Am i crazy to breakup with someone over WDW? Advice PLease!!!

[BawanaBrandon]

Wow...I didn’t think that I would get such a large response to this.

But I very much appreciate everyone’s replies to my posting. For my first posting its really cool to see how there is such a great community of ppl out there for Disney.

I hope that I didn’t come across as naive or whinny.

I think that maybe I should give a little more explanation to the issue.

The reason that I posted on here about this personal issue, I know that some may think that it was crazy to post something so personal, but in my mind I thought "hey what better of a place to ask as this where ppl have the same passion as I".

Everyone was right that the real issue isn’t really just "Disney", but I feel that I’ve come to the "straw that broke the camel’s back". I just didn’t know if others have had the same issue and I didn’t want to sound petty or ridiculous to let "Disney" be the thing that finally threw it over board. Its 100% percent give and take.

Thank you so much for everyone who shared their personal stories with me, that helped immensely in my choice. I hope that I didn’t bring any negativity to the boards, I def had no intention to do so.

Once again thank you so much


Oh and I couldn’t think of any Kenny Powers quotes appropriate for the boards, you’ll have to clarify lol.

And imp not so good with the scale ratings either lol

 

[bgraham34]

I came across a somewhat similar situation as you did but did not involve her not liking Disney, she actually loved it.

So the reason I had issues with my ex was that she hated my family and would only ever spend time with hers. Any Holiday would come up and she would refuse to come to my house to see my family so most Holidays we spent the day apart. The only family function she ever went to was my sisters wedding. I refused to accept the issue but once Sept 11th came along I came to realized how important respect and family is. We planned to goto Disney a week after that event and I broke up with her during Fantasmic.

Yeah that might have been a bad place to do so but it was really during Fantasmic that I had an Epiphany and came to the conclusion that she was not the one for me. Thankfully that was the last night of our trip. Sometimes the moment strikes you and things need to be done right then and there.

 

[Pumbas Nakasak]

I would say your a bit of a mentalist for asking advice from a bunch of faceless no marks on a message board.

 

[minniemickeyfan]

Here is the background:

I was raised on all things Disney, matter of fact I was brought home from the hospital in a Disneyland Blanket. Every year growing up it was either trips to Disneyland or WDW, and when we weren’t in the parks, we spent our time either planning the next trip, watching TV specials (RIP Inside Out), or even to get a little of the Disney fix, we would pile in the car and head down to the nearest Disney store. Matter of fact, we never went anywhere on vaca besides there, it was just assumed that’s where we would be going.

Now as an adult, and a DVC owner, I try and make it down to the world at least 2 to 3 times a year, with either my family or just solo. It’s were I feel at home. The place I love to be.

And now my choice...

I’ve been with NDL( Non Disney Lover) for two years now, and well, let’s just say she hates all things that have to do with Disney, and even mentioning going to the parks for a vacation is simply not allowed. Every time I leave to go on a trip alone, its hassle and more hassle about how dumb it is that I love this (as she likes to call it) "theme park" so much. And the sad part is I have to go alone, and I don’t get to share the smiles, and the laughs, the food, the dole whips, the corny jokes, parades, fireworks, the romance of this amazing place, and most importantly, I don’t get to share the place I love with someone that I love

We have had every discussion in the book about what my reasons are for this love, and desire to go to wdw are. And well there not her memories, so she doesn’t really understand.

Maybe I’m crazy but, this effects me extremely, and it really puts doubts in my mind about her. Please tell me if I’m being crazy for feeling this way? Is this a dumb reason? Any advice would help.

Wishing Everyone the Best

BawanaBrandon



Please help.

From what you've said I think that this is disrespectful and you should be treated better for your likes and interests. Great advice from all the posters. Good luck to you.

 

[John]

DUMP HER...I get all the give and take mentioned here. But this goes beyond give and take...What some of you have hinted to is....what about forever? Forever is along time. You want to deal with this for the rest of your living days?....It probably will never get any better.

The truth is its all about happiness. In the end we all just want to be happy. If you choose to end the relationship you might want to keep in mind your interest when dateing other woman...Drop hints around and see what kind of response you get. Show her your Disney room and see if she runs or wants to move in.

Your young, If Disney brings you that much pleasure and plays a part at the core of your happiness....Find someone who atleast mildly enjoys Disney. It has been and always will be a huge part of your life. Its a part of who you are. If she "hates" everything Disney then she "hates" a part of you.

 

[Thunderstruck]

Do you want to end the relationship? Sounds like you may have other reservations about her. And maybe searching for reasons to do this.

It sounds like you do love this person and hope you can work it out. But if she wants to control what you love and what you do that is no bueno.

 

[Tomi-Rocket]

Marriage is about give and take and compromise. If she is unwilling to even try - you are looking directly into the future and how she'll react to something she doesn't like, care about, want to do - no matter how you feel. There is a much bigger picture involved here than just her refusal to go to WDW, or to her even considering it.

Seems to me the picture is clearer than you realize.

 

[Unomas]

I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago...I have a deep passion for Disney World and the joy that it brings to my life when I am there and/or planning a trip to be there. But the girl I was with at the time wanted little to do with that passion.

Ultimately things ended but for me the divide on WDW was a big issue. Like you, I want to be able to share the things I love with the people I love. You would be missing out on a lot of happiness for settling with someone who was completely turned off but something you hold dear to your heart. It is something you grew up on. It is as much a part of you it seems as anything else.

You have to find someone who will share in your passions and at least take interest in them. Find the person that fits well with who you are. That is what I looked for and found someone to go along with a Disneymoon Couldn't be happier.

