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ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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Goofyernmost said:
None of the weddings I ever attended/participated in had an open bar. There was a bar, but, people paid for their own. Solved that problem. No one ever complained especially after they had a few.
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I have attended some weddings with an open bar but most I have been to have had an open bar for just a cocktail hour. After an hour it was closed. When I was attending those wedding I made the most of that hour! Some of those cocktails can be expensive so for our wedding hubs and I had a half keg of Miller lite, and bought a couple of bottles of champagne for each table. We figured when that was gone then people could buy their own. The beer ran out right at the end of our dance and we ended up taking a few bottles of champagne home with us. So in the end I don't think any of our guests had suffered from a lack of booze and I think everyone had a good time. Well, maybe not my sisters-in-law but that's another story....:cautious:
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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Rista1313 said:
So my oldest Stepson proposed to his girlfriend last night. It seems I'm going to be a step-mil... is that a thing? I told my husband he's authorized to offer them up to $1000 to elope. The 2019 WDW trip is potentionally on the line! :arghh:
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Because of the money, or because of the timing? If it's a timing thing, perhaps you could convince them that a Disney wedding would be something to remember?
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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ajrwdwgirl said:
I have attended some weddings with an open bar but most I have been to have had an open bar for just a cocktail hour. After an hour it was closed. When I was attending those wedding I made the most of that hour! Some of those cocktails can be expensive so for our wedding hubs and I had a half keg of Miller lite, and bought a couple of bottles of champagne for each table. We figured when that was gone then people could buy their own. The beer ran out right at the end of our dance and we ended up taking a few bottles of champagne home with us. So in the end I don't think any of our guests had suffered from a lack of booze and I think everyone had a good time. Well, maybe not my sisters-in-law but that's another story....:cautious:
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I forgot the champagne. We did provide champagne, (not from the wine cellars in France) but, for the toasts during the reception. When that was gone, that was gone. It might even been Boone's Farm Apple Wine with a fake label, I have completely and luckily erased that memory from my head.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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Goofyernmost said:
Have it in WDW and take care of both things at once. Your Step-DIL's family are paying for it right? If not... never mind! Sorry, I just want to see the family of the bride fulfill their obligations mostly because I had to pay for most of my own (even though my in-laws had plenty of money), then paid for both my daughter's weddings. I want to know that someone else is paying for stuff like that. :D
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I paid for my own wedding. My aunt did pay for the cake, which was very helpful, my dad paid for the photographer, and my mom took care of the deposit on the hall, but I paid for everything else (catering, DJ, decorations, dress, flowers, etc) myself. My mom couldn't afford to pay for a wedding, and I didn't have the greatest relationship with my dad at the time, so I didn't feel right asking him for money. (He surprised me with the photographer) It worked out nicely because I got to do things my way without someone telling me they wouldn't pay for the dress if I didn't choose the one they wanted, or let them pick the DJ, etc. And I got to have the kind of wedding I always wanted to....my parents would never have been able to pay for a DJ and a reception hall, or a dress. It would have been a VERY casual affair if I hadn't paid for it myself. But I'm hearing that a lot more in recent years....couples paying for their own weddings instead of the bride's parents footing the bill.
 
ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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Songbird76 said:
I paid for my own wedding. My aunt did pay for the cake, which was very helpful, my dad paid for the photographer, and my mom took care of the deposit on the hall, but I paid for everything else (catering, DJ, decorations, dress, flowers, etc) myself. My mom couldn't afford to pay for a wedding, and I didn't have the greatest relationship with my dad at the time, so I didn't feel right asking him for money. (He surprised me with the photographer) It worked out nicely because I got to do things my way without someone telling me they wouldn't pay for the dress if I didn't choose the one they wanted, or let them pick the DJ, etc. And I got to have the kind of wedding I always wanted to....my parents would never have been able to pay for a DJ and a reception hall, or a dress. It would have been a VERY casual affair if I hadn't paid for it myself. But I'm hearing that a lot more in recent years....couples paying for their own weddings instead of the bride's parents footing the bill.
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We paid for most of our own wedding ourselves as well. When I was in college my parents gave me a choice of $2000 for college or $2000 for a wedding down the road. I wanted to get married someday but that is never a guarantee so I took the money for college. I figured by the time I got married I and my intended would have a decent job to be able to pay for what we wanted. The gamble paid off, I came out of college with only a couple thousands in loans (with a great summer job & scholarships) that I paid off within 2 years of graduating. So when the wedding did come around I had the means to pay for my share of the wedding. My husband's mom did give us some money for the wedding and paid for the rehearsal dinner. And my mom ended up paying for my dress, she wanted it to be a gift just from her.

I too felt I didn't have to bend to anyone else's wishes besides my soon-to-be husband's and the only request he had was that the ceremony be in a church and that we have a dance. Otherwise he didn't care. His mom had already gone through 2 weddings with her daughters and she lived 7 hours away so the money came without any strings. I think that if I had asked her to be involved she would have. I did most of my planning with my mom, and really the only dislike she voiced was with my flowers. I wanted peonies and she thought they would be over-run with ants. I reminded her that they were coming from a professional greenhouse, not our garden so there wouldn't be ants. On my wedding day she thought my flowers were beautiful.

