I think the problem is that many of us aren't willing to spend thousands a year to keep visiting.
I try to keep my complaints limited to maintenance and future management decisions (like Galaxy's Edge and this Project Curb Removal). I keep my complaints on crowding to a minimum, since I agree- it's incredibly disingenuous to complain about overcrowding while still attending.
My complaints with crowds don't stem from the crowds themselves- but instead how Disney has been handling the crowds. Project Stardust is an ill conceived band aid attempt to correct management and creative mistakes from the last few decades.
I've noticed on my last couple visits that the park didn't have the same feel. For me, this likely has to do with seeing my favorite two attractions- Splash Mountain and Haunted Mansion rot. And the closure of the original Fantasmic!- which I consider to be one of Disney's crowning achievements, and the new version to be a soulless mess by comparison. Or having Mickey's Mix Magic playing instead of an actual fireworks show that attempts to act as an emotional climax for the day at Disneyland. Or the construction walls everywhere throughout the park, though that's more of a temporary issue.
I've also noticed a decline in Cast Member quality. Perhaps I was more oblivious before- but the quality of service received, in many cases, was what I'd expect from Taco Bell, not Disney. I appreciate the higher wage initiatives since Disney does typically expect higher levels of service from their cast members, I just hope that the higher wages actually correlates to higher quality cast members.
I think the next couple years will act as a sort of test for myself personally- seeing if Splash Mountain gets the maintenance it deserves, if Galaxy's Edge ends up being a net positive for the resort, if Marvel Land is better than what we're seeing so far. If not, I could very easily see myself drastically cutting back on the amount I visit- instead of a couple times a year, maybe a couple times every few years, or only for special occasions. I could also see my self drastically cutting back on the merchandise I purchase, which has already been happening since most of what Disneyana is selling isn't super great.
I think “outright hates the place” applies to almost nobody. More like we don’t like where things are currently heading or some of the recent boneheaded decisions but I’ve gotten into this many times before. There is still a lot we do like about the parks so until the bad outweighs the good they ll have my business in some capacity. That doesn’t mean one can’t complain about dumb decisions or crowds in a Disneyland chat room. It’s not disingenuous at all. So am I disingenuous because I still ride GOTG:MB even though I complained about it replacing TOT more than just about anybody? No, because it’s still a thrill ride in a park that has very few. So I enjoy that part of it. In the same way, we enjoy a lot about DL, just not the crowds. However, like I said in another post, crowds have already impacted me in a way where DL will be getting less of my business.