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21stamps

21stamps

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Cesar R M said:
I now wonder if someone close to you played you a prank lol.
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Could be? ;). These shoes are nearly a year old.. only me, my kid, and my dog have been near them.. but something must have happened at some point. It’s just so strange that it was only One Foot, and only After the 2nd time we went on the ride.
Oh well, the right foot foam day will always be a mystery.lol
 
21stamps

21stamps

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Cesar R M said:
Agree with you 100%

Except I dont think the argument has to be related to him being a lawyer or not.




Exactly, which makes me wonder if he wanted the Buick so he could "borrow it" for X reasons that he wanted.
Aka he wanted the Buick but he didn't want to invest in a new car.
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I don’t know about that, because if he was concerned with value, then the Buick Encore is a horrible buy compared to the Honda Civic.
I think it sounds like he still views her as a child. @StarWarsGirl , I’d seriously consider moving out at this point, not angrily, but just so he will see you as a capable adult woman.
I love my dad, but I went as far away as I could right after high school, for several reasons, not least of which is he always thought that he knew what was best for me, especially in high school and when it was time for me to decide college, majors, life plans, etc. We disagreed on all of those subjects.

He’s been a rock in my life for sure, he’s dropped everything for me several times, even when he disagreed with what I was doing, he helped me tremendously after my divorce..but I’ve had to remind him plenty of times that - while I will always be his little girl, I am still my own woman, and I want him to view me as such.
We have similar arguments over my child now.:hilarious: It never ends I guess. ;)
 
catmom46

catmom46

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
Ha! Key word- narcissist. He is such a huge one. They actually had therapy and the therapist said he was one. He takes responsibility for nothing. He blames everything on her. He bad talks about her to the kids. He is actually still living in the house!!! He thinks it is fine to do that and even suggested they should keep it that way even after the divorce is finalized!!! The whole situation is just a mess.
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I am even more sorry that he insists on prolonging the suffering by still living there. My ex also refused to move out after I had filed in June 2015, but he finally did in January 2016. That was a hugely depressing time for me, which my ex tried to use against me during our custody battle. He bullied his way with everything in regard to our daughter, insisting he could do whatever he wanted to and make up any schedule. We even had to still go on our WDW trip that summer, which for the most part was tolerable with only a few negative instances, but obviously far from ideal. Is there any way to legally get him out of the house sooner rather than later (or never)??
 
21stamps

21stamps

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catmom46 said:
I am even more sorry that he insists on prolonging the suffering by still living there. My ex also refused to move out after I had filed in June 2015, but he finally did in January 2016. That was a hugely depressing time for me, which my ex tried to use against me during our custody battle. He bullied his way with everything in regard to our daughter, insisting he could do whatever he wanted to and make up any schedule. We even had to still go on our WDW trip that summer, which for the most part was tolerable with only a few negative instances, but obviously far from ideal. Is there any way to legally get him out of the house sooner rather than later (or never)??
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I couldn’t do it. I would take my kid and move out until we straightened what to do/who gets the house in court.

I used to think prenups were bad/selfish/assuming failure etc.. but they can actually make a divorce much easier.
 
catmom46

catmom46

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21stamps said:
I couldn’t do it. I would take my kid and move out until we straightened what to do/who gets the house in court.

I used to think prenups were bad/selfish/assuming failure etc.. but they can actually make a divorce much easier.
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I totally agree on the prenup. Divorce gets so messy legally and our family law court system severely lacks in regard to holding people accountable for their behavior. Plus all the unethical lawyers doesn't help the situation either.
 
StarWarsGirl

StarWarsGirl

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21stamps said:
I don’t know about that, because if he was concerned with value, then the Buick Encore is a horrible buy compared to the Honda Civic.
I think it sounds like he still views her as a child. @StarWarsGirl , I’d seriously consider moving out at this point, not angrily, but just so he will see you as a capable adult woman.
I love my dad, but I went as far away as I could right after high school, for several reasons, not least of which is he always thought that he knew what was best for me, especially in high school and when it was time for me to decide college, majors, life plans, etc. We disagreed on all of those subjects.