But I always get confused about how stressed people get with planning weddings. I booked our church, photographer, reception place, florist, and cake lady all in one day. I actually did it during my prep time at work one day. Hubs took care of renting the stereo system we used for our dance, and making the cd's with the music we wanted. It was just a matter of meeting with the florist & cake lady, and then the fun shopping of the dresses and favors. I'm just low key though, definitely no bridezilla that I've seen on TV!:joyfull:
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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Songbird76 said:
I paid for my own wedding. My aunt did pay for the cake, which was very helpful, my dad paid for the photographer, and my mom took care of the deposit on the hall, but I paid for everything else (catering, DJ, decorations, dress, flowers, etc) myself. My mom couldn't afford to pay for a wedding, and I didn't have the greatest relationship with my dad at the time, so I didn't feel right asking him for money. (He surprised me with the photographer) It worked out nicely because I got to do things my way without someone telling me they wouldn't pay for the dress if I didn't choose the one they wanted, or let them pick the DJ, etc. And I got to have the kind of wedding I always wanted to....my parents would never have been able to pay for a DJ and a reception hall, or a dress. It would have been a VERY casual affair if I hadn't paid for it myself. But I'm hearing that a lot more in recent years....couples paying for their own weddings instead of the bride's parents footing the bill.
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Dh and I paid for our own wedding. My family easily could have paid for it as the whole wedding was about 10k, but already having a job, I didn’t think it would be right. We only invited just over 70 people, so it was small and perfect.
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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ajrwdwgirl said:
We paid for most of our own wedding ourselves as well. When I was in college my parents gave me a choice of $2000 for college or $2000 for a wedding down the road. I wanted to get married someday but that is never a guarantee so I took the money for college. I figured by the time I got married I and my intended would have a decent job to be able to pay for what we wanted. The gamble paid off, I came out of college with only a couple thousands in loans (with a great summer job & scholarships) that I paid off within 2 years of graduating. So when the wedding did come around I had the means to pay for my share of the wedding. My husband's mom did give us some money for the wedding and paid for the rehearsal dinner. And my mom ended up paying for my dress, she wanted it to be a gift just from her.

I too felt I didn't have to bend to anyone else's wishes besides my soon-to-be husband's and the only request he had was that the ceremony be in a church and that we have a dance. Otherwise he didn't care. His mom had already gone through 2 weddings with her daughters and she lived 7 hours away so the money came without any strings. I think that if I had asked her to be involved she would have. I did most of my planning with my mom, and really the only dislike she voiced was with my flowers. I wanted peonies and she thought they would be over-run with ants. I reminded her that they were coming from a professional greenhouse, not our garden so there wouldn't be ants. On my wedding day she thought my flowers were beautiful.

But I always get confused about how stressed people get with planning weddings. I booked our church, photographer, reception place, florist, and cake lady all in one day. I actually did it during my prep time at work one day. Hubs took care of renting the stereo system we used for our dance, and making the cd's with the music we wanted. It was just a matter of meeting with the florist & cake lady, and then the fun shopping of the dresses and favors. I'm just low key though, definitely no bridezilla that I've seen on TV!:joyfull:
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I had a similar experience. We got engaged in September, I had the venue booked a week later. Got a dj and photographer recommended by the venue a few days later. Chose my dress over a weekend after trying maybe 5. Number 2 was the winner. For the flowers, I just went to our local florist and chose peach/yellow roses. For the next 10 months I was bored out of my mind since the planning was all done within a couple of weeks. No Father of the Bride experience at my house.
 
93boomer

93boomer

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
I had a similar experience. We got engaged in September, I had the venue booked a week later. Got a dj and photographer recommended by the venue a few days later. Chose my dress over a weekend after trying maybe 5. Number 2 was the winner. For the flowers, I just went to our local florist and chose peach/yellow roses. For the next 10 months I was bored out of my mind since the planning was all done within a couple of weeks. No Father of the Bride experience at my house.
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When is your anniversary? We got married in September. Ours is this Thursday. Year 38!
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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93boomer said:
Aww thanks!!! It went very fast!:joyfull:
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I wish I could convey how good it is to have someone to share life with. I was divorced 18 years ago after 29 years together, and in many ways at the time it seemed freeing. It was.. I am now free to be alone most of the time. To work my way though problems alone. Free to discuss how I feel, be it good or bad, with myself. I don't have arguments, but, it just isn't the same. My X passed away two years ago today. It hit me harder then I ever would have imagined considering we hadn't lived together and only seen each other during family get togethers for 16 years. Having someone to share one's life with is a precious thing, even though it sometimes feels really taxing. It's something you don't miss until it is gone. I'm so glad for those that are able to hold it together forever. My parents lasted 54 years until my Dad passed away. I made it half that and on some level regret that I didn't try harder to hold it together. Enjoy your day!
 
93boomer

93boomer

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Goofyernmost said:
I wish I could convey how good it is to have someone to share life with. I was divorced 18 years ago after 29 years together, and in many ways at the time it seemed freeing. It was.. I am now free to be alone most of the time. To work my way though problems alone. Free to discuss how I feel, be it good or bad, with myself. I don't have arguments, but, it just isn't the same. My X passed away two years ago today. It hit me harder then I ever would have imagined considering we hadn't lived together and only seen each other during family get togethers for 16 years. Having someone to share one's life with is a precious thing, even though it sometimes feels really taxing. It's something you don't miss until it is gone. I'm so glad for those that are able to hold it together forever. My parents lasted 54 years until my Dad passed away. I made it half that and on some level regret that I didn't try harder to hold it together. Enjoy your day!
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Aww thank you! The only thing that makes a marriage last is constantly working at it. Plus lots of patience! :joyfull:
 

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