward for not liking it.

I like vacations that involve amusement parks, hikes, sightseeing. She likes vacations that involve relaxing. We do some of my kind of vacation, and some of hers. And on some vacations, she'll lay by the pool while I go do something else.

I am Jewish. She is Catholic. I help her celebrate Christmas. She helps me celebrate Passover.

Those kinds of things are what being in an adult relationship is about. If either you or she is not willing to accept such differences or make such compromises, then the relationship isn't built for the long term.

Both Wilt Dasney and MichWolv hit the nail exactly on the head. No two people are a like but there should never be any absolutes. When one person refuses to compromise the relationship starts to break down and after time pretty much becomes unfixable. I think it is time that you look long and hard at how your relationship is going to go forward before ever entering into a "permanent" commitment such as marriage and have a much harder time ending it with out immense amounts of pain and suffering. She should be open to looking at your relationship with you and always working on making it better. Good Luck.

 

[timoteo]

Dump her. Childern and vacation destinations must be agreed upon totally. No reason to compromise

 

[MrsWhiffo]

I am desperate to know how the "talk" went?

I hope he told her at the end that....
"It's a great big beautiful tomorrow"

 

[Walt Disney1955]

A lot of good posts here. I will say one thing to the original poster. I LOVE sports! I love hockey and spend my Sunday afternoons watching Football when the season is on unless something bigger comes up that I should attend. If I am not watching sports I am often talking about it. Thank God I married a woman who loves sports too and now even more so since I rubbed off on her. If she hated sports she'd dislike how I discuss it on message boards or with my friends or how I watch Sportscenter everyday. I can honestly say with a straight face that my marriage is easier because I married a sports loving wife than the other way around. So if that's true the same applies to Disney.

I know you love WDW and I do too but try some other trips. Go to Europe or something like that. Then take her to WDW with you. Look, from what I read in your post she has never been there. Take her there and I'll bet she'll love it. My wife was skeptical too when I first suggested it. Now it is just as well assumed our kids will grow up with the opportunity to go to WDW bi-annually (or whenever).

 

[sbkline]

I am desperate to know how the "talk" went?

I hope he told her at the end that....
"It's a great big beautiful tomorrow"

Just as long as he didn't break into song...

:ROFLOL:

 

[MrsWhiffo]

Just as long as he didn't break into song...

:ROFLOL:

No it would be better if he broke into song

 

[bjlc57]

Here is our story..

We have been married 32 years.. and my wife has bad knees.. and she has only so many vacations left in her.. So.. this year.. we are going to Las Vegas/ The Grand Canyon..

not because I want to go there.. I do.. but not like she wants.. I want to go to Disney world.. BUT I ALWAYS WANT TO GO TO DISNEY WORLD. Yearly..

the deal is , is that she deserves to go to where she wants some times.. and then we go to where I want some times.. and we make each other happy..

we put aside our personal wants to please the other.. a couple of years ago we went to San Francisco.. and I didn't think I would enjoy it.. but I really really did.. and last March, we stayed at the Pop Century.. and we really really liked it..

She does Geneology.. and I fish.. she really does GENEOLOGY AND I REALLY FISH.. money has been spent both ways.. but its a team deal..

and we are a team.. I couldn't stay with some one who wasn't a partner or a teammate of mine,, and neither could she..

this person sounds controlling. too controlling.. I would sit down and discuss the situation with her.. and uncompromising..

but trust me vacations alone, eating alone, being alone, means that you start to look to not be alone.. and suddenly , you meet some one who doesn't want you to be alone.. and it all goes down hill from there..

its not a good situation..

in our relationship my wife is the one who says No. but its no because of lack of money.. or because its her turn.. and in both situations, she is always right..

and she is always fair.. and I try to be fair to her..

because She is the LOVE OF MY LIFE..

I wish you well .. I hope the situation changes or works out for you..

 

[AEfx]

My snap analysis:

You would be crazy to break up with someone because she dislikes Disney.

You would not be crazy to break up with someone because she demeans and belittles your passions, and refuses to spend time with you unless it's entirely on her terms.

In an ideal relationship, you'd agree to spend less time and money traveling to Disney, and she'd agree to bite the bullet and come along on those less frequent occasions when you did go.

Uh-huh. What he said.

 

[bjlc57]

so I wonder what the outcome is...

I was wondering what the final outcome will be.. is she a "teammate" or a dictator..?

that's the most important..

but I wonder what the final verdict will be?