It's kind of weird....my mom was really overprotective in most things, but in other ways not at all. Like...she was furious with me on my first day of kindergarten because we had to walk, and my brother pointed to some teen boy across the street and told me he saw the kid had a huge knife and he heard the kid liked kindergarteners or some nonsense....he was trying to scare me. But being 5 and naive, I didn't realize that. I ran back to the house scared to death and my mom had to take time out of her busy day to walk me to school and explain why I was late. I would never have let my kids walk to school by themselves at that age and I have to wonder what my mom was thinking, especially being angry just because I was scared. But then in other things she was soooooo over protective. I was the only 17 year old who had to be home before it got dark, which meant 5:00 in the winter. The exceptions were school events like games or dances, but then I had to call my mom within 10 minutes of that event being over to come pick me up, or once I could drive, I had to be home 10 minutes after she started seeing cars leaving the parking lot. (Small town....you could see the school from our house) OR if I was with my brother it was ok. But I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, I wasn't allowed to date....when I was 17 I could go out in a group of friends that included boys, but it couldn't always be the same boys. (Not that any boys would have been caught dead hanging out with me.) I wasn't allowed to peg-leg my pants, wear stonewash jeans, or leather jackets, and nothing with fringe. (Fringe is for prostitutes) And no mall hair. She was exremely strict with my clothing and hair, and my social contacts, but then let me walk to school alone when I was 5? It makes no sense.
A started out with a kind of 4-square game at school. When he switched to special ed, he was introduced to it in recess. Their recess was structured there. Games like 4 square, hop scotch, etc were painted on the ground, including waiting spots, so you always knew whose turn it was, and they were supervised. So he learned at school and really liked it and got quite good at it. When we went to physical therapy, his PT started playing it with him at the end of each session as a sort of reward for hard work, and also to work on gross motorskills, balance, hand/eye coordination, etc. His PT said we really needed to get him into a sport to work on those things and also get him in better shape because he got winded really easily and he was starting to get pretty heavy. So we had to find him a sport that he could do that he would enjoy, but would also fit with his character. He has issues with social skills, so team sports are tough. He gets REALLY angry when he thinks someone is being unfair, like if they don't pass the ball to him, or they both go after the ball and collide, etc...he thinks it's always intentional. So team sports just....don't work. So the PT said we needed a sport that he plays by himself, but is also part of a group. We looked at golf, but they don't offer it for kids in our town and the one we found near us required a parent to join too. I couldn't drive him, so that meant my husband would have to join and he didn't want to. When the PT noticed how good A was at Kingen, he started giving A a racket instead of using his hands to see how he'd do, and he said tennis is close enough, he thought A would like it. And he does. There's no competitive sport right now with covid anyway, but I don't know if A will want to compete anyway. It's more just for fitness and coordination. But he's actually pretty good at it. His first lesson, he did almost as well as the other boys, who had all been playing for a couple of years. I don't think he'd ever be a really high level player, but he is decent at it and has fun with it. And that along with his chess gives him something to keep him busy, interact with other kids outside of school, learn about discipline, fair play, etc...it's been so good for him!