working out for Disney

[Figgy1]

Hello-

I resumed my workouts yesterday. I am wrapping up week 8 of a 12 week program. I kind of want to bail, but I've broken the back of it, so I'll try to stay the course.

Yesterday was a cardio workout, but I had to bail. It was different variations on burpees. I quickly selected a cardio kickbox workout and enjoyed that much more. Today was a kettlebell + resistance band work out.

Well, I am on the receiving end of a nice, fat, juicy, silent treatment right now. It's not fun and it's from a situation that erupted at the end of October. A friend committed a serious boundary violation, which I didn't like and told her my feelings. Now I am the bad guy for doing that, so I am on ignore everywhere. I don't think people realize how painful the silent treatment can be. It's making me feel like my life is in greyscale and anxious, plus I am not sleeping well. Mentally, it's not a place I'd like to be in this time of year. I am thinking this is the end of this friendship and this is how she sees fit to end it. I have been open to a rapprochement and indicated this to her, but my texts are not being read. I don't know if she has read my email. But, I made it clear I was open to discussion. I can't do anymore than that.

You were honest in your feelings, so you didn't do anything wrong. Maybe it was time for the friendship to go on hiatus for a while, or maybe it had just run its course. Still, it's upsetting. Sorry to hear about it.

@MinnieM123 thank you for being eloquent. My answer is something closer to good riddance to bad rubbish

 

[epcotisbest]

My husband went though 2 tubs of this in a week when we went to Topsail Island, NC this past summer. I mean, I helped him somewhat, but he was going to town with it.

It is good stuff, especially with grapes.

 

[epcotisbest]

I made a big ole pot of spaghetti sauce this evening, just the way I like it, thick and full of onions, tomatoes, mushrooms, bell peppers, garlic and more, including plenty of oregano, basil, parsley and crushed red pepper.
I let it simmer then added some meatballs (OK they were frozen meatballs, but tasty) then went for the spaghetti and there was none. Guess I should have looked before making the sauce.
What to do, what to do? Well I got out a box of Kraft Mac & Cheese, made the macaroni, saved the cheese stuff for later and added the macaroni to the pot of sauce. Let's just say it was a happy mistake and we enjoyed it a lot.

 

[Sans Souci]

I had that stupid thing a few weeks ago. It hung on for over 3 weeks -- annoying!! Hope you get over it soon.

Three weeks? It's only been a week and half for me. My husband brought it back from NYC a couple of weeks ago and he's *still* hacking and spluttering from this.

 

[Sans Souci]

You were honest in your feelings, so you didn't do anything wrong. Maybe it was time for the friendship to go on hiatus for a while, or maybe it had just run its course. Still, it's upsetting. Sorry to hear about it.

Outside of the ostracism, the most painful thing for me has been knowing she's not reading what I have written at Facebook Messenger. It's like I no longer exist to her. I feel like a ghost. It's distressing and I would have liked acknowledgment if this friendship is over.

 

[Sans Souci]

I made a big ole pot of spaghetti sauce this evening, just the way I like it, thick and full of onions, tomatoes, mushrooms, bell peppers, garlic and more, including plenty of oregano, basil, parsley and crushed red pepper.
I let it simmer then added some meatballs (OK they were frozen meatballs, but tasty) then went for the spaghetti and there was none. Guess I should have looked before making the sauce.
What to do, what to do? Well I got out a box of Kraft Mac & Cheese, made the macaroni, saved the cheese stuff for later and added the macaroni to the pot of sauce. Let's just say it was a happy mistake and we enjoyed it a lot.

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This looks like American Goulash.

 

[MinnieM123]

Outside of the ostracism, the most painful thing for me has been knowing she's not reading what I have written at Facebook Messenger. It's like I no longer exist to her. I feel like a ghost. It's distressing and I would have liked acknowledgment if this friendship is over.

If it was me, I'd say the friendship had run its course. (And that's even if she hasn't officially cancelled it out yet -- and even if she tried to patch it up, you might want to think twice about that, before making a decision.)

 

[Sans Souci]

Good morning!

Today was 50 kettlebell swings with my followed my a 25 minute power yoga. I bailed early, because I couldn't do the last poses, but I did 95% of the workout. I am going to get out for a walk later on, too.

