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Songbird76

Songbird76

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21stamps said:
Oh good on the game and dance stuff! This is sounding so much better than the impression I got from your first post. Sounds like you had a fun teen/high school experience!

Senior trip is soon after graduation.. everyone goes on one last “Big Trip” together.. but this time NO ADULTS! There’s enough 18 year olds to make reservations.. the tricky part was finding resorts that allowed under 21. Our school and a few others took over the greater part of a resort for a week.lol Some groups stayed a few hotels up. We went to Panama City Beach.. but I think the destination depends on what’s common for your area.

Basically a week of celebrating the end of high school (and the past 12 years) before everyone starts moving around the country for college.
Spring break on steroids. ;)
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Oh I had a great time in high school. Well, I didn't like most of the kids in my school because they were immature jerks, but I loved all the activities I did because I met other kids who were more like me and I actually had things in common with them and we had so much fun together. If I hadn't had all the extra-curriculars, I would have gone insane. But that's why mom threatened to take those away when I got the A- in history...those extra-curriculars were my lifeline. She knew I'd work hard to be able to participate because I'd be miserable without it.

And no, I would DEFINITELY not have been allowed to go on a senior trip!! No way!! But then, I wouldn't have wanted to. Most of the kids were horrible to me. I really didn't fit in. I remember there was supposed to be a big party after graduation. I had never been invited to a party, but suddenly everyone was telling me I should come, I didn't have to drink, just hang out with them...it was our graduation and we'd all be leaving for college, etc. My best friend came to me and asked me if I was planning to go and I said no, what was I going to do as the only sober person hanging out in the middle of nowhere with a bunch of trashed teens, even if I COULD sneak out without my mom finding out. She said that was good, because the reason everyone was so invested in my going to the party was that they were planning to hold me down and pour alcohol down my throat. No way was I going to go ANYWHERE with those jerks without adult supervision, whether my mom would have allowed it or not.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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MinnieM123 said:
:jawdrop: Yikes. It's amazing that you turned out to be such a nice woman, with a healthy balanced perpective on life, after all that.
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Aw, that's very sweet of you to say, but it really wasn't that bad. I mean, yes, my mom was very strict and there were a lot of ridiculous and unnecessary rules, but I still had a great time. I just had to be a bit more creative about it. But my mom, for all her harsh rules and punishments, did make sure I got a good education and that I learned to be responsible. And she was there to help if there was a sticky situation with a teacher or whatever. And she always told me "Use me as an excuse. If kids are pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, just tell them I won't let you." Which was usually the truth anyway...usually the reason I didn't want to do something was because it would get me in trouble. But I knew that she would stand up for me when I was in the right.
Juniors put on the prom and our principal told us that we didn't have any money to put on prom. I was class treasurer, but I wasn't allowed to see the books or count the money. My job was solely to go to the office before any class meeting and ask what our balance was and report it to the class. Well, the principal printed out the last 3 pages of the account book and gave it to the class officers to show us how we had no money left and how much we had spent. It was so confusing...the exact same amount was taken out 3 times...$83 for bread for the concession stand. Really??? $83 on BREAD? That's a LOT of bread considering we only needed buns for sloppy joes and considering those come in 6 or 8 buns a pack for less than a dollar, and there were only 250 kids in our whole high school. There's no way we spent that much on bread 3 TIMES! And the amount should differ slightly each time...we weren't buying the exact same things every time.

So I brought the printouts home to my mom, who had worked in a bank for YEARS before she met my dad, and she was better with money and bookkeeping than anyone I've ever met. So she looked at it and couldn't make sense of it. She marched down to the school and demanded to talk to the principal, who conveniently disappeared. So she showed the books to the secretary...she was the secretary's house cleaner, so she knew her well. The secretary was the one who was supposed to write down all the entries in the book, but they weren't in her handwriting and she didn't recognize any of the stuff. So she called the district office. They were confused, too. None of that stuff was in their records. By the time my mom left, my class had more than enough to put on prom and the principal was LIVID that my mom had the audacity to come and question school accounting.

There had been rumors that he had 2 sets of books and was skimming money off of various accounts for his own personal use, but there was never any concrete proof. But it would certainly explain why the treasurer wasn't allowed to handle money or see the books. Actually, we weren't supposed to count the money after a concession at a game, and no one understood why, so I did it secretly anyway, and I KNEW we were making money even though the principal was telling us we were spending more than we were bringing in. And my mom was usually there working in the concession stand with me because we needed parent volunteers and most of the parents were watching the game. So as harsh as she was, she also supported me with things that were important for school, etc. I wish she could have given me a bit of credit for being responsible and mature, and it would have been nice if she'd have rewarded me with a BIT of freedom. But I did know that what she did was meant to be for my benefit....she just went way too far trying to control everything and make sure I never ever ever had an opportunity to make a mistake.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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Rista1313 said:
Our senior trip was a day at an amusement park (cedar point) where all the kids were loaded into buses, with chaperones.
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We didn't have anything like that. Our school did require at least 4 hours of volunteer work to graduate, and it couldn't be just doing a regular job for free. It had to be something that would benefit other people. So our school organized a trip to Denver to work in the projects there....they worked in a soup kitchen and they did some clean up. It was chaperoned and everything. That's how most seniors got their 4 hours done. I was not allowed to go on that trip. I think I was the only one who DIDN'T go on that trip. Fortunately they counted my being a D.A.R.E. Role model as volunteer work. I went and talked to elementary kids about not doing drugs, drinking, etc. Otherwise I don't know what I would have done....maybe pick up some trash along the highway? But a senior trip for fun....nope. No such thing where I come from.
 
