My MIL is, in general, a lovely person. But she is pretty particular about her household...how things are cleaned, cooked, etc. We lived with them the first 3 years I lived here and it was very difficult for me. One the one hand, she wanted everything done her way and wouldn't even show me how to use the washing machine (all the settings were in Dutch, which I didn't speak yet) because I guess she thought it was too complicated for me to comprehend. On the other hand, she was getting angry at having to do all the laundry herself. The day she announced that I was going to have to start doing my own laundry because she couldn't keep up, I was like...THANK GOD. But she would go behind me and change the settings while my clothes were in. I always wash on cold so there's minimal shrinkage and color bleeding. She'd wait until I had the load going and went back to my room or downstairs and go turn it to hot. Same with the cooking...we offered to help cook, but no no..she couldn't let go of the reigns in the kitchen. Finally, she announced that weekends would be our responsibility to cook. Great! So we'd be cooking and she'd come through and turn up a burner when our backs were turned...suddenly my spaghetti sauce is burned to the bottom of the pan and I look at the burner and it's gone from the lowest setting to the highest...you ask her why she did that and it was "Because it wasn't boiling." It wasn't SUPPOSED to!!! She once burned the potatoes for one meal THREE times...didn't put enough water in and left them "boiling" for over an hour....came back and they were all black and stuck to the bottom of the pan. So she had to start over...and did the exact same thing. Started over again and was fixing to make the same mistake a 3rd time when DH smelled something and went and added water to it and dug out the bits that we no longer edible. I love her, but I can't work with her when it comes to cooking and cleaning. And holidays are just so stressful. Usually, when she gets on my nerves, I volunteer hubby and I to go get whatever she has inevitable forgotten at the grocery store, but on the holidays that doesn't work because the grocery store is closed. And there's no snow to shovel.