When I was sick, my husband brought a plate for me from my mom's house. There was no turkey on my plate--there was ham. Whaaa? So, I had no turkey on Thanksgiving. LOL My husband went to Trader Joe's last night and bought some sliced turkey breast and some sides, so I could have kind of a Thanksgiving do-over with turkey this time!

I am going to do some video interview prep later on today. I found the updated questions on Glassdoor.com and they are pretty easy. There are 5 questions. One question is about piercings, tattoos, hair style/color and another asks about openness to moving to a new city, so there's two yes/no questions right there. But I just want to create some bullet points, so I can turn this video around as soon as I get the link to do it. I also need to sort out my eyebrows, they're out of control again.

 

[Sans Souci]

If it was me, I'd say the friendship had run its course. (And that's even if she hasn't officially cancelled it out yet -- and even if she tried to patch it up, you might want to think twice about that, before making a decision.)

I agree. This isn't the first time she's done this. She likes to push boundaries and she gets upset when I tell her she's not respecting mine. I kind of think she has a personalty disorder. She obviously has some good attributes, or I wouldn't bother with her. And I do have quite a few good memories of her. But it's reached the point where the bad overshadows the good.

 

[MinnieM123]

I agree. This isn't the first time she's done this. She likes to push boundaries and she gets upset when I tell her she's not respecting mine. I kind of think she has a personalty disorder. She obviously has some good attributes, or I wouldn't bother with her. And I do have quite a few good memories of her. But it's reached the point where the bad overshadows the good.

Sometimes, you reach your saturation level. Quite a few years ago, I had a friend that (unintentionally) used her friendships as emotional crutches, for all the drama (poor decisions on her part) in her life. What resonated from your comments above was that the person also had some good attributes. Well, so did my (former) friend. So we wish people like this well in their future, but need to sever the present-day friendship, once it starts to turn toxic for us.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Well, I am on the receiving end of a nice, fat, juicy, silent treatment right now. It's not fun and it's from a situation that erupted at the end of October. A friend committed a serious boundary violation, which I didn't like and told her my feelings. Now I am the bad guy for doing that, so I am on ignore everywhere. I don't think people realize how painful the silent treatment can be. It's making me feel like my life is in greyscale and anxious, plus I am not sleeping well. Mentally, it's not a place I'd like to be in this time of year. I am thinking this is the end of this friendship and this is how she sees fit to end it. I have been open to a rapprochement and indicated this to her, but my texts are not being read. I don't know if she has read my email. But, I made it clear I was open to discussion. I can't do anymore than that.

Even if said friend does make attempts to reconcile, it might be worth reevaluating the friendship. If they can't respect proper boundaries and ghost you over you standing up for yourself, you may not want to allow them to get close again in the future. Over the years, I've had friends who have crossed lines with me. Some were written off forever while others eventually worked their way back into my life down the road. In the latter case, I never give them the same level of trust and commitment that was present before our issues. Still, it's difficult...especially during the holidays, because you notice the void. While not easy, you just try and fill the void with positive things.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I still can't believe it's December. I know Thanksgiving was late and I kind of jumped the gun with outdoor decorating and Christmas music, but I still wrap my head around it. Which is funny, because my brain is in holiday eating mode and wants to eat everything. If I'm not careful, those running costumes won't fit over my holiday food gut! It doesn't help that running makes me ridiculously hungry. It's comparable to pregnancy hungry...which for me was all out gluttony. I'm still getting in my workouts and my runs. I'm also getting back on the squat machine on a more regular basis since I think some of my post run pains are from glute weakness. I can do real squats, but I would rather spare my knees.

What is strange is that I haven't decorated inside yet for the holidays. The puppies are so insanely rambunctious that we fear they'll knock down the trees. We normally put of 4 trees, and a lot of the ornaments are breakable (I collect Lenox porcelain ornaments), so I think we're going to try and skip the fresh tree and put up a couple of the artificial ones with only the more sturdy/less special stuff. The special ones may go on our mini tree on the bar this year.

