I never even worded thing this way and have been nothing but understanding. If it makes me a villian to say people should do what they can to move up in their profession I guess I'm a villian.
Are you saying people aren't responsible for their own choices?
It's not what you literally said, but is it not what you implied?
Because it does come down to individual responsibility since only an individual is going to change their own outcome. Not saying we all can 100% get what we want in life but we can do our best to try for it.
So there's no responsibility for the government, community, family members, etc. to assist those who are struggling or may not be aware of the resources that exist out there?
Yes I am saying these people need motivation information and help and encouragement, I literally said all these things.
But then you undercut those same things by still basically blaming these people for their lot in life, and put all of the fault on the individual.
At the end of the day people that are stuck can be helped today by being empowered to further their education, skillset, or job search. I earlier mentioned people I personally know that literally are at fault and have had plenty of advice and help but refused to take it. But everyones case is unique.
While I agree, education requires time and money, something you seem to be assuming everyone has, when that is not the case.
Perhaps this is a personal failing, but I understand, to some extent, why some people refuse good advice. For one, advice is often given when it's not solicited, or the advice is outdated, condescending, or otherwise not delivered well. People think they can just throw advice in the air like confetti and it will automatically reach its intended target and have its intended effect, unless the person is a moron, but effective advice is:
1) advice the person receiving it is actually receptive to. This is key. If the person you're giving advice to isn't ready to hear it, there's a 99% chance the other person won't take it. And
2) advice that is well-delivered, and tailored to the person receiving it, at least in how it's approached.
Perhaps your life has been different than my own, but I literally have family members whose basic form of communication is to shout unsolicited advice at me continuously without taking any time to learn about my interests, my circumstances, etc, and I have to be honest, after a lifetime of this, I just tune it out. They may be well intentioned, but it comes off to me as patronizing, like there's nothing I can possibly do to ever win this person's approval or get them to understand my circumstances, so their advice gets tuned out. So even though their intentions, on paper, are good, because of how they deliver their advice, I'm unlikely to receive the good advice they DO occasionally give. I imagine I can't be the only person in the world that has made a habit of rejecting condescending, unsolicited advice, and so I understand, on some level, why this happens, even if it can be against one's own best interest. Does it mean I absolve those individuals of responsibility? No. But on some level, I get where some of them may be coming from.
My solution is to educate and empower stuck employees. What is your solution? I don't think legislation is ever going to fix this, and if it somehow did it would take years and years of work.
I think we have the same solution, it just comes across to me like you're undercutting your own solution to play the blame game. Perhaps not your intent, but that's how it reads to me. I do think legislation and a strong government COULD do something; what is the point of a government if they're not going to make an effort to help anyone achieve things, especially when there are documented shortages in key industries? That would seem to be a win-win for everybody, and yet there are so few things (at least that I'm aware of) that seem to be making an effort, especially for older workers.
Not sure the staffing shortage is still a thing. Most companies are doing layoffs in both corporate and front of the line workers. As for Carthay they changed the menu during covid after their amazing Korean Chef left and the new chef took away literally all their former signature items (duck wings, fried biscuits). I know I have no interest in the new menu which last I checked was bad sounding mediterranean fare (and I usually like mediterranean).
They instead are making money serving drinks and appetizers in the patio for lunch and dinner.
Nonetheless, while staffing shortages around the park have improved, it is still glaring to me that pre-covid, Carthay was open for lunch and dinner. Yet since park reopening, Carthay has been dinner only. The only explanation for this in my head is staffing, because even if the menu has changed for the worse, if Carthay was open for lunch, people would eat there. So it's literally Disney leaving money on the table because of their inability to fully staff Carthay.
Oh I agree Disney when they were doing well could afford to do way more, and their ceo makes an insane amount of money for running a failing company. Bob Chapek even axed them buying Gardenwalk which would've been an employee childcare center.
I literally said in my above posts I'm not defending Disney. The fact is today and tomorrow they can and will continue to pay as little as they can.
The people sticking around are worse off if they keep working for Disney unless they stay just to take advantage of the college program and jump ship. The employees can then take advantage of Disney for once by doing this program and moving on to bigger and better things.
Is it not defending Disney if you're basically saying that these people are idiots for sticking around? The implication there is if people are going to be suckers and keep staying there for dirt pay, what incentive does Disney have to change?
As I said in a different post, I do think it's interesting how many companies seemingly cannot understand why they should pay their workers more, to result in a better, more satisfied workforce which would then result in a better experience for guests. But they must have good PR, because there's no shortage of people willing to be like "of course they're still getting dirt pay, didn't they know this was supposed to be temporary employment?!?".
Yes. Again one to two online classes at a time is realistic even for parents or full time workers (or both).
I agree that on paper it should be, but I think you're underestimating how hectic things are for a lot of families and what additional obligations they may have.
Disney and Universal pay tuition and loans are also a thing. Again one to two online classes at a time is realistic and don't require child care.
I'm not a parent, so I probably shouldn't make assumptions here, but I think that some absolutely would require child care regardless. Perhaps a small percentage, but not all children or parents or families are the same.
Yes 100%.
Sure. But all the risks of these will situate you better than sticking around and a minimum wage job forever and hoping it transforms into a living wage job.
If bills have to be paid now and you have a lot on your plate due to family, children, working long hours, etc., some may not be in the best position to act on that advice, even if they accept that rationally, that advice is correct.
From personal experience I have members of my family that have had decades of opportunity to do something and literally chose not to and then try to pass their financial burden onto other family members.
Someone being an elderly mom buys them compassion but at some point we are all adults and we can't be everyone's bank account. I don't know about this poster's case. From my own experiences, it has nothing to do with lack of compassion or lack of trying. I have at many points given a lot to relatives all for it to be in vain and unappreciated without a chance for turnaround.
There's a difference between someone being down on their luck and someone purposefully continually making bad choices and depending on others to pull themselves out.
It can be heartbreaking seeing someone you know struggling and not being able to help, but at some point again we can only do so much and people are responsible for themselves.
If I could comfortably support everyone of my friends and family I would but I'm not in the position to do so, and helping them with advice and opportunities to try to reach financial independence is all I can do.
I don't know the situation fully either, but I was a bit shocked to read that. I do think a 77 year old is a bit disadvantaged looking for new opportunities in the workforce and that it's fair to acknowledge that there's a big difference between someone in their twenties or thirties looking for a new position and someone much older. My own mother got laid off in 2020 in her late fifties, and I know that she really struggled to find any footing in a job market where opportunities that would have appealed to her were limited by retirement-related stipulations, and despite the prohibition on age-related employment discrimination, no company really wants to hire anyone nearing or past retirement age-particularly the "right" companies that offer better pay and benefits. She also saw firsthand how the job application process had changed radically from when she was last looking for a position (around 2000), and not in the job seeker's favor, at least IMO and hers. Ultimately she decided to focus on caring for her aging parents instead of seeking a new position and ride out the next few years until those benefits acrued from her previous job start kicking in. So while I don't know Phroobar's mother's situation firsthand, my first instinct is to have empathy for her situation rather than assume that an elderly woman is simply lazy for not grabbing at better opportunities. I mean, let's be real here: how many better opportunities really exist for 77 year olds? I know that occasionally you'll see those "80 year old grandmother has just earned a PH.D" sorts of articles, but the reason those articles get published is because it's an anomaly at that point for such things to happen. I'd love to be proven wrong, truly, but I'm having trouble at understanding what a person in that situation is really supposed to do. Life expectancy for women in the US right now is 79.3 years. While one doesn't ever really know how long an individual will live, I can understand Mom's refusal at that point to try something else.