He’s been a rock in my life for sure, he’s dropped everything for me several times, even when he disagreed with what I was doing, he helped me tremendously after my divorce..but I’ve had to remind him plenty of times that - while I will always be his little girl, I am still my own woman, and I want him to view me as such.
We have similar arguments over my child now.:hilarious: It never ends I guess. ;)
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I would, but I really can't right now. New car had to take priority. Plus, I'm 15 minutes from work living with them. Cannot live that close to work for very cheap at this point. The plan was to save money and buy a condo or small house nearby.

Honestly, none of this is news to me. I'm still pretty irritated, but not shocked. Surprisingly, he's actually better than he used to be. Thanks in part to the great influence known as Mom. Mom just had no influence this time.

I'll miss my mom when I move out. The cooking, the late nights watching Golden Girls, the Scrabble games, the banter...
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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catmom46 said:
I am even more sorry that he insists on prolonging the suffering by still living there. My ex also refused to move out after I had filed in June 2015, but he finally did in January 2016. That was a hugely depressing time for me, which my ex tried to use against me during our custody battle. He bullied his way with everything in regard to our daughter, insisting he could do whatever he wanted to and make up any schedule. We even had to still go on our WDW trip that summer, which for the most part was tolerable with only a few negative instances, but obviously far from ideal. Is there any way to legally get him out of the house sooner rather than later (or never)??
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It's a sad situation for her. He doesn't care. His parents even live on the other side of their backyard! She cannot stand them either. In any case you would think he would have moved back with his parents, but he doesn't get along with his mom. I think it will be good for sil to move out because of the fact that his parents aren't going to be moving. At least if her dh keeps the house, the kids won't have to change schools. At least they can have stability with the schools. Unfortunately she is not financially able to move out, pay for an apartment, and also pay to keep up with the mortgage. Wait, I just realized that your divorce is going on 3 years!! You poor woman.
 
catmom46

catmom46

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
It's a sad situation for her. He doesn't care. His parents even live on the other side of their backyard! She cannot stand them either. In any case you would think he would have moved back with his parents, but he doesn't get along with his mom. I think it will be good for sil to move out because of the fact that his parents aren't going to be moving. At least if her dh keeps the house, the kids won't have to change schools. At least they can have stability with the schools. Unfortunately she is not financially able to move out, pay for an apartment, and also pay to keep up with the mortgage. Wait, I just realized that your divorce is going on 3 years!! You poor woman.
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Yes, 3 long years. Here is the latest crazy: I reported 2 of Mr. Donkey's negative Yelp reviews as violating the content guidelines and they emailed me today that they removed them. One of them is of our daughter's previous therapist, who did everything she could to help, but couldn't deal with him and his frequent accusations and blaming. So what does he do? He writes another review today! This time he lists reasons for why he doesn't recommend her that are basically lies or his skewed perspective of what actually transpired. I reported this one as well and asked if his account can be suspended. If you want to read it, here's the link: https://www.yelp.com/biz/one-heart-counseling-center-manhattan-beach (he is Chris R.)
 
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catmom46 said:
Yes, 3 long years. Here is the latest crazy: I reported 2 of Mr. Donkey's negative Yelp reviews as violating the content guidelines and they emailed me today that they removed them. One of them is of our daughter's previous therapist, who did everything she could to help, but couldn't deal with him and his frequent accusations and blaming. So what does he do? He writes another review today! This time he lists reasons for why he doesn't recommend her that are basically lies or his skewed perspective of what actually transpired. I reported this one as well and asked if his account can be suspended. If you want to read it, here's the link: https://www.yelp.com/biz/one-heart-counseling-center-manhattan-beach (he is Chris R.)
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