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Songbird76

Songbird76

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figmentfan423 said:
12 until you are married and have your first kid and then 16. Men:banghead:
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Oh that's definitely not just a man thing. My mom treated me like a naughty 10 year old even when I was in college. One of the choirs I sang in in college went to Carnegie Hall, and some people gave my mom checks to give to me to help me pay for the trip. Mom decided to drive down to watch and comandeered the checks for her gas money. I almost didn't get to go. As it was, I didn't have the money for the airfare, so had to drive with mom and my brother. I had rehearsals during the day, but my mom was very controlling about my free time....she didn't like me meeting up with an internet friend, though we had stayed with one of my brother's internet friends on the way over in....Maryland? And my brother and I wanted to go shopping and she wouldn't hear of it, because it was NYC and we might get mugged, and everything is overpriced, and blah blah blah. She treated my brother like an adult....he convinced her that he could pick me up on the last day by himself, she didn't need to come. So we went shopping that day without her even knowing we went, and it was so nice not to have someone telling me how much money I could spend, which stores I could go into, etc.
And my MIL, when I moved here, insisted that I did my Dutch homework downstairs where she could "Correct me if I made a mistake". I was a married, college graduate, and she didn't even go to high school, but she thought I needed her to tell me how to do my homework and how to study. And she would turn burners up behind my back when I was cooking, so everything would burn, she'd change the settings on the washing machine when I was doing laundry....she convinced my husband to get a different paint color than we had agreed on, because her taste was better, even though it was OUR house...I made him take it back and get what we agreed on. But parents just always seem to think we are children, no matter how old we get.
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
He sounds a tad (sarcasm) controlling. Guess he does forget how old you are. As parents, your kids will always be kids. It is hard on the kids that are adults, but I kind of get it.
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I can't speak for others, but, that is why, when I got to be an adult, I left home and went out on my own and never looked back. The day after I graduated I was in Texas in Basic Training for the Air Force. I got married before I got out and set up my own home. I know I would have gone ballistic if I had adult children living at home while holding a job and saving their money while I spent mine on them. In fact, I did tell both of my girls it was time to be a grownup not just pretend they were. They could have stayed at home, but, they would be paying room and board. (probably nowhere near what it would have cost on the outside), but, there are no free rides in life except perhaps the first 18 to 21 years when parents have a responsibility to get them to some degree of education and ready to take care of themselves.

When I left home, it was tough sledding for awhile. I couldn't have a new car, I couldn't take vacations, I couldn't buy anything other then generic foods and discount store clothing. But, I was free to do and be whatever I wanted to do or be. It's a much different world now, but, my girls have become very independent and self sufficient and the only time they ever asked for help was when they were first married and asked for a loan to get something that was a necessity. And they paid me back as quickly as they could. Fortunately, they both married men that didn't want to be indebted to their Father in Law. :) Worked for me! :joyfull:
 
MinnieM123

MinnieM123

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Goofyernmost said:
I can't speak for others, but, that is why, when I got to be an adult, I left home and went out on my own and never looked back.
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Absolutely. If I stayed home, I'd be paying rent to them anyway, so out I went at 22. (There was never any pressure from them to do so, but I just couldn't stand to deal with childhood rules, etc.) Really forces you to face life's twists and turns, when you fly out of the nest. No regrets.
 
MinnieM123

MinnieM123

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StarWarsGirl said:
So my friend who was supposed to go with me to Disney in February bailed. I'm thinking of cancelling myself and going by myself another time because I just don't feel like going with my parents, plus she really put a damper on the trip by bailing. What do you all think?
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Hard to say, as I haven't heard her side. Sorry she changed her mind on you.

Your situation reminds me a little of years ago when I worked in the hotel industry. A friend of mine who worked there, wanted to go to our hotel in Egypt, and I was game. We planned for a few months, and then she bailed. Why? Because her teenage daughter also wanted to go, but only wanted to go with mommy. :facepalm: What could I say? I was disappointed, but sometimes things happen. :(
 

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