Speaking of dogs...the pups have been ultra naughty and are probably going to get coal from Santa! Voodoo got out yesterday and shredded a bunch of stuff. I could blame my 11 yr old for failing to lock the crate with the real locks, but it's not her fault that Voodoo was destructive after making her escape. Cookie is no angel. On Thanksgiving, we were finishing up in the dining room when we heard a big thud. We'd checked on Cookie several times during the meal and she was just chilling out, but I guess the turkey was too much for her to resist. I guess she got up on her hind legs and pulled the turkey onto the floor. Thankfully, we'd already carved off about 90% of the meat.

 

[MinnieM123]

I still can't believe it's December. I know Thanksgiving was late and I kind of jumped the gun with outdoor decorating and Christmas music, but I still wrap my head around it. Which is funny, because my brain is in holiday eating mode and wants to eat everything. If I'm not careful, those running costumes won't fit over my holiday food gut! It doesn't help that running makes me ridiculously hungry. It's comparable to pregnancy hungry...which for me was all out gluttony. I'm still getting in my workouts and my runs. I'm also getting back on the squat machine on a more regular basis since I think some of my post run pains are from glute weakness. I can do real squats, but I would rather spare my knees.

What is strange is that I haven't decorated inside yet for the holidays. The puppies are so insanely rambunctious that we fear they'll knock down the trees. We normally put of 4 trees, and a lot of the ornaments are breakable (I collect Lenox porcelain ornaments), so I think we're going to try and skip the fresh tree and put up a couple of the artificial ones with only the more sturdy/less special stuff. The special ones may go on our mini tree on the bar this year.

Speaking of dogs...the pups have been ultra naughty and are probably going to get coal from Santa! Voodoo got out yesterday and shredded a bunch of stuff. I could blame my 11 yr old for failing to lock the crate with the real locks, but it's not her fault that Voodoo was destructive after making her escape. Cookie is no angel. On Thanksgiving, we were finishing up in the dining room when we heard a big thud. We'd checked on Cookie several times during the meal and she was just chilling out, but I guess the turkey was too much for her to resist. I guess she got up on her hind legs and pulled the turkey onto the floor. Thankfully, we'd already carved off about 90% of the meat.

I shouldn't laugh about the dogs' behavior, but Cookie, especially cracked me up!! You and your family have a lot of patience with those two doggies!!

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I shouldn't laugh about the dogs' behavior, but Cookie, especially cracked me up!! You and your family have a lot of patience with those two doggies!!

I still can't believe she grabbed the turkey. I started quoting the dad from A Christmas Story from the scene where the Bumpus' hounds break in and steal the ravage the holiday turkey.

 

[Sans Souci]

Even if said friend does make attempts to reconcile, it might be worth reevaluating the friendship. If they can't respect proper boundaries and ghost you over you standing up for yourself, you may not want to allow them to get close again in the future. Over the years, I've had friends who have crossed lines with me. Some were written off forever while others eventually worked their way back into my life down the road. In the latter case, I never give them the same level of trust and commitment that was present before our issues. Still, it's difficult...especially during the holidays, because you notice the void. While not easy, you just try and fill the void with positive things.

I agree with you. I'll see if she ever contacts me again, this feels final this time. I've been trying to keep myself busy with little household projects. My birthday is next week, so my husband and my son are taking me out for afternoon tea in Philly on Sunday. I'm looking forward to that. Then Christmas is not longer after that and we're going to DC for a couple of nights between Christmas and NYE. I'm trying to focus on those things, rather than what I am missing.

 

[Sans Souci]

I still can't believe it's December. I know Thanksgiving was late and I kind of jumped the gun with outdoor decorating and Christmas music, but I still wrap my head around it. Which is funny, because my brain is in holiday eating mode and wants to eat everything. If I'm not careful, those running costumes won't fit over my holiday food gut! It doesn't help that running makes me ridiculously hungry. It's comparable to pregnancy hungry...which for me was all out gluttony. I'm still getting in my workouts and my runs. I'm also getting back on the squat machine on a more regular basis since I think some of my post run pains are from glute weakness. I can do real squats, but I would rather spare my knees.

