That's exactly it...I think the reason it has taken so long to get what he needs and to get a diagnosis is because he doesn't have it as bad as some. It's not OBVIOUS unless you know him. You can look at him and think he's just like every other kid. Once you get to know him, you notice those little things that hint at some issues. But it takes time to see it. Even DH denied it for a long time and I had to keep telling him, look, you are at work all day and I'M the one handling 15 meltdowns a day...you get home and write off the other meltdowns as him being tired from playing all day, but I'm telling you, this is HIM....ALL. DAY. It wasn't until he was into school and the teachers were concerned that he even really noticed that it wasn't just "when he was tired". So I'm sure that played into it...and even the teachers, without a diagnosis, they don't really make adaptations. So while the kid with a diagnosis got to stay inside at recess because outside it was too chaotic and busy, DS was not allowed to stay in, because HE didn't have that diagnosis and he "needed to be outside, making connections with other kids". Normally, I am not one for labels....he is my son, and it doesn't matter what diagnosis he has. But unfortunately, some people need that label to be compassionate and flexible. So I'm glad we finally have the magic label, as much as I think it's a shame we need it.