T is in a soccer tourney this weekend, with his school team, not his club. They won their game yesterday. Lost by 1 at their 7:30am game.. he was disappointed, but said “we’re not out yet” afterwards.. we went to brunch then back to the field for 12 pm game.
We were winning 2-1 the 1st half..then ended up losing 9-2 by the final whistle. T did score one of the goals and had an assist on the other.
A couple of things, T has only practiced with the team once. (He’ll only be able to attend one per week due to conflicts with his academy) The rest of the team has only practiced twice. That’s it. A few boys are doing their first year of soccer, made the switch from football. T and 3 other boys are on club teams.. this is their first year back in SAY in 2 years, a lot of soccer inbetween. The rules are different in SAY.. quarters instead of halves.. no offsides unless you’rs in the box.. This does throw off the game a bit to kids who are used to select, at least in the first week.
So anyway, I could see that T was dripping in sweat and aggravated near the end of the game (I think he sat out a total of 5 minutes for a water break). There was a ball that came semi near him, and usually he would have sprinted and jumped to stop it and beat the opposing player. He didn’t this time. He was close to me and I said “T, you have to run over and beat him!” He looked at me and said “Please be quiet!”
Final whistle blows, they shake hands, have a meeting with the coach, then come to the parents. I said “Good game, T” and tried to give him a high five.. he didn’t high five, and said, loudly, “What game were you watching, mom?! That was NOT a good game. Leave me alone.” and stormed off in front of me.
I walk up to him and say “Calm down, its just a pre season tourney. Your team has only had 1 or 2 practices”, I can see that he’s crying and doesn’t want to show it.. he looks at me and in such a mean voice says “Just BE QUIET.”
Refused to talk to me in the car, with the exception of asking if we were still going for ice cream in a horrible attitude voice.. I said no, due to his attitude.
Came home and he threw his soccer bag down and stormed off to his room. I told him to change and calm down and come out when he’s ready to act nice again.
He came out 15-20 minutes later and was back to his normal self., we played frisbee, ordered Thai food for dinner.. and now has been playing with neighborhood kids.
I just hate that he gets that upset over a stupid game!
Sorry this post ended up so long.