21stamps

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Songbird76 said:
We didn't have anything like that. Our school did require at least 4 hours of volunteer work to graduate, and it couldn't be just doing a regular job for free. It had to be something that would benefit other people. So our school organized a trip to Denver to work in the projects there....they worked in a soup kitchen and they did some clean up. It was chaperoned and everything. That's how most seniors got their 4 hours done. I was not allowed to go on that trip. I think I was the only one who DIDN'T go on that trip. Fortunately they counted my being a D.A.R.E. Role model as volunteer work. I went and talked to elementary kids about not doing drugs, drinking, etc. Otherwise I don't know what I would have done....maybe pick up some trash along the highway? But a senior trip for fun....nope. No such thing where I come from.
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Nursing home or elderly relative for volunteer hours too. I got a lot of mine that way!

Just to clarify about “Senior Trip”.. it’s not put on by the school.. the school is not involved at all. It’s common for students of certain schools to stay at certain hotels/destinations etc.. but it’s like a right of passage after graduation.. Planned by the kids and approved by their parents. Technically most are adults at that point, with the exception of those with Summer birthdays.. I’ll allow it for my son, it’s 2.5 months before college, so they’re going to be without parents soon enough.
I thought a senior trip was really common.. maybe it depends on what part of the country you live in?

Senior Day was during the school year.. we had busses and went to an amusement park... that was done by the school with chaperones.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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21stamps said:
Nursing home or elderly relative for volunteer hours too. I got a lot of mine that way!

Just to clarify about “Senior Trip”.. it’s not put on by the school.. the school is not involved at all. It’s common for students of certain schools to stay at certain hotels/destinations etc.. but it’s like a right of passage after graduation.. Planned by the kids and approved by their parents. Technically most are adults at that point, with the exception of those with Summer birthdays.. I’ll allow it for my son, it’s 2.5 months before college, so they’re going to be without parents soon enough.
I thought a senior trip was really common.. maybe it depends on what part of the country you live in?

Senior Day was during the school year.. we had busses and went to an amusement park... that was done by the school with chaperones.
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Nope, the nursing home was only interested in people who wanted to volunteer regular hours, and since the nursing home was 40 miles away, that wasn't really feasible. Our student council went once to run BINGO and when we got there, we were almost turned away because they wanted people who weren't just coming once...they wanted people to come a couple of times a week.

Maybe the senior trip depends on where you are. It's also possible that I just wasn't invited to ours. Again, I wouldn't have gone anyway. That would have been my idea of torture. (I also did not go to either of my reunions) There was the senior skip day, which is similar...it's a day the seniors plan and they all skip and go out and do something fun, usually as a class. I believe most of my class went to keyhole. I heard stories about a "freeze-out", which I had no idea what it meant, but apparently they all stripped down for the ride home. I don't understand the point, but they thought it was hilarious. But that is completely planned by the senior class and has no affiliation with the school other than the fact that they don't go to school that day. The school doesn't really do anything about it...they don't know when it's going to be, but when there are only 1 or 2 seniors in school, it's pretty obvious that that's what's going on. And there's no obligation to specifically go where the majority are going, but they usually all go together. And usually the parents give their kids permission to skip that day. The school would call if you didn't show up for school, so if you don't have permission, obviously you're in trouble.

As for most of the kids being legal adults, yes, that's true...I was 18, BUT I had to wait until I was not living at home to have freedom. My mom's house, my mom's rules...no matter the age. In fact we got in an argument because my mom announced that she was going to move to Laramie so I could live with her in college. I told her I wasn't going to live with her even if she did move. She was very angry, because what was the point of her moving if I wasn't going to live with her? I said I didn't know, but I wanted to be on campus where I got the real college experience of living in a dorm room, having a roommate, having planned activities, always knowing what was going on on campus because it was advertised. I didn't tell her that the real reason I refused to live with her was because I knew if I did, I'd be subject to her rules, like the "when it gets dark" curfew, and no dating. I wasn't going to have my friends invite me out after class and I would have to say "Sorry, I'm not allowed out past dark" when I was in college. I wanted my mom to have no leverage over me, and the only way to be independent was if I was paying my own way for everything so she had nothing to take away if I didn't do what she wanted.

The crazy thing is that my brother went to the same college I did, but she wasn't going so that HE could live with her, and she didn't expect him to. She DID expect that I would, and it made her very angry that I wouldn't, and she couldn't force me because I was a legal adult. She also tried to forbid me from being engaged...when people would congratulate me, she'd say "She's not engaged! She doesn't have my permission." and one time when I was talking about wedding plans, she point blank told me I wasn't getting married because she hadn't given her permission. I reminded her that as a legal adult, they weren't going to ASK for her permission...I could walk right in and get a marriage license...they weren't going to ask her to sign anything. I was 19 or 20 at that time. So a senior trip while I was still living under her roof wasn't going to fly. I had enough respect to wait to start living MY life until I was supporting myself financially.
 
CoreNovawarAMM

CoreNovawarAMM

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ajrwdwgirl said:
It’s been a long week of parent-teacher conferences two nights this week and other after school meetings the other days this week. I’m really looking forward to the weekend. But Singing in the Rain is currently on TCM (my favorite musical) and Pillow Talk (with Doris Day and Rock Hudson) is on next, that is my favorite romantic comedy. I wish I could stay up late to watch, but I’ll settle for falling asleep to it. 🙂
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Two great movies! Also Born Yesterday (William Holden and Judy Holliday), that was played right before those two...😊❤️
 

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