What is strange is that I haven't decorated inside yet for the holidays. The puppies are so insanely rambunctious that we fear they'll knock down the trees. We normally put of 4 trees, and a lot of the ornaments are breakable (I collect Lenox porcelain ornaments), so I think we're going to try and skip the fresh tree and put up a couple of the artificial ones with only the more sturdy/less special stuff. The special ones may go on our mini tree on the bar this year.

Speaking of dogs...the pups have been ultra naughty and are probably going to get coal from Santa! Voodoo got out yesterday and shredded a bunch of stuff. I could blame my 11 yr old for failing to lock the crate with the real locks, but it's not her fault that Voodoo was destructive after making her escape. Cookie is no angel. On Thanksgiving, we were finishing up in the dining room when we heard a big thud. We'd checked on Cookie several times during the meal and she was just chilling out, but I guess the turkey was too much for her to resist. I guess she got up on her hind legs and pulled the turkey onto the floor. Thankfully, we'd already carved off about 90% of the meat.

I thought of this workout when you said you think your glutes are weak and you want to spare your knees.

Glute Activation Workout - Knee Friendly Butt and Thigh Workout

Wake up your glutes and get in a great sweat with this glute activating workout.

www.fitnessblender.com

I love the resistance bands. I think my set was $10 from Amazon. It came with 4 different loops with different resistances.

That's too funny about Cookie dragging the turkey onto the floor! You should create an Instagram account for them and chronicle their mischief.

 

[Sans Souci]

I still can't believe she grabbed the turkey. I started quoting the dad from A Christmas Story from the scene where the Bumpus' hounds break in and steal the ravage the holiday turkey.

That's what I thought of when I read about Cookie. I heard the music from that scene, too.
At least she did it after dinner and you didn't have to go to a Chinese restaurant for dinner.

 

[Sans Souci]

Good morning.

I did a kettlebell workout this AM. I'm starting to dread these workouts, but I am in the final month of this three month program. Part of me wants to move onto something new and part of me wants to stay the course. It's just starting to feel repetitive now. I'll take it day by day. I feel like going back to yoga, but I'll see how I feel.

When we came back from Chicago, my son had a college acceptance letter with a scholarship waiting for him. I was so relieved because this was the only school he wanted to attend and had applied for. It's about 45 minutes from our house and he wants to commute. We'd like him to live closer to the school. Some of the driving to get there is a bit hairy at the best of times, so I can't imagine what it would be like in a rush hour situation. He isn't the most confident driver and I'd feel better if he didn't make that drive on a regular basis. We visited schools this summer and personally, I think the school we visited in Philly was a better match for what he wants to do, but he told me he hates city living. He has Asperger's and the school he is going to is small and is in a rural area of South Jersey. I think this feels more approachable and manageable for him.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I agree with you. I'll see if she ever contacts me again, this feels final this time. I've been trying to keep myself busy with little household projects. My birthday is next week, so my husband and my son are taking me out for afternoon tea in Philly on Sunday. I'm looking forward to that. Then Christmas is not longer after that and we're going to DC for a couple of nights between Christmas and NYE. I'm trying to focus on those things, rather than what I am missing.

You never know. Years may go by and they may reenter your life in some capacity, but it's never the same as it was. When it happens, I remind myself that I'm still fortunate for family and other friends. I miss some of our social outings and shopping trips around the holidays, but over time, these things have been replaced with other activities.

Happy early birthday to you!!! Afternoon tea sounds very nice. And you're right, Christmas isn't far off, so there's lots you could do with that. DC also sounds great!

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I thought of this workout when you said you think your glutes are weak and you want to spare your knees.

Glute Activation Workout - Knee Friendly Butt and Thigh Workout

Wake up your glutes and get in a great sweat with this glute activating workout.

www.fitnessblender.com

I love the resistance bands. I think my set was $10 from Amazon. It came with 4 different loops with different resistances.

That's too funny about Cookie dragging the turkey onto the floor! You should create an Instagram account for them and chronicle their mischief.

I'll have to look into that, because I did invest in a set of resistance bands.

I've thought about it, but I have such a hard time with Instagram. I have an account and I periodically post, but I just don't seem to like the format as much as Facebook. Oh well, maybe in time.