Good luck!

 

[Pumbas Nakasak]

Marriage is all about the bloke just accepting that no matter what they are wrong.

 

[dave&di]

Marriage is all about the bloke just accepting that no matter what they are wrong.

At last, a man that gets something right!:animwink:

Diane

 

[puntagordabob]

How in the hell does someone not want to go to WDW I don't get it

Excellent question!

 

[LilMommyBug]

You would not be crazy to break up with someone because she demeans and belittles your passions, and refuses to spend time with you unless it's entirely on her terms.

This.

 

[SuperSaint]

:hurl: Dump her.

Something like Disney World is a special place. From what it sounds like, it's a very special place and a part of you. There is nothing wrong with doing stuff on your own and having your own interests, but if it's to the point where something is "not allowed" that is not damaging to anyone, there's something wrong with that.

You obviously want to share something that special with someone equally as special. You'll be better off if you can do that. Trust me.

My previous girlfriend did not care for Disney World, not to the same extent, but it was a similar story. I got her to go once because she claimed to have four 4-day park hopper passes from a previous trip. It turned out we only had four 1-day park hopper passes (I think she knew this). On the second day of going, she delayed us from leaving until about 4pm for a variety of reasons. Then, 2 days later on my birthday, she refused to go even though I would have gotten free admission. She said she did not want to spend the money to go (even though I offered to pay for her admission as mine was free) even if it was my birthday because we had already gone for two days. The writing was on the wall after this (along with a number of other issues) and our relationship ended a few months later.

My next girlfriend was completely enthusiastic about going and we had an amazing 5 day trip. While she loves Disney World, she just wants to limit how often she goes so it's always magical to her. As much as I want to go more often than she does, she has indicated wanting to get the DVC and potentially honeymoon there. While that does not entirely satisfy me, she is open about talking about it with me, loves looking at our pictures, and looking forward to going next.

Honestly, we appreciate and respect each others passions and interests far more than I did with my previous GF. I think that makes for a more successful relationship.

Like I said, dump her. There's plenty of women out there who love Disney World and are looking for a prince to share it with.

 

[WDW2010]

Just this morning I told my girlfriend about your Disney passion and how your girlfriend is not into that. Well the both of us came to the conclusion that it is just plain wrong and stupid. Love, a strong word with a lot of meaning.

I LOVE Walt Disney World...It's a place I LOVE to go to even though I've only been once I am hooked. My second trip (FYI I'm 20 years young) is next month though I leave next Saturday to Orlando. Anyhow ever since she took me there last year for valentines, I have been stuck onto this magical place since then. Yes I get the annoying people "Oh thats weird why do you like that, isn't it for kids, etc, etc." I personally don't care and neither should your girlfriend.

I don't like going to certain get together parties, and do certain activities,.

Example: 2 years ago I hated going to the beach, not sure why I just did. Though because I LOVE her I gave it a few shots, and now its just second nature as a thing we do in the summer time to spend quality time and enjoy ourselves.

Example two: I like playing soccer for most of my time when I am not working in the summer time, and yes I play A LOT. She's not a fan of playing as much as I do but what happens she still does, and it makes me happy.

Just as she told me today, if it makes you happy and you enjoy something so much, why not go? It's not like your asking her to make a huge sacrifice in her life or anything it's just to enjoy Disney in its full glory. Just as you see people in Disney doing themselves during shows, fireworks, rides, etc.

Honestly, do what you think is right. Walt Disney World will be on the top of my list for vacations from now until I go 6 feet under. My girlfriend has been to Disney countless number of times since she was younger, but taking me brought back the magic just because I really do enjoy it. If you feel like you can't be happy with her because shes not a Disney fan like you are, maybe theres something deeper into the relationship that proves to you it just isn't right. Again, you're not asking her to make a life changing sacrifice, its Disney the happiest place on earth!

 

[sublimesting]

How did this get to the 2 year point? I would not give up Disney for anyone. It is such a major part of my life that I would want my significant other to be able to experience that with me. My DW and I are planning our fall trip and we keep discussing the same stuff over and over and IT'S GREAT!!!! I couldn't imagine having to keep it to myself cause she doesn't care.

 

[BawanaBrandon]

Thank you for your kind words. Tonight ive decided will be the night that we have the "talk".

Its nice to know that im not crazy

 

[Victoria]

Thank you for your kind words. Tonight ive decided will be the night that we have the "talk".

Its nice to know that im not crazy

Not crazy at all. Just being realistic about your future (or lack of a future in this case) together. Sure, you could probably continue to let her stomp all over the thing you like, but it would only breed hurt and resentment. You will probably be better off without her. I think you should celebrate your new singleness with a trip to Disney World.

 

[BawanaBrandon]

I think you should celebrate your new singleness with a trip to Disney World.

Thats the best idea yet! lol

 

[Scuttle]

Def. be better without her, she sounds like a weirdo man. She refuses to go to the most popular vacation destination in the world! That's weird. Besides you'll find the girl of your dreams when you find a disney fan like yourself and you two can go on vacations as a disney couple. If this girl can't have fun at disney or even consider going to disney then DUMP HER NOW.

 

[Victoria]

Thats the best idea yet! lol

I can always find a reason to go to WDW. Buy a new phone? Go to Disney World to test out all the apps. Get a new car? Road trip to WDW! Fired from your job? Go to Disney to make yourself feel better. Break up a relationship? Go to WDW to celebrate being free of that person. Lose 40 pounds? Go to WDW to show off how great you look in shorts now.

There's always a reason!